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Reply 40

Luser

I did that once.....And found a text from "just a friend" saying "Hey honey, I'm horny as hell".

oh dear that sounds like something that i would say XD

i would hate to think what someones gf would say if they only read a section of one of my convos. it would look awful alot of the time

Reply 41

HeadShock

to be honest...i wouldn't make a big deal...if she is going out with you and has nothing to hide then there isn't a problem..with my ex i would let her mess around on my phone...i don't care....she shouldn't have problem unless she has something to hide.

trust seems to be your problem, she is probably just chatting random stuff..but ask her anyway..say you were messing around on her phone..and was wondering about the texts...and if she asks for your phone...give it to her :-D

Reply 42

Anonymous #4

me and my bf split up bcos he looked thru my fone and saw texts from my ex and another guy... which meant absolutely nothing... i would just text them sometimes out of boredom... it doesnt mean anything.

Reply 43

Apricot Fairy

16

Ask yourself how you'd feel if she walked into a room and found you reading her texts. Would you be ashamed of yourself? Would you feel like you shouldn't be doing it? Do you think she'd be angry? If the answer to any of those questions is yes, then don't do it.

I don't think I'd mind too much if my boyfriend read my texts because I have nothing to hide. There might occasionally be messages from my ex, but I'm sure he gets messages from his ex from time to time. But I've never been tempted to read his texts, and I don't think I would because his phone is private and I don't have an automatic right to see it. I wouldn't want him to walk into a room and find me reading his texts, so that tells me I shouldn't do it. I'm pretty certain he's not cheating on me, and although I can't prove it, at some point you have to either trust someone, or if you can't, break up with them.

Reply 44

Student_Bum

1

I think you have to think of the "greater" evil in all this. Cheating on someone , or looking through their phone?
I trust my boyfriend but if i had reason to believe he was doing the dirty, then yeah i would check his phone. To be honest, i think in that situation, if you believed that your man / girl was cheating then half the people here who are getting on their high horses about trust would do it. It's human nature.

Reply 45

silverbolt

19

personally id go buts and dump the person straight away that is a huge violation of privacy,

my gf read my PMs one time i went loony at her, its the only time shes seen me really angry at her in the three years we've been going out

Reply 46

Mike_Davies

s22jcd

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for two months now and I know I should not of but I read her text messages on her phone the other day. I know this was out of order but I found texts from her ex and another bloke.

The texts were very early in the morning on Sunday after she had been out clubbing with out me, this has got me thinking. What does she text them?? Do they text her first??

During the week everything is fine between us and we get on really well seeing each other loads but when it comes to the weekend and she has had a drink she acts different. Very little affection while were out until we get home.

I trust her in the fact that she would never sleep with someone else while we are together but I can’t stop thinking she is a little to flirty. And that’s why these texts happen.

I want to know would you mind if your partner read your phone messages behind your back.

Would you mind if your partner was getting texts from her ex and other blokes??

Any advice on this would really help as I don’t know what to think or do at the moment.

My gf reads my texts from time to time but its no problem as its usually in front of me and I have nothing to hide so there is no need to kick up a fuss! Although if she was doing it behind my back I would not be best pleased! As for her's i see them from time to time but i dont just go through checking them its usually to see some text that was funny or odd in some way from friends, We have enough trust in each other not to need to check up on each other's phone's. Then again though one of my other friends wont let her bf read her phone as she has been having an affair and there are texts on there concerning this! So i suppose not all people have that trust there! You just have to ask is she fairly easy going/slutty? Then assess what you think the actual chance of her cheating on you are!

Reply 47

grace

15

i read my bf's texts all the time, in front of him! he does the same with me! it's nothing to do with trust, we just like to randomly grab each other's phone and have a browse. This includes re-reading texts we've sent each other! it's just a casual thing, people make too much of a big deal about texts i think. if you have nothing to hide, what's the issue?!

Reply 48

IndianDiva

grace

i read my bf's texts all the time, in front of him! he does the same with me! it's nothing to do with trust, we just like to randomly grab each other's phone and have a browse. This includes re-reading texts we've sent each other! it's just a casual thing, people make too much of a big deal about texts i think. if you have nothing to hide, what's the issue?!

;yes;

Me and my bf are the same... and it really is a random thing, and has nothing to do with not trusting each other whatsoever.

Reply 49

high priestess fnord

9

Student_Bum

I think you have to think of the "greater" evil in all this. Cheating on someone , or looking through their phone?
I trust my boyfriend but if i had reason to believe he was doing the dirty, then yeah i would check his phone. To be honest, i think in that situation, if you believed that your man / girl was cheating then half the people here who are getting on their high horses about trust would do it. It's human nature.

how is there a comparison?? no i wouldnt want to look through my bfs phone, if i was ment to know about y's self harming or z's girl troubles then he would have told me. its information that is *private* and between him and the people who sent it. if he was allowed to tell me then he probably would but wether hes cheating or not i still dont have the right to invade these other peoples privicy especially on mere suspicion

Reply 50

fatcat_shell

hey, i read a text a girl sent my bf saying happy new year darling and i got very jealous when she was just being friendly, i think maybe your insecure and need reassurance? now ive stopped thinking about my bf's friend and her texting him we are getting on so much better! x

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