messed up relationship with friends

ok, so it's just been my birthday and my 'two best friends' at uni didn't send me a card, a text, any form a birthday greeting! on my birthday was quite upset about it, but i had an exam the next day so just ignored it. the day later we were all going out for my birthday, there were about 30 coming to my house party and then some of us were off out afterwards. the number reduced to about 1o people going out which i thought it would. we get into the club about half 11 and half 12 comes and the two aforementioned best friends were nowhere to be found. one of my other friends said they had left, which indeed they had. i couldn't help it, but i just started to cry in the middle of the club and really really couldn't stop myself. (btw i wasn't drunk either, had had about 3 beers!) i went home and still crying. i woke up in the morning and i couldn't stop crying. one of my friends from home was driving back this day so i asked could i get a lift home with her. i text both of the guys who'd left me explaining that i was upset and had to go home. my other mates have had a go at them for being such crap friends. one of them text me this morning asking if i was ok, but do i text back? the problem is i can't help but still want to be their friends, but don't want myself to be hurt by them again. i'm heading back to uni today and will see them in my house. please, any advice?

Reply 1

theonehitwonder

You should definately have a talk to them about the situation, and be honest about it.

Don't worry buddy, I know all too well about disappointment on birthdays. Heck, I only got birthday greetings from TWO people - one on MSN, by someone who doesn't talk to me anymore and another who was on a holiday with his girlfriend. I never confronted any of my friends in regards to my bday, as it wouldn't be any use.

Reply 2

Nix!

Did they know it was your birthday?

Reply 3

ghana_gurl

i've had friends 4get b-days aswell @ first i was pissed off but i have forgotten ppl b4 aswell its an easy mistake, as with 'theonehitwonder' i didnt confront them but they realised soon enough apologised. If its bothering you that much you def. need to speak to them and sort it out face to face and get it out in the open.

Reply 4

kokopops

i think you should talk it out with them. if you don't say anything and they are aware of how theyve treated you, they will only be tempted to think that theyve gotten away with that behaviour and it wont stop!
good luck! xxxx

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

thanks guys for the messages. nix!, they did know it was my birthday which makes it more upsetting. fair enough if they didn't, but with facebook, one of my other friends' birthdays the day before and the fact i had an exam the next day meant i spoke about it quite a lot (probably moaning) but still, i might have spoken too much, but they definitely knew! as well, i made such an effort for their birthdays, because i consider birthdays sooooo important! they know that, and it still didn't make them anymore inclined to make the effort! i have spoken about it to them slightly, but i just feel really upset everytime i think about it and i don't want them to see me cry. i won't be able to fully forgive them unless i say something though. it just makes me so upset, as they really don't appreciate anything i do and to mention it i think seems too expectant! it's not too much to send a bloody card though and just acknowledge the fact it was my birthday.

Reply 6

Nix!

Well, unless they have a good reason - and you won't know unless you ask them. I would question the validity of their friendship and to some extent their character.