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Should I be concerned?

I can't actually remember how we ended up talking about this but I used the word STD in a conversation with my boyfriend. He then asked me what that meant. I told him it meant Sexually Transmitted Disease and he went on to ask what that was. Shocked, I asked him did he not do Sex Ed at school and he said no he missed it all because he always skipped school. I mentioned Chlamydia and Gonorrhea and he looked at me as if he had no idea what I was talking about and only really understood what I meant when I said HIV at which point he changed the subject. Should I be concerned about this or is it not that much of a big deal? :confused:

Reply 1

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3

Hes either a moron or hes winding you up. :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Well he wasn't winding me up. :smile:

Reply 3

Trigger

18

go to the drs and get him some leaflets then ask him about his sexual history. i find it VERY hard to believe that he has no idea

Reply 4

*Joanna*

12

As long as you don't have unprotected sex I wouldn't worry too much- maybe try to tactfully tell him so he's aware of the risks. If you have had unprotected sex, get yourself tested pronto!

Reply 5

Misogynist

18

I'd be concerned about the fact that he knows nothing about STD's and due to this could probably have one.

Reply 6

Banana Blossom

That's pretty weird...I mean surely he must have heard SOME terms come up in conversation through the years! What age is he?

Reply 7

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Anonymous

Well he wasn't winding me up. :smile:

See above.

Reply 8

Misogynist

18

And there's no way he hasn't heard of the word STD before (Unless he's on the new term; STI)

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Trigger

go to the drs and get him some leaflets then ask him about his sexual history. i find it VERY hard to believe that he has no idea

The thing is, I was at the doctors before Christmas to see about going on the Pill and she gave me the number of the local GUM clinic and advised that me and my bf go and get checked out. When I told him though he just said "Well you can just chuck that out, I'm not going to some clinic".

But yes, we have had unprotected sex but to be totally honest (and I don't want to make myself look bad) but I'm probably just as at risk of having something as I have had unprotected sex before. I know it is extremely stupid but people do stupid things.

I remember talking to his cousin one day though and she said that she doesn't think he knows much about girls and sex because he has asked her questions about sex before and she was shocked that he didn't know. To be honest, I think I've probably taught him a lot of what he knows.

Reply 10

Misogynist

18

Anonymous

The thing is, I was at the doctors before Christmas to see about going on the Pill and she gave me the number of the local GUM clinic and advised that me and my bf go and get checked out. When I told him though he just said "Well you can just chuck that out, I'm not going to some clinic".

But yes, we have had unprotected sex but to be totally honest (and I don't want to make myself look bad) but I'm probably just as at risk of having something as I have had unprotected sex before. I know it is extremely stupid but people do stupid things.

I remember talking to his cousin one day though and she said that she doesn't think he knows much about girls and sex because he has asked her questions about sex before and she was shocked that he didn't know. To be honest, I think I've probably taught him a lot of what he knows.

Is your boyfriend human or a plank of wood?

Reply 11

Trigger

18

Oh dear. dear oh dear oh dear. The clap beckons. If he doesnt get tested chuck him he obviously cares as much about your sexual health as you do. :rolleyes:

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

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Cocoa koneko

That's pretty weird...I mean surely he must have heard SOME terms come up in conversation through the years! What age is he?

He's 17. Like I said he knows about HIV and he knows that turns into AIDS and he knows that it's possible to catch stuff if you have unprotected sex with different people but this conversation just concerned me because he had no proper idea about it.

Reply 13

Banana Blossom

well if he's taking most of his cue about this sort of thing from you I would suggest trying to change his attitude a bit more! "I'm not going to some clinic" would definitely worry me if I was his girlfriend!!!

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

My god what is it with people having unprotected sex lately.

Reply 15

Trigger

18

and slimming pills :rolleyes:

Reply 16

Jelkin

17

It actually worries me more that you DID know about this stuff yet have had unprotected sex with multiple partners. It's bad enough to catch something yourself, but to knowingly put your boyfriend at risk of catching something is pretty terrible. Both get to a clinic. Really. If he had no experience of girls before you then I guess you could go first and, if you're clear, he should be.

Reply 17

username47781

20

Yes it's more concerning that you still had unprotected sex, you are a very silly girl putting yourself at unnecessary risk.

Reply 18

hanadeka2002

God he sounds like an ignorant moron. Someone who takes such an attitude towards their sexual health (eg. 'I'm not going to a clinic') should be steered well clear of.

If you've had unprotected sex with him I suggest you go and get yourself checked out. And if you must have sex with him in future, use a condom!

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