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Teacher/student relationship
How do you guys feel about teachers and students being friends. I mean discussing personal issues (not a one way thing) with eachother? I know someone who has that but is it good to confide in a teacher?
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had one of those in my school a while ago.
it did annoy some people, especially on a school trip where this girl became ill and the teacher who was extremely good friends with her was being overly caring etc i cant describe it but everyone else knew that if it was us in that situation we wouldnt have got that same amount of attention + special treatment.
it did annoy some people, especially on a school trip where this girl became ill and the teacher who was extremely good friends with her was being overly caring etc i cant describe it but everyone else knew that if it was us in that situation we wouldnt have got that same amount of attention + special treatment.
I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with it unless the student was involved in some illegal activity, in which case the teacher would probably be obliged to pass that information on. It can be really good to have the support of a mentor-type figure. 
I think it's one of em situations where she's just looking up to the teacher
Well... it's nice, I guess. I don't see anything wrong with it as long as that doesn't cause a neglect of the teacher's professional duties - it can be difficult, for example, not to be favouritist towards people you are friends with, and a teacher would find that difficult. On the other hand, the student will be friends with the other students more, and depending on the group, this may cause the first student to misbehave, which would cause all sorts of trouble.
I was really good friends with two teachers at my school, and since leaving school, we now (I'm studying for A2s now!) meet up for coffee and attend fitness classes together. I can't see that is a problem. But, if I was still at school and in classes, I can see how that could be construed as overly close for a teacher-student relationship.
I don't see why it should be "overly" close, though - it's only in today's society where every other parent suspects everyone in sight of being a paedophile that being friends with a teacher would be seen to be wrong. I think it's a good thing.
Edit: then again, carasplash, you are talking about being around 15 and being friends with a teacher. While I would have nothing against that if it was true (some of my best friends are 14-15, I'm 18), it's a lot more believable that 17- or 18-year-olds could be friends with their teachers.
Edit: then again, carasplash, you are talking about being around 15 and being friends with a teacher. While I would have nothing against that if it was true (some of my best friends are 14-15, I'm 18), it's a lot more believable that 17- or 18-year-olds could be friends with their teachers.
When i was at school there was a young female teacher and a female pupil who were friends through the pupils mother and obviously they had their in-jokes and all that but no one thought anything of it, a few years back i found out from the pupils best friend had been having a relationship since the girl was 16 and still at school, after we had left the teacher left too, apparently theyre still a couple. Just goes to show what may appear innocent may not be and what may appear strance could eb innocent.
When i was at school there was a young female teacher and a female pupil who were friends through the pupils mother and obviously they had their in-jokes and all that but no one thought anything of it, a few years back i found out from the pupils best friend had been having a relationship since the girl was 16 and still at school, after we had left the teacher left too, apparently theyre still a couple. Just goes to show what may appear innocent may not be and what may appear stange could be innocent.
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Has Hollyoaks taught you people nothing? You'll be either pregnant or a daddy before you know it!
Ha ha...or in jail!
Lol. The teachers a young woman and the students a girl. Its interesting.
I think it's a good situation to be in, it's nice to have a teacher you can be friends with. I have a teacher like that, it's great, there's like 3 of us who get on really well with her and can talk to her about anything, and go out together outside of school. It is kinda random when your teacher's talking to you about her husband and baby and everything and sometimes you are like, 'Way too much information there miss!' But at the same time it's nice she considers us people she can talk to like that, and it's cool having a natter with her about lads and a good gossip lol!
I think you always have that boundary there though, probably until quite a while after you've left school, and you won't tell them all the things you might tell your mates. However, with my teacher, I can talk to her about stuff I won't talk to anyone else about because I know she'll give good advice. It's up to the individual really. I think it's helpful to have a relationship like that with a teacher, it's really nice to be friends with them.
I think you always have that boundary there though, probably until quite a while after you've left school, and you won't tell them all the things you might tell your mates. However, with my teacher, I can talk to her about stuff I won't talk to anyone else about because I know she'll give good advice. It's up to the individual really. I think it's helpful to have a relationship like that with a teacher, it's really nice to be friends with them.
Often if you have a personal issue or are upset, a teacher whom you trust is could be a good person to turn to. However it should never be the other way, ie if the teacher has a problem... he she has no right to introduce it to any student. You just have to be very careful about the relationship between you, keep it strictly teacher student! Dont forget a teachers job could go on the line very easily, ie he/she must not abuse a position of trust!
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