Hey, so idk to feel as obviously i can't vent to my best mate like i normally would..But basically, the boy I like, and my best friend who knows this, had planned to meet up for dinner. My best friend claimed it was only pizza and nothing to be worried about but she does tend to be a bit promiscuous.
I told her I liked him and he naively thought he was just going to meet up cos they talk occasionally, as far as I know platonically, because she got stood up by someone else to be a good mate. Am i reasonable to feel aggrieved by the fact she knew I liked him and still asked him to meet up with her?
Because I'm giving her the cold shoulder after telling her it pissed me off and she's acting like I'm being unreasonable, I don't know if i am being too prissy.
As long as you know that your bestie doesn't have any reason to get any feelings from him
has no prior history with him
Then you have no reason to get pissed (also the assumption they are friends due to the occasional meet ups)
Depends how much you believe you can trust your friend
Well....this same thing happened to me! I told my best mate the guy I liked had broken up with the girl he'd kinda been seeing. I was happy because I thought I would get up the courage to tell him how I felt - which for me would be a big deal. Three days later they ran into each other at a pub at our uni and got together. I was sooo shocked! He had no idea that I liked him but she knew. They dated for four months but he broke it off with her before exams because he was heading to his home country for the summer and didn't want a long distance relationship. I still like him. But, now I don't feel I could let him know because they'd been together and it would be disrespectful to my friend. She is one of my best mates and she's great but it did hurt me!
Alls fair in love and war. It's only really bad if a friend poaches your partner when you are together. This happens too mind..
I too would be annoyed! I can remember a few years ago when a friend and I were at the pub and the boy I liked happened to be there too (she knew I liked him) yet she went to the bar and bought him a drink and gave him a hug and started chatting to him.. although I'm over it now, I can remember asking myself why my bestfriend was essentially disabling me, rather than helping me out with this dude!