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Are Long Distance Relationships manageable?

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Yes....yes they are.

depends and how far the distance is but in general then yes why not.

Reply 3

finlayw

it depends how much you want it to work :smile:

its not hard to keep in touch during times you cant see each other- and amazing when you do see each other

Reply 4

blissy

15

It depends entirely on your relationship.

I've been in one unsuccessful LDR and one successful LDR (we are now living together).

The successful LDR was Cambridge>Manchester which is a LONG and not entirely convenient journey, but we did it and have the best reward now :party:

Reply 5

stepheh

12

yes, it depends on your relationship entirely.
it depends on what you both want from your relationship.

It is hard..
but it's worth it [=

if you're not willing to put in the effort 24/7 then perhaps it's not the best idea..

Reply 6

foxiroxi

10

Defently, but don't expect an easy ride. You need to want it to work and be prepared to put the effort in :smile:

Reply 7

*baby*

OP

blissy

The successful LDR was Cambridge>Manchester which is a LONG and not entirely convenient journey, but we did it and have the best reward now :party:

Hey! wow thats really scary! coz me n my boyfriend are both going to uni, and it could end up cambridge-manchester depending on where he goes!!!

ah well was just curious of other people's experiences and views! thanks!

Reply 8

Nalced

14

Are Long Distance Relationships manageable?

Yea, they're just really hard to keep going. But you can do it.

Reply 9

melonman

yes they are definately. try 9,000 miles :s-smilie:

i am english, my bf is australian. im going over there in a few weeks, he is coming over here all summer. its really difficult with time differences and stuff but we speak every day :smile:

which is REALLY expensive! but its worth it in the end, and the time you have together is SO special!! at the moment i havent seen him since october, which sucks, but i know that in the end we will be together :biggrin:

i hope that yours goes well if you decided to go for it! :biggrin:

xXx

Reply 10

bred

1

I live in Scotland and my girlfriend in Ukraine. We have been together since last August (we met in America) and since we left the US in September I have only seen her for ten days, when I went to visit over New Year. I am going to visit again for two weeks at the end of March (in 65 days!) and it is frustrating to see so little of her but at least we talk on Skype. It is really expensive to visit too! Hopefully she will get a visa and be staying here from late July though, although she will need to be in Kiev occasionally to take exams as she will be doing a Masters next year. In response to the initial question, we have an amazing bond when we are together and I can't really let myself contemplate the idea that it might not work out!

Reply 11

Charl

1

Yeahh. 3 hours. It's definitely possible! Okay, my distance is nothing compared to some of the people above but still. :redface:

If you want it to work, it will!

Reply 12

Trousers

11

Possibly not, in the long term.

Sorry to put a downer on things, but that's the way it seems. A friend of mine is doing some research at the moment, and is looking for couples to contribute. The criteria: They must have been in a long distance relationship at uni, and they must still be together now (post-uni). Having emailed all her contacts and spread the word as far as possible (I've even tried recruiting on TSR), she has found a total of...

One couple.

It is possible - of course it is - but there are so many things standing in the way of it being a long-term success. Both parties will change over the course of their time at uni. They will both want different things when they graduate, and might want to travel or work abroad. They will meet so many new and interesting people at uni, who will change their attitudes even if they don't directly threaten the relationship. And then there are issues of loneliness, temptation, jealousy, etc, etc.

But I'm not saying all this to put you off. Don't worry about whether it's worked for everyone else - decide whether you want to try it, and see how it goes. You could be one of the couples it works for.

Besides, if everyone enters into an LDR thinking it won't work, it's not surprising that so few of them do. You have to believe in your relationship and not give up at the first sign of trouble.

Reply 13

Angelil

19

Yes. I live in England, my boyfriend lives in France. We've been together 2 years.

Remember: the search button is your friend :wink:

There are loads of threads on this...

Trousers: tell your mate to ask me in June once I've finished uni...

Reply 14

hannah_dru

2

My relationship is 3 hours. Communication is the key.

Reply 15

Enchanté

14

I should think so depends how much you want it to work :smile:

Reply 16

SmilerNuts

15

Theres no reason why it can't work as long as you do get together properly in the end and that there is a lot of mutual trust. That was a problem i ahd with 1 girl, she kept threatening to cheat on me unless i saw her all the time despite the 500 mile distance and then she was the 1 who said she didnt trust me

Reply 17

The Albatross

12

I'm English and my boyfriend is Taiwanese. We're not in a LDR. but at some point, either next academic year, or the one after, he WILL have to do a year and a half of compulsory military service. Can't say I'm looking forward to it, but I've every hope we'll get through it and be stronger at a result.

Reply 18

KDG

5

my one seems to be getting harder and harder recently

Reply 19

bred

1

Why is that? Just because you're not able to see each other as often as you'd like?

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