This is a disturbing relationship

All I can say is that this man is horrible, he broke up with his wife of 20 years to run off with a girl who was 15 at the time and he is 47. He was even jailed for the affair, then when he comes back they immediately get back together. His children won't talk to him, they are teenagers and one of them even called his father scum for what he did. Sounds sick really that he's left his wife for someone that is about the same age as his own children.

How these type of relationships can work is a mystery, because it is surely impossible to keep it up like this, few people i've known who have run off with men like 30 years older, it has always ended in tears. Surely this relationship though is sickening and disgusting, oh and madly in love, oh yeah right. Article below

A Duke of Edinburgh's award instructor jailed for seducing a 15-year-old pupil is planning to marry the teenager just months after being released from prison.

Paul Campbell began an affair with Fay Jones soon after meeting the schoolgirl on a Duke of Edinburgh awards scheme.

Despite a 31-year age gap the married father-of-two refused to stop seeing her. When their relationship was discovered they fled to the Lake District.

Campbell, who has two teenage sons, was arrested by police and sentenced to 15 months in prison after pleading guilty to child abduction.

Unrepentant he served just half of his jail term before being released in May last year to search for Miss Jones who had turned 16 and was still in love. The 47-year-old, who has since lost his job and been disowned by his family and friends, said the couple were now planning to get married and had already discussed starting a family.

"We fell in love, that's all there is to it," he said. "I know there are men out there who prey on young women. Sadly, I met them in prison. But I am not like that. Our circumstances are very different. "We are madly in love and that love has stood up to the ultimate test - my spell in prison. I have served time for her and we both survived it. Now we just want to get on with our lives."

Miss Jones, who is going back to college to study for GCSEs in English and Maths, said her parents have not spoken to her since June last year when she set up home with Mr Campbell in Holme, Lancashire.

She, too, remains defiant and last night insisted: "I'm happier than ever to be with Paul. I just wish everyone else would understand how I feel and be happy for me. "I've tried to contact my parents to talk about things. I've sent them letters and made phone calls. But they don't want to know."

Campbell, who is now being divorced by his wife Valerie after almost 20 years of marriage, met Miss Jones in March 2005 when her school visited the Lake District resort where he worked as part of the Duke of Edinburgh awards scheme.

"The first time we met I was talking to the children in the school hall," said Campbell. "As I scanned across the room I saw Fay and thought 'Wow, she's a bonny lass'.

"For the rest of the day I couldn't get the image of this blonde girl out of my head."

The relationship grew and before she returned to her parents in Barnsley, South Yorkshire, he gave her a mobile phone to keep in contact with him. By December the girl's parents, now aware of the relationship, reported Campbell to the police and he was subsequently questioned.

He agreed to end the relationship but when Miss Jones pleaded with him to take her away in January last year he picked her up from school and the couple drove to a hotel in Windemere where they booked into a double room.

Amid a massive police search Campbell fled to Scotland but was stopped by officers who found the girl's bus pass in his car. He then led them back to the hotel in Cumbria and was charged with child abduction. He denied having sex with the girl.

Campbell appeared before Sheffield Crown Court a month later and was condemned by a judge for breaching the girl's trust. He was jailed and also banned from working with children although his sentence was cut to just eight months during an appeal hearing at the High Court last May.

Upon his release he returned to Cumbria and sent a note to Miss Jones with his new mobile phone number. She soon got in contact.

"I told her I loved her and had never stopped loving her," he said. "I had begun to fall in love with her at the back end of 2005, but this was the first time I had told her.

"I moved back to Yorkshire to be close to her. Fay told her parents that she loved me and we decided to move to Cumbria in June last year. I've tried to build bridges with her parents, but they wish I was dead. "The last time I heard from my children was a letter from my eldest son. He told me I was scum and if I ever went near him again he would kill me. They have no idea how much I miss them and it hurts me to know they don't have a dad anymore, but that's their choice. "I have no regrets. We know we have upset a lot of people, but there are no rules as to who you fall in love with," Campbell said yesterday.

The couple are now working together for a catalogue company and hope to marry within the next 12 months.

Reply 1

Absinthe

1

Love is blind I suppose...but that is fairly disgusting. Why can't people use some logic?

Reply 2

person 34

9

People can't seem to distinguish between love and priorities.

Reply 3

Ywiss

15

The thing is, if eventually they find that they're not right for each other after all, it's going to be even more painful than it would otherwise have been, because they'll have all these people saying, "Ah, it was never going to work anyway," and "Serves them right," and everything, and they've estranged themselves from both of their respective families. So if it doesn't work it'll have all been for nothing. So the chances are that, even if they are unhappy, they'll stay together just because...they sort of have to.

Reply 4

Sithius

16

Carl why make such a thread? Who cares... leave them be. Hardly your family.

Reply 5

Fluent in Lies

2

Way too much writing.

Ew.

Absinthe

Love is blind I suppose...but that is fairly disgusting. Why can't people use some logic?

Love and logic only destroys feelings. Yes logic keeps the relationship together and lets things flow, but emotion is what love is all about. Emotion is what causes these feelings.

Reply 8

bubu

If she leaves him for a younger person it will be his own fault :smile:

and i hope his wife will laugh at it :biggrin:

Reply 9

username81886

1

Ok

1. I couldn't be bothered to read that
2. Their business
3. I thought you left

tldr

Interesting stuff - at least when she is 60 he will be dead, lol. Its disgusting he took advantage of an underage girl, he had sex with a child. I don't condone affairs, in this case this has destroyed the family :frown:

Reply 12

Dark and Lovely

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Angel83

Interesting stuff - at least when she is 60 he will be dead, lol. Its disgusting he took advantage of an underage girl, he had sex with a child. I don't condone affairs, in this case this has destroyed the family :frown:

LOL blunt but true!

Reply 13

quadruple_twist

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chocolateflake99

tldr

IAWTC

Reply 14

Angelil

19

I think to say he took advantage of her is wrong. Many girls look older than they are for a start and I think teenagers can be very certain of what they feel - if they want something enough they'll go out and get it. I think it's wrong to paint her as an innocent child who was taken advantage of when she probably knew full well what she wanted.

Reply 15

L i b

19

He shouldn't have had sex with her, but aside from that I can't fault him. You can't pick who you fall in love with, and I am quite willing to believe it is possible in this case despite the age gap.

Reply 16

Angelil

19

Plenty of people's marriages break up when the two people concerned are of similar age, so it seems narrow-minded to assume that this relationship will automatically fail because of the ages of the individuals.