Don&#x27;t know...should I?

Once you get put into the "friends" section, its pretty impossible to get back out unless you're as amazing and wonderful as me. I'd say go for the pull first, if you've just got into uni you want to get your options up first before you get tied down. Then once you've got a few phone numbers spare, you can ruin a few weeks of your life with her.

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shavenwookiee

And maybe his life if my sucpicions are correct!! :eek:

i'm sure i'm perfectly fine, thx anyway lol

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OP

Yoda

Once you get put into the "friends" section, its pretty impossible to get back out unless you're as amazing and wonderful as me. I'd say go for the pull first, if you've just got into uni you want to get your options up first before you get tied down. Then once you've got a few phone numbers spare, you can ruin a few weeks of your life with her.

i'm not 100% sure about what you meant by going for the pull first....like as shavenwookiee mentioned :'keep her just as a friend, maybe flirt lightly and subtley with her and gauge her reaction. If shes at all interested, it'll become clear very quickly.' ???

also....doesn't the 'boyfriend' issue needs to be taken into account?

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Anonymous

i'm not 100% sure about what you meant by going for the pull first....like as shavenwookiee mentioned :'keep her just as a friend, maybe flirt lightly and subtley with her and gauge her reaction. If shes at all interested, it'll become clear very quickly.' ???

also....doesn't the 'boyfriend' issue needs to be taken into account?

Oh, hell no. Go for a kiss, dont dare make her a "friend". Once you get to that, she'll just reply "lets just be friends" every time you try to get out of it. You'll find out soon enough after she accepts the kiss, or slaps you and runs out the room.

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Yoda

Oh, hell no. Go for a kiss, dont dare make her a "friend". Once you get to that, she'll just reply "lets just be friends" every time you try to get out of it. You'll find out soon enough after she accepts the kiss, or slaps you and runs out the room.

that sounds a bit cheeky....i dunno if any girls would like that.....if it works, that gr8, if it does....well....it'll be quite awakward for the rest of the 4 years of the uni course.....

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Of course they like it. And if not, they can always enjoy slapping you. Wouldn't you think its great if you could just turn around and justifiably slap someone's face with no repercussions? Hell, she might even ask for another kiss if you're that fun to slap.

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Robusty

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lessthanthree

if you're so friendly, how come you can't enquire? It's casual enough if you word it properly.

How do propose you can do that? "So, well, y'know, I know you've got a boyfriend and stuff, but, y'know, do you, well, want a better one?" Not the sort of thing that comes up in conversation is it...

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djmm

15

Yeah... happened to me just last week. Started a new job to get some pennies before I join the RAF about 2 months ago. Seen a girl and we got on great- flirting away, but she had a boyfriend (which I found out from other people rather than ask directly). She asks for my number --because I wasn't asking her for hers-- and starts texting away (out of work hours and everything!). Meanwhile we go on a work night out and another two girls try it on with me but don't pursue any of them as I'm after the one with the boyfriend. She then asks, via text (sweet little thing, she's only 18) who it is I like, so I tell her it's her- to her bewilderment after telling her she was fat and ugly in work (she's a part-time model so it was obviously tongue-in-cheek). Ask her when she's dumping her boyfriend and she gives it that she's not seeing me that way- happy enough with that, she finds out I'm ''seeing'' a nurse and she's all over me last Friday on another night out. Score. So, morale of the story: tell her you're interested, if she plays the friendship card let her know, quickly, that someone else is on the cards and she'll be all over you in no time. Only problem now is getting rid of the other girl!

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Lets be honest here. If you're all scared about it, she will be too. Don't just come up with some crap which shows you're obviously scared. Say it like you ask girls out all the time, you're more likely to get a yes like this. Obviously for some of us (ie,me) its easier than the rest (ie, everyone else, ever) but I guess you could pretend like you do or something. Key things, be posative, don't hesitate, don't be scared.

Be happy about asking her, if you're practically crying although she might find it funny shes less likely to think of you as much of a man.

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rawkingpunkster

Yeah drop subtle hints, test her reactions.. see if theres a slight chance that she's interested too :biggrin:

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lessthanthree

Uh yes.

It's not to say "oh, I'd be a better one" it's just finding out if she has one in the first place...Asking what home is like, or asking about other friends quite often leads to discussion about their other half! If you're just being friendly, information comes to you. I'm not saying that he ought to knock on her door and say "look, i really want to know if you have a boyfriend so I can start putting the moves on you".

thx, i think this is quite a good idea.....but today we were chatting in a group of ppl and she just breifly mentioned her boyfriend phoned her some time ago.
Its over right..........?

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khil

15

Stay friends with her. The whole "once you're friends you'll never be anything more" is a load of crap. I would never go for any guy whom I do not know. One of my housemates and her fiance were almost best friends at uni for about 3 months before they got together. Besides, why should you lose a perfectly good friendship just cus you can't date her?

Secondly, no, don't ruin their relationship. You'll get yourself into too much. There will come a point where either you're embarrassed cus she rejects you, or she starts getting confused and end up hurting you and her bf since she's undecided as to who to go for as she fancied both. And trust me, when someone you like/love gets confused about the relationship, it's hell. (been there). One of my friends flirted with this girl who has a bf and she even said she'd break up with her bf after exams, and she never did and never even said anything or explained to my friend. Listen, if she's so interested in you, she'll lose interest in her bf, and she would break up with him even without you flirting with her. Then when she's single, make whatever moves you want on her.

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