Housemate

So, I kind of quite like my housemate. As much as I want to ask her out, my natural uselessness with girls is one thing, but the fact that if she says no the rest of the year might be a bit uncomfortable with her is another thing.

I just keep thinking that if she says no, she's going to tell the other girls in the housemates and some way or other it'll make it to the two guys who I'll be living with in the second year.

Another thing is that I'm not 100% what she feels about me, and it'd be very difficult for me to ask her out, as I'd just need it to be just the two of us in the kitchen or something, with no one else, otherwise I'd feel uncomfortable!

And while this thread might be a little generic on the liking a girl side, what do people think of my 'situation'? Should I try to ask her out/get closer and risk making it uncomfortable, or leave it, just be friends?

Reply 1

Louenn

Leave it and just be friends for now. Get to know her better and then you'll be able to assess the situation better 'cos you'll know what she wants and how she thinks.

In this sort of a situation, it's always best to play it safe. Living with someone who has spurned your advances (or whose advances you've spurned) is never fun, and always stressful, so just concentrate on studying and getting to know her better.

Reply 2

roxy potter

One couple I know were housemates last year, but they waited untill they actually finished the year together before they let anything happen, I think that's probably sensible as you don't want to have akwardness at home.

Reply 3

Ema18

Definately leave it, you never know she might feel the same but you need to get to know her a bit more first. It is not woth the risk of making things awkward between you guys. Plus theres the fact that other housemates might feel weird about it. The best thing to do is just let things lie for now until you get to know her better.

Reply 4

Yoda

Easily solved. Come back one day hammered, then ask her out. If she says no, pretend you cant remember. And if she comments about it the next day make fun of her for making up a stupid lie like that.

Reply 5

Segat1

^^^Genius! You are a learned man indeed! :biggrin:

Reply 6

Elondra

Never hook up with your housemate.

Reply 7

chocmonster

i would suggest if you're going to act on your feelings not to just dive right in and ask her out, because either way it might be a bit awkward. maybe just try to hang out a bit more together on a casual friendly level with just the two of you and then you might be able to gauge if your feelings are reciprocated...if they are, go for it and ask if she wants to go on a proper date! life's too short for all that 'never date a housemate' crap, you might be made for each other!! :biggrin: