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Getting in a stranger's car, why am I so naive?
I was looking to go to some place for the first time, I didn't know the directions. So I asked some guy in a shop, a guy went up to me and told me where it was, I went out the shop and walked to where he pointed. As I was walking, he called me back, and said he though I was driving, and asked if I wanted a lift. I for whatever reason said yes, it only took a few minutes and I got off.
I got home, told me mum and then realised how dangerous it was. Being 22, I feel very embarrased, luckily nothing happened. He was a very nice guy tho.
I would of though noone would ever of done that? I definetly won't take the shortcut. It was in the middle of the night, I am still feeling very bad about it.
I got home, told me mum and then realised how dangerous it was. Being 22, I feel very embarrased, luckily nothing happened. He was a very nice guy tho.
I would of though noone would ever of done that? I definetly won't take the shortcut. It was in the middle of the night, I am still feeling very bad about it.
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I was looking to go to some place for the first time, I didn't know the directions. So I asked some guy in a shop, a guy went up to me and told me where it was, I went out the shop and walked to where he pointed. As I was walking, he called me back, and said he though I was driving, and asked if I wanted a lift. I for whatever reason said yes, it only took a few minutes and I got off.
I got home, told me mum and then realised how dangerous it was. Being 22, I feel very embarrased, luckily nothing happened. He was a very nice guy tho.
I would of though noone would ever of done that? I definetly won't take the shortcut. It was in the middle of the night, I am still feeling very bad about it.
I got home, told me mum and then realised how dangerous it was. Being 22, I feel very embarrased, luckily nothing happened. He was a very nice guy tho.
I would of though noone would ever of done that? I definetly won't take the shortcut. It was in the middle of the night, I am still feeling very bad about it.
your lucky he was a genuinly nice person, i would dread to think what could of happened otherwise, especially at night, young female on her own=vulnerable (im assuming your female btw)
I thought this was going to be one of those 'omg i got into a car wif a horny jackass teen' thread but am pleased that it isn't.
It could've been dangerous, yes. However, some people are quite nice and will help someone who is in need.
It could've been dangerous, yes. However, some people are quite nice and will help someone who is in need.
AJ
your lucky he was a genuinly nice person, i would dread to think what could of happened otherwise, especially at night, young female on her own=vulnerable (im assuming your female btw)
I am a male, doesn't make no differences I guess
the 'risk' here is so amazingly inflated it's unbelievable.
Believe it or not, the large majority of the population are not rapists, murders, stalkers, peadophiles or just general creeps. This extends to the large majority of car owners, and then the large majority of people offering lifts, even to strangers.
I understand the media does a lot of encourage this kind of fear, but this really wasn't that bad at all. Of course there was an element of risk here, but there is risk in everything. Crossing the road, being in any car ever, etc etc etc.
/rant.
Believe it or not, the large majority of the population are not rapists, murders, stalkers, peadophiles or just general creeps. This extends to the large majority of car owners, and then the large majority of people offering lifts, even to strangers.
I understand the media does a lot of encourage this kind of fear, but this really wasn't that bad at all. Of course there was an element of risk here, but there is risk in everything. Crossing the road, being in any car ever, etc etc etc.
/rant.
HenvY
Believe it or not, the large majority of the population are not rapists, murders, stalkers, peadophiles or just general creeps. This extends to the large majority of car owners, and then the large majority of people offering lifts, even to strangers.
HenvY
the 'risk' here is so amazingly inflated it's unbelievable.
Believe it or not, the large majority of the population are not rapists, murders, stalkers, peadophiles or just general creeps. This extends to the large majority of car owners, and then the large majority of people offering lifts, even to strangers.
I understand the media does a lot of encourage this kind of fear, but this really wasn't that bad at all. Of course there was an element of risk here, but there is risk in everything. Crossing the road, being in any car ever, etc etc etc.
/rant.
Believe it or not, the large majority of the population are not rapists, murders, stalkers, peadophiles or just general creeps. This extends to the large majority of car owners, and then the large majority of people offering lifts, even to strangers.
