Moved out to halls for a week!! feel so lonely

Hey people, I moved into halls last week..and I REALLY hate it, I didn't expect this at all..before I was so eager to move out and now I hate it completely. Firstly I feel so lonely, I know quite a few people in halls..I used to go clubbing with them when I lived at home..and now that I moved in..no one is making an effort with me at all. I rang one of my so called 'mate' to see what shes doing and stuff and she said she'll call back ..this was y'day and she hasn't. she hasn't even come to see my room when she said she would..the other girls are being the same..said they'll call me when they go out and stuff but they haven't and when I call they don't answer..and don't return my call either, feel so lonely. Normally I'm a sociable person, in college I was quite popular (not to sound arrogant). I've been crying everyday since I got here, and I miss home so much. So I've decided to move back home next week.

I don't really know what I want you guys to say..feel free to leave some comments..or anyone who has had the same experience. and please don't say I should of hanged in there..cos it won't change its jan, everyone has already made friends and stuff..and the people i talk to are being so distant! :frown:

Reply 1

JC.

19

Gees give it a chance! Like... at least a month. k?
This week at the university I attend, has been assignment week. Everyone has been busy and anti social, myself included.

stick at it. :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Its too late, I already gave my notice in.

But really I can't give it a chance....I mean look its jan..if it was sept thats another story cos everyone would be in the same posistion. But now ..everyone is in their own groups. and i've realised how when someone new comes..and tries to talk to someone in a group..they automatically try to get away from you cos they have formed a group, and its like they will talk to you for a while and thats it. Sorry if that don't make sense.

Reply 3

MissHero

1

Bit hasty I think, is it not exam week there? What about people that you are living with now? Did you make an effort with them, or just expect your other friends to jump to attention as soon as you arrived?

Reply 4

LisaPizza

I live in flats, and usually everyone is out most nights and always coming to everyones rooms and hanging out in groups..but the last two weeks we have had to study for exams, so everyones just shut in their rooms trying to make up for going to no lectures in term time. I wouldnt take it personally.

Reply 5

foxiroxi

10

Wow the lads I live with have been soooo antisocial this week and haven't been out to the pub, there normally there every night but they have been revising for exams!

Come friday night it will all be back to normal finally....YEY!

Reply 6

goodmen

13

your silly you should have given it a chance. You need to grow up or are you planning to live at home forever because you might be lonely the first week youm ove out ?

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

nah you don't understand, these lot don't have jan exams..and they are always out!!

I mean thats hardly a reason to ignore me..what about when cooking food or something ? or just having a break..they could atleast call me then..like they would their other friends. but its liek nothing.

Course I'm not gna live at home forever..i will move out next yr with my other friends who live at home and get a flat..that will be so much better.

Reply 8

goodmen

13

what if they are not exactly what you think they are like this last set.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

nah they actually make an effort with me...they call me all the time and stuff and we always meet up.

these lot don't even make an effort..i've found i have to call first to invovle me in anything rather than them inviting me first.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

wat uni u at?

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

so what uni are you at? depends on what uni your at, like kings is bare dry

Reply 12

Ariel4

1

This is exam week, and i think a lot of people have coursework due in as well. i know when i have exams, i tend to forget about everything else, and when i say ill call someone, or ill txt them, or maybe go round, i generally forget! its nothing personal, and people do it to me when they have exams. everyones probably a bit stressed, esp if these are the first uni exams they are doing, what with not knowing what to expect and everything. give it another couple of weeks, and if youu still dont like it, then move out.

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

have you decided what you're gonna do yet?

Reply 14

Stone

2

Yeah what uni you at? If your a bird and near by, lets meet up :wink:

Reply 15

Anthonyjm71

9

Anonymous

Its too late, I already gave my notice in.

But really I can't give it a chance....I mean look its jan..if it was sept thats another story cos everyone would be in the same posistion. But now ..everyone is in their own groups. and i've realised how when someone new comes..and tries to talk to someone in a group..they automatically try to get away from you cos they have formed a group, and its like they will talk to you for a while and thats it. Sorry if that don't make sense.

logical course of action in these instant.

Reply 16

alisama

1

you can't just automatically expect that as soon as you turn up in halls everyone is going to call you whenever anything is happening. you have to make a large impact and put a lot of effort in if you want people to love u. sure you are at a disadvantage, but after the first term, no one really knows eachother that much, there is still a massive opportunity for you to become completely involved. according to you, they were great mates before, which puts you in a good position. just make a damn effort rather than sitting in your room crying. what the hell is the point of that? I missed out a lot of the first term because of a combination of factors, mainly trying to do too much work and not really appreciating the fact that uni means you have to make an effort to make mates (rather than at school where you have had them for ages!) - along with being a bit depressed over my dad having cancer.

now i don't really feel included in the halls, but at the end of the last week of last term i started making a real effort. i had a couple of good friends that i could go out with or whatever, but i wanted to broaden my horizons. now i'm in a much better position, sure i'm probably not the first person people call, but i am still up there, and it can only improve. seriously, there are thousands of uni students out there in your position or much worse, and you are just going to run off back home? within a week? because one girl didn't call you back? you need to stop and relax and breathe in and give it time, nothing happens instantly. and you also need to remember you go to uni to get a degree (social development perhaps, but a degree is the main reason). so sort it out!! if after a term you have completely failed, then go home, but if you go home now i will have absolutely no sympathy for u.

Reply 17

goodmen

13

its the typical tsr motto, it was hard making friends so i dint bother

Reply 18

ntf

^^ this, alisama's post...

oh, and goodmen's too i guess...

Reply 19

*Claire*

1

It is hard starting when everyone has already made friends. But friendships do change. I rarely talk to most of the people I spent most of the first term with. My best friend at uni I lived next door to but for the 1st term we weren't that friendly. It was only in Jan we really got to know each other. My main group of friends this year I met through 1 guy that I randomly met just before easter in halls.

Moved out to halls for a week!! feel so lonely

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