I wanna be less shallow again, like my former self

Hello.

I'm a fairly prominent member on here hence the anon. Anyway a couple of weeks ago we went through the whole personality thing and I discovered mine's changed over the past few years :/

I used to be this innocent, sweet person who cared about animals, was smart and liked school-work (made me feel smarter :cool:

).

Ever since I've started modeling, I've become kind of shallow person, and I never used to be like this! Even my frients noticed and I hate to say it, but I think I have changed a bit :s-smilie:

I wanna go back to my former self! When I used to NOT rely on my looks, but my brains and personality, and to be a kinda person.

Help me :biggrin:

lol. x

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

Also I like helping people, I just got all aware of appearances and stuff when I got into this shallow industry/become insecure etc cheers.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Hmmm!

Anyone? lol.

Reply 3

ph9

10

hmm well

i think a lot of us are this way

i want to say it's a bit normal for a growing teen... it's sort of true... i don't think there are methods to make you go back to your old ways to be honest.

perhaps you realising this and wanting to change is a vague but good first step?

Reply 4

K.T.

12

From your 2nd post, it seems like you changed when you got into modelling. Since personality is, at least partially, affected by enviroment... It suggets you should get out of modelling (though you probably won't want to).
Anyways, it's debatable whether you can ever 'go back'. People change and develop all the time, so even if you did leave the business, you'd still have some influences from your time there. Nevertheless, they would probably fade over time, especially if you conciously wanted to change them.

Reply 5

darkos87

1

Take some more time for your friends and things you truly like apart from modelling. Helps to put everything in perspective

Reply 6

C00kies

Being a better person, and being the person you want to be requires continuously looking at your behaviour and deciding if it's how you want to behave and changing it to fit with your moral standards. Have a good think about what you want to be like. And start wokring towards it everyday.

Reply 7

envious

Are you sure that you've really changed that much? :confused:

I think it's quite common to have nostalgia about the past and to imagine that you were some how a better person doing better things etc. Also, becoming aware of physical appearance is part of maturing. Obviously you can't let it dominate your life, but equally we are all human and looks do play a large role in everybody's lives.

It seems to me you must still deep downbe the same caring person as the concern you seem to express about losing this part of you shows that you must retain some of this element. Don't give yourself too much of a hard time. Modelling is a challenging field to work in and of course you will have to adapt yourself to cope in the tough environment but as long as you keep your caring side as an integral part of who you are things should be ok. :biggrin:

Reply 8

Caribou

1

If you work in a notoriously shallow industry I think it would be reasonalbe to assume, that you too would become shallow.

Reply 9

Spig

Anonymous

Hello.

I'm a fairly prominent member on here hence the anon. Anyway a couple of weeks ago we went through the whole personality thing and I discovered mine's changed over the past few years :/

I used to be this innocent, sweet person who cared about animals, was smart and liked school-work (made me feel smarter :cool:

).

Ever since I've started modeling, I've become kind of shallow person, and I never used to be like this! Even my frients noticed and I hate to say it, but I think I have changed a bit :s-smilie:

I wanna go back to my former self! When I used to NOT rely on my looks, but my brains and personality, and to be a kinda person.

Help me :biggrin:

lol. x

I think I may be able to guess who you are from this, but never mind.

There's no way of suddenly becoming 'deep'. If you're modelling you're probably mixing with a lot of shallow people which exacerbates the problem.

The fact that you recognise that you're shallow indicates to me that you're actually nowhere near as shallow as you think you are. Truly shallow people never have this level of self-awareness.

The following will sound super cheesy, but bear with me. Vounteering to help those with real problems definately gives you a more grounded perspective. My friend helped in a burns victim unit- something like that would be perfect for you as it would show you the fragility of external beauty, (ie. one tragic house-fire and your conventional beauty could be gone), and really make you see what those who are now less fortunate looks-wise have to go through.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

Spig

I think I may be able to guess who you are from this, but never mind.

There's no way of suddenly becoming 'deep'. If you're modelling you're probably mixing with a lot of shallow people which exacerbates the problem.

The fact that you recognise that you're shallow indicates to me that you're actually nowhere near as shallow as you think you are. Truly shallow people never have this level of self-awareness.

The following will sound super cheesy, but bear with me. Vounteering to help those with real problems definately gives you a more grounded perspective. My friend helped in a burns victim unit- something like that would be perfect for you as it would show you the fragility of external beauty, (ie. one tragic house-fire and your conventional beauty could be gone), and really make you see what those who are now less fortunate looks-wise have to go through.

Hey TSR, thanks for your advice, I'm taking a lot the advice here on board :cool:

Particularly favoured cookies post, yeah it defo takes constant change and being aware of what I'm doing. Like last night, at this party instead of the usual chat about clothes and makeup, I put effort into talking about deep world issues like the environment and world events. :cool:

I felt smart :biggrin:

As for volunteering, I helped out at Christmas with The Salvations Army, but I would like to do more, so that was a good suggestion x x

Reply 11

Misogynist

18

I think I know you you are too, and you're not shallow at all.

Reply 12

theonehitwonder

2

Sadly, the world around us helps to shape the person that we become. You realise that you want to change, but the only way that can happen is if you initiate the change yourself. However, change is only worthwhile if it makes you feel better.

PS - g'day. :p:

Reply 13

Everdawn2

Anonymous

Hello.

I'm a fairly prominent member on here hence the anon. Anyway a couple of weeks ago we went through the whole personality thing and I discovered mine's changed over the past few years :/

I used to be this innocent, sweet person who cared about animals, was smart and liked school-work (made me feel smarter :cool:

).

Ever since I've started modeling, I've become kind of shallow person, and I never used to be like this! Even my frients noticed and I hate to say it, but I think I have changed a bit :s-smilie:

I wanna go back to my former self! When I used to NOT rely on my looks, but my brains and personality, and to be a kinda person.

Help me :biggrin:

lol. x

lol, im the same...but i still care about animals. Its not like i intend to be mean about people in my own head it just happens. Im not too worried becuase its not horribly bad, just spiratic. And its not hurting anyone becuase i stick to the, if you cant say anythign nice rule. :smile:

Reply 14

sparkly_tiara

2

Well if you want to do more voluntary work then perhaps drop the modelling? You seem to have already identified modelling as being the factor that has made you shallow so why not eradicate it from your life? If you are surrounded by people who are only interested in your appearance then yes, it is bound to consume you too. There is only so much time in the day to achieve things in, perhaps modelling is holding you back. It appears to be a big part of your life (if you are who i think you are), as a lot of your posts mention it. At the end of the day, you need to work out what is more important.

Reply 15

white_haired_wizard

16

it's obvious who you are :biggrin:

the disguise, pretty poor spelling etc....was rather transparent!

Maybe you're not shallow at all, your friends have said you've changed and become shallow?? Maybe you had an argument and one of them came out with some stuff he/she/they didn't mean, or perhaps they have a point and your feet have left the ground. Maybe take this as a reality check of kinds?

I wanna be less shallow again, like my former self

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