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Girl that I like - Problem.

So there's this girl, That I like, Alot. We've hung around for about 5 months. The first 2 months was great and she was hinting that she liked me alot but being a coward as I was, and not willing to make her feel like things we're going to fast, I resisted making a move. From there on it became more awkward and I started seeing her less and less, and now I only see her very rarely.

The sad thing is I've very deeply fallen for her, for these 3 months that I don't see her that often I've been depressed. I spend every minute of every hour thinking about her, I've messed up my life completely, my studies, sleep pattern, everything. I don't even want to meet or see anyone or do anything. Also, She's stopped coming on MSN on the premise that her internets broken. It's really killing me, I can't handle it. I'm doing Medicine aswell so I'm not studying at all and it's really going to hurt me in the long run, but I just can't do it. I don't care about my career or life only about her.

So she's pretty much not texting me and neither am I, Should I break the cycle and text her? Or should I wait till she texts? The last time I saw her she told me she hasn't talked to me in ages and it was great doing it, but yet, she hasn't contacted me in any way till now..

Reply 1

she maybe is waiting for you to contact her first because she may think you dont like her now because you havent contacted her .

i say go for it your not going to feel any worse

Reply 2

Go for it, what do you have to lose?

Reply 3

I don't contact her when she doesn't.. So it's probably my fault. It's just that I'm so depressed I don't want to do anything.. I just want to sleep or stay awake and think about her. I've really messed up my whole life over this girl and everyone's telling me to stop.. I probably don't want to text her because if she doesnt' reply i'll feel even worse. I texted her just now though..

Reply 4

cool let us know how it goes sure it l b fine

Reply 5

It wasn't that bad.. She replied more or less instantly asking how I was!

Reply 6

Well thats good! i'm always scared to text girls that i like but when i do they always seem to be delighted to hear from me and we have these ace convos, Good luck with her mate!

Reply 7

You should continue to text her from time to time, but not too often as to seem overly keen. Good luck to you!

Reply 8

5 months and you didnt even ask her to go out somewhere? grow a pair

Reply 9

My professional opinion would be to not see her, just cut her off really. Yes, you probably could go on a few dates with her, maybe go out with her if you're lucky, but it'll be ****. You'll be too clingy, she'll be pissed off with you for sucking up to her too often, and constantly want to dump you/feel bad for settling.

Now you're clearly not going to do that, so just cut her off for a month. Get over her, then date her.

Reply 10

joz12345
she maybe is waiting for you to contact her first because she may think you dont like her now because you havent contacted her .

i say go for it your not going to feel any worse


was thinking very much the same sort of thing.

Reply 11

The longer apart you are from her, the more you fall for her. You're always 'waiting' for her response, and while you anticipate this, your feelings become stronger. That is what I gather you're feeling. Dude, just totally forget about her or just get on with it and ask her out. What do you have to lose really????

Reply 12

Anonymous
So there's this girl, That I like, Alot. We've hung around for about 5 months. The first 2 months was great and she was hinting that she liked me alot but being a coward as I was, and not willing to make her feel like things we're going to fast, I resisted making a move. From there on it became more awkward and I started seeing her less and less, and now I only see her very rarely.

The sad thing is I've very deeply fallen for her, for these 3 months that I don't see her that often I've been depressed. I spend every minute of every hour thinking about her, I've messed up my life completely, my studies, sleep pattern, everything. I don't even want to meet or see anyone or do anything. Also, She's stopped coming on MSN on the premise that her internets broken. It's really killing me, I can't handle it. I'm doing Medicine aswell so I'm not studying at all and it's really going to hurt me in the long run, but I just can't do it. I don't care about my career or life only about her.

So she's pretty much not texting me and neither am I, Should I break the cycle and text her? Or should I wait till she texts? The last time I saw her she told me she hasn't talked to me in ages and it was great doing it, but yet, she hasn't contacted me in any way till now..


Do it right away!!! If you sit at home at home and do nothing, it's normal nothing will happen between you two! Just open up really! I mean until you try, you'll never know. Oh and please get back into your studies! Don't mess them up over a girl.

Reply 13

theonehitwonder
The longer apart you are from her, the more you fall for her. You're always 'waiting' for her response, and while you anticipate this, your feelings become stronger. That is what I gather you're feeling. Dude, just totally forget about her or just get on with it and ask her out. What do you have to lose really????


Hes pretty much reached as much as he'll fall for her. Just letting him leave her for a bit will help.