My boyfriend says he stopped loving me.

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Ive been with my boyfriend about 4 months now. We're in a Long Distance relationship which had never been an issue. In fact I didn't know there had been issues; I'm quite upfront with my feelings, I found out he isn't. So last night we argued about something and he ended it.

This huge tirade came out that he'd been unhappy for alot of it, i'd apparently done things that upset/annoyed him etc, but he never told me any of them and expected me to know and make them better. Now today he's told me he doesn't love me anymore and that it changed in a matter of seconds.

I'm trying everything I can but its just weird he claims to have stopped loving me when I thought everything was totally fine?
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That isn't love. <3
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It's harder because you're not there..
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Maybe he can't take a long distance relationship and got feelings for someone closer? I hope that doesn't sound rude 🙈
But I imagine maintaining a long distance relationship is hard especially at a young age.

Or maybe he's just really bad with exposing his emotions and just expects you to know how he feels.

But at the end of the day you can't force someone to love you. I say move on and forget him. He obviously isn't worth wasting time on! Like they say there's more fish in the sea maybe even someone close by
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The outcome would have been very different here had he just told you how he felt. Sounds like he's repressed a lot of concerns and that's just turned in to resentment towards you. I don't think it's worth giving up- have a frank discussion. Although the fact that he's willing to give up like this may say something about his commitment to you.
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If you're having problems this early on then it's not going to work out, he cleary can't handle a long-distance relationship (and to be honest most people can't). I might sound blunt but OP I think you should find someone more suited and deserving, who either lives closer to you or is capable of sticking through a long-distance relationship. Regards
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Kiddo, on behalf of men: he comes across as a jerk and an idiot.

You might be able to talk sense into him but I wouldn't get your hopes up

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If you're having issues maintaining a relationship 4 months into the relationship, I think it is wise to just cut it off. Long distance is workable if you see the person on a semi regular basis, this re-instates what you guys like about each others, and fuels the relationship. If you just Skype/Facetime/Chat, its going to get OLD QUICK.

The odds are he has perhaps maybe developed feeling for someone else, closer, and now feels this relationship is worn out. I've know people who've been in a relationship for 2 years, separate for a few months due to work, and somehow realised that the foundation of their relationship was familiarity, which is a TERRIBLE reason to be together.

Your 4 month fling is not worthy to service a distance longer then perhaps across town, I am sorry to say.
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He didn't love you in the first place.

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