Moral/General dilemma.

Well, where to start...

I met this girl at a bar on new years, we hit it off pretty well and everything. Then 2 days later she gives me a call asking to meet up, I met up with her and we had a really good time, we started having a bit of a jokey flirt sometimes but nothing to get concerned about. Anyway, we'd spent so much time together in the last 2 weeks and started getting pretty close. I should probably mention at this point that I have a girlfriend, but we've been arguing a bit recently. Last night we went out and ended up kissing and stuff and since then I've kinda realised how amazing she is, she's said to me she's interested but that she's sorry for putting me in the position I'm in but I really don't know what to do. I really like her but I don't know if its right to just dump my girlfriend on a whim for her.

Any opinions? Thanks.

Reply 1

RealityIsDull

13

does this girl know you have a g.friend?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Yeah she does, that's why she said sorry for putting me into the positions I'm in.

Reply 3

Citation

If you even have to contemplate it's just a "whim" then you really need to think hard about who's more important to you. How long have you being going out with your girlfriend?

Arguments are not solid ground to base a split upon (unless they're sever of course). It just shows that you need to work on your relationship and if you care that much about her you will work on that relationship to make it work. Sadly there are far too many people who don't like things when they get difficult so they give up, Don't!

Spend some time with your girlfriend instead of this other girl for a little while. Try re-kindle that love you once had. If it doesn't work, try find out why. It could be stress, or at your age, just a lack of relational values. If you really TRULY think that you are your girlfriend are over, and let your heart, not your mind tell you this, then I'm afraid it may be time to call it a day :frown:

Then, see how things go with this other girl. But don't just jump from one to another just because you can.

Hope thats of some help.

Good luck and keep smiling. :smile:

Reply 4

generalebriety

16

Of course it's ok to split up with your girlfriend if you think things aren't going well... don't stay with her simply to spare her feelings. But then again, don't split up with her just for the chance that you'll grow to like this other girl more than her - don't forget that, no matter how far away that may seem now, there was probably a time when you and your current girlfriend felt like this.

Can you imagine yourself living without one of them? If not, I think it's best just to accept you and this other girl should stay friends.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

generalebriety

Of course it's ok to split up with your girlfriend if you think things aren't going well... don't stay with her simply to spare her feelings. But then again, don't split up with her just for the chance that you'll grow to like this other girl more than her - don't forget that, no matter how far away that may seem now, there was probably a time when you and your current girlfriend felt like this.

Can you imagine yourself living without one of them? If not, I think it's best just to accept you and this other girl should stay friends.

I'm just not sure, I've never really felt this way about anyone before, constantly thinking about her, I feel like I'm betraying my current girlfriend (even without the kissing...).

Should I just tell my girlfriend about what happened and see what comes of it? I'm not going to keep any secrets from her anyway so I'd have to tell her sometime.

I can't really say I can imagine living without them, but to be honest I enjoy her company more than my girlfriends, as we've so much in common it's unreal.

Thanks for helping me make up my mind :smile:

Reply 6

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

I'm just not sure, I've never really felt this way about anyone before, constantly thinking about her, I feel like I'm betraying my current girlfriend (even without the kissing...).

Should I just tell my girlfriend about what happened and see what comes of it? I'm not going to keep any secrets from her anyway so I'd have to tell her sometime.

I can't really say I can imagine living without them, but to be honest I enjoy her company more than my girlfriends, as we've so much in common it's unreal.

Thanks for helping me make up my mind :smile:

Well - technically it is cheating, so you are betraying your girlfriend, but that's all the more reason to break up with her if you think it's serious. I'm not sure I can make your mind up for you. You've known this girl two weeks and your girlfriend... how long? Don't rush into things. But then if you've only been going out with your girlfriend a few weeks and things are already turning nasty, it's a bad sign.

I wouldn't like to tell you what to do, especially with such little information. :smile:

It's up to you - you know the situation better than all of us.

Reply 7

bunthulhu

14

Well clearly this other girl isn't sorry for the situation she's putting you in or she'd back off :rolleyes:

You should tell your girlfriend that you've cheated on her. You should say you're feeling unhappy with the relationship as you've been arguing. It's not an excuse, but it'll give your girlfriend a chance to save the relationship if she wants to.

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