I understand the media does a lot of encourage this kind of fear, but this really wasn't that bad at all. Of course there was an element of risk here, but there is risk in everything. Crossing the road, being in any car ever, etc etc etc.
/rant.
Unlike the above; it isn't a risk you can gauge, nor one worth taking. Don't be so facile.
HenvY
the 'risk' here is so amazingly inflated it's unbelievable.
Believe it or not, the large majority of the population are not rapists, murders, stalkers, peadophiles or just general creeps. This extends to the large majority of car owners, and then the large majority of people offering lifts, even to strangers.
I understand the media does a lot of encourage this kind of fear, but this really wasn't that bad at all. Of course there was an element of risk here, but there is risk in everything. Crossing the road, being in any car ever, etc etc etc.
/rant.
Believe it or not, the large majority of the population are not rapists, murders, stalkers, peadophiles or just general creeps. This extends to the large majority of car owners, and then the large majority of people offering lifts, even to strangers.
I understand the media does a lot of encourage this kind of fear, but this really wasn't that bad at all. Of course there was an element of risk here, but there is risk in everything. Crossing the road, being in any car ever, etc etc etc.
/rant.
Yes the proportion of rapists/ muderers ect is low in comparison to the general population. But what about if you just happen to be the unlucky person who ends up in the same place as someone looking for a victim?? the risk factor suddenly shoots right up. Getting in a car with them well now the risk factors shot through the roof.
The fact is your safety is reliant on how well you can judge what someones intentions are, without at least knowing anything about them then how can you make a judgement
The fact is there are oppurtunists who would take advantage of a young woman being alone with them in their car. Whether they be rapists..whatever..
You could argue that something in his body language made her trust him, but I think the risk is too high to take.
By getting into his car she was entering a private, space owned by the driver. If he had tried anything what would she have done?? Unless shes strong and can fight him off then she would have been completely at his mercy.
Do you have a sister, girlfiend? Would you mind them getting a lift from a friendly stranger offering to take them home?
HenvY
the 'risk' here is so amazingly inflated it's unbelievable.
Believe it or not, the large majority of the population are not rapists, murders, stalkers, peadophiles or just general creeps. This extends to the large majority of car owners, and then the large majority of people offering lifts, even to strangers.
I understand the media does a lot of encourage this kind of fear, but this really wasn't that bad at all. Of course there was an element of risk here, but there is risk in everything. Crossing the road, being in any car ever, etc etc etc.
/rant.
Believe it or not, the large majority of the population are not rapists, murders, stalkers, peadophiles or just general creeps. This extends to the large majority of car owners, and then the large majority of people offering lifts, even to strangers.
I understand the media does a lot of encourage this kind of fear, but this really wasn't that bad at all. Of course there was an element of risk here, but there is risk in everything. Crossing the road, being in any car ever, etc etc etc.
/rant.
I agree i don't think it is healthy to assume that every person is immoral and a threat. Nor should you assume that every person is morally righteous. I think people are capable of perceiving, in the vast majority of circumstances, whether a person is genuine or not. I don't find a life of perpetual fear (which is what the media is seemingly intending for us all) particularly appealing.
The media and politicians portray terrorism as a major threat/problem (which in the face of global poverty seems almost insignificant, but whatever) , and the majority of perpetrators at the moment seem to be of Muslim ethnicity. However, it doesn't mean you're not going to get into a train with a Muslim. That would be submitting to irrational fear and essentially exhibiting racist/narrow-minded views.
Similarly strangers are portrayed as a significant threat (even though we all know it is your friends and family who are the most likely perpetrators of violence) however, it is equally irrational to submit to such a fear.
It is clear to me that you only need to exercise reasonable caution in both cases. Ie in the former report any suspicious packages etc, and in the stranger instance rely on your judgement and perception.
Yes... the "what if" question...
