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Cheating: honest answers only people

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Would you pursue your interest in this person?

Ok, this is a hypothetical situation so try and imagine you're in it. Those with boyfriends/girlfriends, forget momentarily their existence.

You meet this guy/girl and they are the most awesome person EVER. They make you laugh, seem really caring and are always texting/messaging on msn. They flirt but it's not outrageous and never mention that they have a girlfriend or boyfriend so you assume the coast is clear. You fall for this person HARD and feel like this could be the one.

Days later a few mutual friends tell you that the guy/girl has a bf/gf at home. :eek:

So crushed and heartbroken you continue your day with the assumption that they are then off limits.

At a party later the guy/girl explains that they are actually single and that they did have a gf/bf but it's all ended.

In this situation would you pursue your interest in the person even though you suspect that they may be lying (remember that this is someone you are very much in to) or would you leave it justr in case. Answer honestly remember and use the anon function if you are too scared to state what you truly would do. :smile:

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Reply 1

Vohamanah

No, I'd kick their ass for lying to me :biggrin:

I'd be crushed, but I don't think I could get with them and cause someone so much hurt :s-smilie:

Although they would be a mean horrible peson to lead someone else on and say they were single when they weren't. That would put me right off.

Reply 2

envious

but you don't know they aren't single. These mutual friends could have got their wires crossed I guess :confused:

Reply 3

Talya

pinkpinkuk

No, I'd kick their ass for lying to me :biggrin:

I'd be crushed, but I don't think I could get with them and cause someone so much hurt :s-smilie:

Although they would be a mean horrible peson to lead someone else on and say they were single when they weren't. That would put me right off.

But they might be single. It was your friends who said that the person was in a relationship.

Reply 4

Vohamanah

Depends how close the friends are to me and him. The fact that more than one of them has said it would make me believe them.

Reply 5

Nix!

I'd wait for a while.

Reply 6

kylie88

why dont u just ask him if hes single?

Reply 7

envious

kylie88

why dont u just ask him if hes single?

"At a party later the guy/girl explains that they are actually single and that they did have a gf/bf but it's all ended."

:smile:

Reply 8

kylie88

yeah but nothin is clear ur friend could be lying or haven got the wrong end of the stick, just ask him. will solve your problem :smile:

Reply 9

Vohamanah

Not if he's a cheating lying dirty... :smile:

I'd either steer clear or investigate further. I'd need pictures, phone records, transcripts of conversations... :biggrin:

Reply 10

Nix!

kylie88

yeah but nothin is clear ur friend could be lying or haven got the wrong end of the stick, just ask him. will solve your problem :smile:

I doubt that there's a loss in communication, but I can see your point. Still, if I was in this situation I would wait regardless because:

a) I would want to see if they are lying or telling the truth.
b) I wouldn't want to risk becoming the rebound.

Reply 11

woodlebert

id say 'so and so said you still had that bf/gf...shoot'

and then is theyre single go for it. if not...well..dont

this is hypothetical question for a friend is it?

Reply 12

scribble_girl

Well... if they've said that they're single, I don't see why that shouldn't be enough for you :s-smilie:

Maybe I'm just too trusting? If I've heard them say they're single, that's good enough for me. If, however, I find out later that they lied to me, then they are going to get a serious repocussion :p:

I'd go with the 'proceed with caution' flashing amber light signal :smile:

Reply 13

Yoda

Lets be honest here, I don't fall for people. But thats not important, shes good looking so I'll keep my interest. Shes constantly texting me and msning me? Ok, I'm a little pissed off so I stop replying, but shes incredible looking, so I keep her number. She has a boyfriend, hey why am I bothered? I'll still take her on dates and stuff. Don't particuarly care if she'd rather cheat or dump him knowing I won't go out with her, that isn't my decision to make. Later she tells me shes single now, why am I bothered?

Yes, this is what I would honestly do/have done.

Reply 14

aza484

having been in a very similar situation, I went for it. My opinion is, what's the point in being with them if you can't trust them? So trust has to start somewhere.

Of course, after she got what she wanted she casually informed me that she did actually have a bf, but she'd like to keep seeing me. :mad:

and then had the cheek to come out with "oh, you're not gonna get all moody on me now are you?" :eek:

i felt so disgusted and used..

Reply 15

rosetinted

I would find out if they are or aren't single before making a move. Ask around, get more info and be sure that the person is single/taken. If they aren't single then they lied to you...would you really want to go out with a liar?

Reply 16

Juwel

She says the coast is clear, you want to do it. You're acting in good faith, go for it.

Reply 17

Zoecb

Why would they be lying? And if they are, how is whatever happens your fault?

Go for him/her!!!!

not until you're sure the person is single do you continue to flirt and stuff.confirm by all means neccessary that he/she is single and prevent being called a home wrecker/slut/etc...and preventing a lot of hassle for yourself. :smile:

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