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how to make friends?

not sure if this is in the right place but

im a 24 year old guy

Since I left secondary school I haven't had any real friends and I've enjoyed my own company for a few years but at times I feel I need friends but I'm not sure how to go about it. I'm about to finish uni and I still don't have any real friends. Is this odd?

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Original post by Anonymous
not sure if this is in the right place but

im a 24 year old guy

Since I left secondary school I haven't had any real friends and I've enjoyed my own company for a few years but at times I feel I need friends but I'm not sure how to go about it. I'm about to finish uni and I still don't have any real friends. Is this odd?


So you haven't got a single friend? Who do you usually spend your time with?

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Try find some groups or clubs with your interests, that'd be a good way to start :smile:
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Original post by TheUnknownDude
So you haven't got a single friend? Who do you usually spend your time with?

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I have no social life.

I'm usually either with family or by myself
To be straight with you. Finishing uni with no friends is odd.

Only three reasons why someone would have no friends.

1. They decide there is no time in their life for people and consciously cut them out
2. They are not insecure/not confident and thus feel they have no value to offer anyone and withdraw from social interactions.
3. They are a horrendous person personality wise.

I'm guessing you're a (mild/medium) 2. so therefore I would say fix yo're insecurities and build your self-confidence and you'll be attracting people into your life like no mans business.
Reply 5
Original post by somemightsay888
Try find some groups or clubs with your interests, that'd be a good way to start :smile:


easier said than done :frown:
Original post by Anonymous
easier said than done :frown:


Meetup.com etc are easy ways to build some confidence in yourself and just generally socialise. How about family too, people forget that
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
not sure if this is in the right place but

im a 24 year old guy

Since I left secondary school I haven't had any real friends and I've enjoyed my own company for a few years but at times I feel I need friends but I'm not sure how to go about it. I'm about to finish uni and I still don't have any real friends. Is this odd?


Original post by Anonymous
not sure if this is in the right place but

im a 24 year old guy

Since I left secondary school I haven't had any real friends and I've enjoyed my own company for a few years but at times I feel I need friends but I'm not sure how to go about it. I'm about to finish uni and I still don't have any real friends. Is this odd?



The easiest way would be to join a club e.g sports, cycling, yoga or any other club and start from there.
Reply 8
Original post by QueenAryela
To be straight with you. Finishing uni with no friends is odd.

Only three reasons why someone would have no friends.

1. They decide there is no time in their life for people and consciously cut them out
2. They are not insecure/not confident and thus feel they have no value to offer anyone and withdraw from social interactions.
3. They are a horrendous person personality wise.

I'm guessing you're a (mild/medium) 2. so therefore I would say fix yo're insecurities and build your self-confidence and you'll be attracting people into your life like no mans business.


Nail on the head. I did plan on using this summer to gain more self-confidence but its easier said than done. I'll give it a go though
Original post by Anonymous
I have no social life.

I'm usually either with family or by myself


Ahhh I'll be your friend then :five:

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Reply 10
What do you class a 'real friend' ?

Do you have phone numebrs from people at uni ?

Approaching course mates at university with a nice smile asking them stuff is always going to help.
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Original post by Anonymous
not sure if this is in the right place but

im a 24 year old guy

Since I left secondary school I haven't had any real friends and I've enjoyed my own company for a few years but at times I feel I need friends but I'm not sure how to go about it. I'm about to finish uni and I still don't have any real friends. Is this odd?
Aww, I'll be your friend :console: I don't exactly have many people who I'd class as friends myself :erm: Anyway there's a TSR meetup planned next month, you're free to come if you want? You can message me if you wanna know more :smile:
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Original post by Anonymous
not sure if this is in the right place but

im a 24 year old guy

Since I left secondary school I haven't had any real friends and I've enjoyed my own company for a few years but at times I feel I need friends but I'm not sure how to go about it. I'm about to finish uni and I still don't have any real friends. Is this odd?


I don't see it as odd, im like that as well. Before i got my current job i think i could have counted the people who knew my name on one hand :h:

QueenAryela seemed to get it right there, but actually putting what she said into practice, now thats a whole different story and if you figure that out, tell me how :smile:
Get drunk, hit the club and dance with hot chicks.
Reply 14
you need to pick the friends cues when you get the chance

make sure u dont miss them else you'll end up with the bad ending and have to restart

also dont bother maxing all ur social links, just stick with chie, kanji, yukiko and rise.
Reply 15
Im autistic so people mostly avoid me as they think im either stuck up or weird. My social skills are mega crap. I enjoy my own company and need time to myself to unwind as college can be over powering at times due to so many pple there and noise. However i would love to make some mates, its not nice being lonely all the time.
Original post by mjrd
Im autistic so people mostly avoid me as they think im either stuck up or weird. My social skills are mega crap. I enjoy my own company and need time to myself to unwind as college can be over powering at times due to so many pple there and noise. However i would love to make some mates, its not nice being lonely all the time.


A lot of people claim they are autistic, have social anxiety...

You need to step out of the comfort zone and talk to people.

You're not the only one feeling lonely, just take the effort to strike a conversation, and talk about whatever. Studies, local events, college gossip, it doesn't matter.

You'll find soon there are plenty like-minded people and you can make acquiantances in no time.
Reply 17
I am diagnosed autistic but i talk to people all the time but they dont end up as mates. I have no anxiety issues. I push myself out of comfort zone lots, well my mum pushes me lol, i do voluntary work, i have done bronze and silver duke of ed and im a master scuba diver. I was in bottom set throughout school but refussed to let teachers tell me im a waste of space, i passed my gcses and now doing A levels. Problem for me is that i would like to have mates i can see now and again, no nightclubs, pubs or boys, most of the girls in my small welsh town are only interested in those things. I will keep trying
Original post by TheUnknownDude
Ahhh I'll be your friend then :five:

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haha :smile:
Original post by Rovey
What do you class a 'real friend' ?

Do you have phone numebrs from people at uni ?

Approaching course mates at university with a nice smile asking them stuff is always going to help.


Someone I can talk to, same interests as me etc

Yeh I have peoples phone numbers but I wouldn't class them as friends. When we're at uni we talk but outside uni everyone does their own thing

Past few years I've never been able to hold down a friendship or even meet someone I can connect to like that.

It's either a relationship or nothing else so far

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