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more than a pull?

i know this question has been asked before, but i am just really confused

meeting guys at university is mainly contained to the bar scene, where the majority of ppl want a drunken pull, and mb a shag, but most likely they are not on the look out for a relationship, anyways when its noisy you cant really chat and find out what the other person is like anyways so it is bad for meeting guys for anything more than a bit of fun

i have joined clubs and societies, but still, i am having problems meeting a guy i would actually want to have a relationship with, the ones that do exist all seem to be taken

i really hate being single, and i would do anything to have a bf right now

to make things worse i have a guy who likes me so much, and he is such a nice guy, but i REALLY dont like him in that way at all (i know looks are not the most important thing, but cmon, you need a little bit of attraction there), and its just so annoying, why cant a guy who i actually like, like me like this, its just so depressing as this has happened before, i just dont seem to attract the right kinda guys

i just love having someone im that close to, someone who would do anything for me, soeone to cuddle up to at night.... :frown:

Reply 1

high priestess fnord

maybe you just come over as desperate? do you not have any friends who have friendfs kinda thing?

Reply 2

Dutchmeister

so you are looking for someone to really like you and the guy that likes you is ugly? how ugly? as in not taking care of himself or rude, or what?

Reply 3

Woah!

I think the first thing you have to do is not go out looking for a guy! You have to be content with being single first, as soon as you start enjoying yourself and just being you without being on the lookout for potential boyfriends youll look a lot more attractive!

Why do you hate being single? I loved being single! But I love being in a relationship too :smile:

Enjoy your friends and potential bfs will see how much you love spending time with them and will want to be a part of that :smile:

Reply 4

Yoda

Talk to random people outside bars. My advice for a guy would be to hit on more girls, and I can't see why it should be different for a girl. Generally guys find girls through friends, so increase your social circle? I'm sure someone knows a single guy that'll be to your standards.

Don't settle for someone you don't want. Enjoy being single while it lasts.

Reply 5

Zoecb

We're all in the same boat! Stop looking and you might be lucky.

Reply 6

focusST

first of all u need to not be so desperate to find someone. if you are confident being single then that will reflect off of you and u'll find that this will attract guys. Being single helps you discover things about yourself... that guy will soon come along.

Reply 7

rosetinted

Despite popular myth uni is not stuffed with amazing potential boyfriends. I'm not really attracted to the guys at my university that I've met so far either. However I'm not desperate to be in a relationship, in fact I enjoy my independence!

If you find you're not attracted to the guys at your uni then start looking outside of university activities. Although uni is great fun and there is lots going on there, I make a point of doing some activities which aren't organised by my union. I like knowing a mix of people and as I worked for a few years before coming to university I find I need that blend of 'normal' people, alonside my university buddies.

Reply 8

bone-machine

i recommend learning to embrace being single, theres nothing bad about being single, you get to have time for yourself, your accountable to noone and you met to meet lots of different people. i think you should work on trying to be comfortable with being single and you will give off good vibes....relationships come when you least expect it..it always works like that...just make the time inbetween just as valuable by making the most of it.....are you in first year...next year there will be house parties and these are great places to meet people....and be able to actually TALK to them..so its not all bars