I always look at life like this; "If you never take a risk then you will never get hurt. However, you will lead a dull ignominious life. However, if you do take a risk there is a small chance of failure but more often than not the reward outweighs the cost."
Suggest you carry some pepper spray in your handbag. Not like its going to hurt you to make some preparation is it?
Have more faith in people.
I always look at life like this; "If you never take a risk then you will never get hurt. However, you will lead a dull ignominious life. However, if you do take a risk there is a small chance of failure but more often than not the reward outweighs the cost."
Suggest you carry some pepper spray in your handbag. Not like its going to hurt you to make some preparation is it?
Have more faith in people.
My friend was working in a factory doing the night shift, she drives, one of her co-workers (male, alot older than her, mid fourties), who she didnt speak to asked her for a lift. She said no, he had to walk, quite a long distance-(2 miles) home all alone.
Do you think she was fair in doing so?
Do you think she was fair in doing so?
JC.
Yes... the "what if" question...
I always look at life like this; "If you never take a risk then you will never get hurt. However, you will lead a dull ignominious life. However, if you do take a risk there is a small chance of failure but more often than not the reward outweighs the cost."
Suggest you carry some pepper spray in your handbag. Not like its going to hurt you to make some preparation is it?
Have more faith in people.
I always look at life like this; "If you never take a risk then you will never get hurt. However, you will lead a dull ignominious life. However, if you do take a risk there is a small chance of failure but more often than not the reward outweighs the cost."
Suggest you carry some pepper spray in your handbag. Not like its going to hurt you to make some preparation is it?
Have more faith in people.
I guess the flip side is that she may have been at more risk wondering around, lost and a distance from home.
Id rather walk (or rather run home through the country) the get into a random mans car. I dunno I guess, Im always supitious of peoples motives although there are nice genuine people out there.
alot of these things also depends on your judgement. if i was the girl and i knew the guy who worked in the factory and thought he'd be alright then maybe id give him a lift, if i wernt sure then i prob would have done the same as her. i think she was fair in doing so...she was on her own...it could have been dangerous.
There is no right or wrong answer in these situations.
I feel its best to take them upon face value and treat each accordingly.
Is there not evidence to suggest that a higher percentage of sexual assault are commit when the victim knows his or her attacker?
There is to much ambiguity here for a definitive answer. I feel, I must back out of this one gracefully!
I feel its best to take them upon face value and treat each accordingly.
Is there not evidence to suggest that a higher percentage of sexual assault are commit when the victim knows his or her attacker?
There is to much ambiguity here for a definitive answer. I feel, I must back out of this one gracefully!
JC.
There is no right or wrong answer in these situations.
I feel its best to take them upon face value and treat each accordingly.
Is there not evidence to suggest that a higher percentage of sexual assault are commit when the victim knows his or her attacker?
There is to much ambiguity here for a definitive answer. I feel, I must back out of this one gracefully!
I feel its best to take them upon face value and treat each accordingly.
Is there not evidence to suggest that a higher percentage of sexual assault are commit when the victim knows his or her attacker?
There is to much ambiguity here for a definitive answer. I feel, I must back out of this one gracefully!
Yes I also remember reading a high percentage of victims of sexual assault were drunk at the time.
Most people out there who would offer someone a lift are genuinely nice. It is only a teeny proportion of nasty people who make life miserable for the rest of us.
No-one out there has the right to say "you must never travel with someone you don't know". You are an adult. But you also know the risks. If you think you can handle yourself, and you think that the individual is being genuinely nice, then you can make an informed choice to get in the car.
People act like the whole world is full of nasty people who want to rape pretty young girls. It simply is not the case. But it only takes one horny git with a knife to give you a really bad day.
No-one out there has the right to say "you must never travel with someone you don't know". You are an adult. But you also know the risks. If you think you can handle yourself, and you think that the individual is being genuinely nice, then you can make an informed choice to get in the car.
People act like the whole world is full of nasty people who want to rape pretty young girls. It simply is not the case. But it only takes one horny git with a knife to give you a really bad day.
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