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How do you dump someone of 2 and a half years?

I won't go into details, any relationship of this long (at only 17) is going to have complications.

How do I do it, so he knows I'm being really deadly serious? And how do I make him stay away i.e not try to get me back?

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Reply 1

bunthulhu

Be honest?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

I was planning to do that anyway. I just wondered if anyone had any similarish experiences.

Reply 3

bunthulhu

Well, my ex of 2 and a half years did it like this, and out of the blue: "I don't want to be with you any more".

Wasn't the best of excuses to say the least :rolleyes:

I'd have liked to have had a better explanation so just make sure he understands the reasons, it'll probably make it easier for him to deal with.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Yeah, I just want him to leave me alone. I'm going to feel really harsh doing this, and it won't take much for him to get me back. But, in reality, I can't do this anymore. I don't want him anymore. Sorry about your ex btw life is homosexual.

Reply 5

Yoda

Tell him. He'll probably cry and be really clingy afterwards (he sounds like that kind of guy) but hey, he'll bugger off eventually. How you say it doesn't really matter. If he gets it, he'll be upset. If he doesn't he won't leave you alone. Just finish it.

Reply 6

Tory_boy

This threads quite amusing if you, like me, understood the title of the thread to refer to the boyfriend of the OP as being two and a half years old, especially with references to him being 'clingy'.

Reply 7

Sam2005

Out of interest, why do you want to split up?

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

I want out of the relationship, just because I don't really feel commited at the moment. I don't love him as much as I used to. We argue about small, insignificant issues, I want to concentrate on work at the moment. I just feel quite trapped really, I haven't felt how I should have felt for quite a while now. It's just got to a point where I can't be with him anymore....but I know he won't see it like that.

Reply 9

shavenwookiee

Whatever you say, make sure its face to face, and at an appropriate moment.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

shavenwookiee

Whatever you say, make sure its face to face, and at an appropriate moment.

Is it best to take someone to a really random quiet place, and just tell them straight away OR to try and make it a normal day and then tell them at the end?

Reply 11

nicki04

Anonymous

Is it best to take someone to a really random quiet place, and just tell them straight away OR to try and make it a normal day and then tell them at the end?

Just get it over and done with! The poor guy will probably resent it if all day you act like nothings wrong then dump him out of the blue. Be sensitive but firm.

Reply 12

ravenous_soup_dragon

Well, I can tell you how not to dump your boyfriend of two years - by going off with his best friend which is what I did :s-smilie:

Yes, on paper that sounds like I'm an uber bitch (and believe me, we paid for it in our sixth form, although weirdly his year was much harsher than mine) but my ex was really horrible and twisted..obviously that's not an excuse, but whilst my relationship with his best friend was the catalyst, things hadn't been right for a while and I felt much like you do now.

My main mistake was not being firm enough when I dumped him (he refused to accept it the first two times, before I'd done anything with his b) and not discussing my feelings for the third party - we all avoided the situation when we shouldn't. I think you should just be straight and firm - and throw no lifelines like 'we can still be friends' because that blurs the distinction between together/not together.

I'm still with his best friend now - and it's our two years' anniversary next month...and I know what true love feels like. I admire your mature attitude towards the situation - there's no point being with someone if you no longer feel completely and passionately in love with them. Good luck with what you decide to do. xxx

Reply 13

Anthonyjm71

tell him like give him the full picture why has to end. :redface:

Reply 14

kimble

When i broke up with my ex I knew he would be upset so I called him (I couldn't deal with tears, I would pity him and stay with him) I also had a list of reasons why I couldn't be with him anymore (because I knew at the question of "but I thought you loved me" I would respond with "but it's complicated" or some lame excuse. I know breaking up with someone on the phone is a bit lame, but if he cried I would take him back, before when i tired to break up with him he tried to OD so i took him back and the other time he started to hit the wall. I'm guessing your guy isn't like this, but if you're not too good with emotions may I recommend the phone. and remember to have anything you say backed up (think essay writing, you make a point you have to back it up and then give a conclusion).