Funnily enough quite recently I posted a message to a boy that was worried that he would never get a girlfriend that confidence is attractive etc. I am confident with everything generally, I never worry what people think about me, only that. And I have met someone INCREDIBLY nice but the thing is I don't like him. He is quite forward, assertive and tends to not think about the feelings of other people which is why I don't like him. No-one in my college really likes him because of it and that fact makes me dislike him even more because my ideal guy would not make others feel uncomfortable, he would make people feel at ease and will be liked (not overly popular but at least approachable, amiable-thats more to the point). He has the idea that we will stay in contact and tht after uni we will get together and be together for ever but honestly, I don't like him that much. He is obsessive and that puts me off too. If he suggested it once that would be okay, but he gets an idea into his head and convinces himself that it is going to happen. He is infatuated (I am his first crush). I feel kind of bad because he GENUINELY wants to be with me and take care of me, but his forwardness REALLY puts me off. Is it possible that he could be the one and that I should try to like him more? He reckons that he would change anything for me, but then again, I think it is infatuation and I have always had the opinion that you shouldn't want to change someone, instead find someone else. In another situation I can excuse something else but not in his, he is unbearable.
Am I right in keep the relationship as a friendship and nothing more? Am I right in saying that he is infatuated and that a relationship cannot be based on his infatuation and my tolerance?