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Reading partners texts!!!

Reply 20

I think most people would be bothered by you reading them, unless you'd asked to and she said ok. Reading the texts is not the only issue, it's what's making you do it - you don't trust her. Not only that but because you can't trust her you are violating her privacy. If I were her and I found out I'd ask you to step off.

Two months isn't that long and her and her ex may well be friends, or they could have some unresolved issues with their breakup. If you think after two months that she's "too flirty" what are you doing with her anyway??

Reply 21

high priestess fnord

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Talya

I wouldn't mind my bf doing it because i know he wouldn't be doing it maliciously (ie: because he didn't trust me) just because he was bored or something. But if I thought he didn't trust me I'd be very upset :frown:

thing is with stuff like this is that there may be secrets in there that were not yours to tell anyone. i dont use texts but i know if my bf read my msn log he would find alot of things that were sent to me in confidence, stuff that i wouldnt tell even him. i would be very very annoyed if he didnt respect that.

Reply 22

Talya

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high priestess fnord

thing is with stuff like this is that there may be secrets in there that were not yours to tell anyone.

Fortunately I don't know anyone that would need to confide in me so I never have texts of that nature. :smile:

Reply 23

bubu

i always read my bf;s txt's :redface:

he has had some txt's off there that he sent and received from other girls(recently the ones he sent before me got back together) and ive pulled him up about it ive also got the girls numbers :wink:

(he gave them me) my bf dont see anythink wrong with me looking through his phone because he shouldnt have anythink to hide i myself would allow him to look through my phone because i also have nothink to hide(but the day of my driving test)

Reply 24

Meep!

9

I've read my boyfriends texts in the past, tends just to be curiosity that I do it out of. My advice is, apart from the fact that they may be a tad annoyed that you've gone behind their back, as you don't actually know the full convo, it only makes you more paranoid and potentially could endanger your relationship. DON'T DO IT!

Reply 25

Misogynist

18

Going through phones doesn't matter. Knock yourself out, Just don't let her know. It's vital. She could be having you on.

Reply 26

Fluent in Lies

2

*stirr stirr*

Reply 27

Vohamanah

16

I don't mind my boyfriend looking through my phone, and he doesn't mind me looking through his. Like has been said, its out of boredom and not lack of trust. He knows I'm nosy (he's met my mother for goodness sake, who has a chair carefully positioned to see the whole street for gossip-purposes :rolleyes:

) and that its not malicious.

Reply 28

Misogynist

18

Fluent in Lies

*stirr stirr*

*Adds bunny to broth.*

Reply 29

Anonymous #2

high priestess fnord

wow thats a new level of paranoid. i would dump you if i found out about that. your girlfriend can talk to who ever she likes and its none of your business.

with an attitude like that i bet he would dump u first :wink:

Reply 30

*Sparkle*

17

I wouldn't mind if my boyfriend read my messages, but then i guess it depends really. There have been loads of times where I've left my phone out and I come down stairs and he's being nosy, but I do the same to him, we're just very nosy people.

I wouldn't like to see messages from exs though, but people stay friends it's life.

You've just got to trust her or confront her.

Reply 31

Anonymous #3

awww... so stupid of your gf not to have a password on her phone... lol i wudnt stand it if my bf read my texts

Reply 32

Snowfall

10

I don't really mind if my bf reads my messages, although I would prefer if he didn't, as it might have private conversations with friends in them..Mind you, I end up telling these things to my boyfriend anyway since we don't really have many mutual friends!

I don't think he ever has looked in my phone, nor would he want to because (a) He's not really interested and (b) he gets a bit jealous quite easily - if he sees some guy has texted me, he does ask who he is/how I know him kinda thing..I don't really know why he gets like that because I've never cheated on him, nor am I a flirty type. He knews I have male friends who are just that - friends who are male. And he hasn't had any previous bad experiences..ah well. I think it's usually best not to look in phones because you CAN get the wrong end of the stick sometimes trying to piece together the other side of the convo. It's just silly.

Reply 33

scribble_girl

14

Why

Going through phones doesn't matter. Knock yourself out, Just don't let her know. It's vital. She could be having you on.

But I'll bet you anything if the OP were a girl going through the guy's phone, you'd practically be cutting out her tongue by now.

Some people, eh? :p:

I think everyone gets curious sometimes, but I really don't think the OP has anything to worry about. Just forget about it and try not to next time!!

Reply 34

bubu

Snowfall

I think it's usually best not to look in phones because you CAN get the wrong end of the stick

True

i have had that problem but i still look :redface:

i just think its because im VERY nosey :biggrin:

Reply 35

Luser

I did that once.....

And found a text from "just a friend" saying "Hey honey, I'm horny as hell".

Kind of put me off doing it - still haven't told him yet as he would get justifiably angry at me for looking through his texts.

Reply 36

bunthulhu

14

Luser

I did that once.....

And found a text from "just a friend" saying "Hey honey, I'm horny as hell".

Kind of put me off doing it - still haven't told him yet as he would get justifiably angry at me for looking through his texts.

Er, yeah but don't you think what he could be saying/doing with this 'friend' could be significantly worse?

Reply 37

Luser

Yes but... if I told him he'd get mad. Let's put it this way - the only way I found out was looking through his texts at 5 oclock in the morning when he was in the shower - hardly fair.... hell, it could have even been a dream.

Reply 38

bunthulhu

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Luser

Yes but... if I told him he'd get mad. Let's put it this way - the only way I found out was looking through his texts at 5 oclock in the morning when he was in the shower - hardly fair.... hell, it could have even been a dream.

??!?! So, he could be cheating!!!

Some people reeally confuse me :s-smilie:

Reply 39

Luser

He could be cheating... I accuse him of it all the time pretty much. One of my relationships just left me thinking everyone would do the same.

He could be cheating...... Oh damn it. I just dont want to ask is all. I've already asked if hes had sex with her or kissed her all he says no so.....

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