Stand up and be counted

Please, don't use the word 'philosophy' to describe what is simply an ethical axiom.

I appreciate how it sounds but it was either carry on being bullied or let them all go.

I'm about the least angry person you're likely to meet - because I do what I feel is the right thing and I am never downtrodden. I am, as a result, extremely happy.

This is why I think everyone else ought to feel the same.

Do look after your sister though - you will anyway I'm sure, but yeh. And sorry that your family situation has to come to this. But yeh, like I said, give them some way of contacting you, even if it's just an email address. That way, if they ever wanted to change and apologise for real, they could. If you've left them a chance and they don't take it, then it's their fault. If you don't, then it'd be your fault, should they ever take a dramatic turn.

More recently I emancipated myself from one side of my family, for bullying my parents for years.

are you the person whose cousin swore in front of their 11 year old sister?

that isnt really the point of standing up and being counted

Oh for **** sake. Not another one of these **** posts.

from what you've said, it's better to shut those people out. maybe if you do it long enough they will apologise and try to make things right. At least the other half of your family is nice.

Dictionary definition of philosophy:

# doctrine: a belief (or system of beliefs) accepted as authoritative by some group or school
# the rational investigation of questions about existence and knowledge and ethics
# any personal belief about how to live or how to deal with a situation; "self-indulgence was his only philosophy"; "my father's philosophy of child-rearing was to let mother do it"

I'm not really interested in what the dictionary says; I didn't say it was incorrect, I asked you not to use the word in that sense - I like to reserve the word strictly for use in the context of the academic discipline. Given the nature of the original post, it seems the intention of the thread is to state personal preferences with no supporting evidence or argument, so I thought I'd continue in the same vein.

And frankly if my solution to family disputes was just to emancipate myself from my family, then I wouldn't be so quick to suggest that everyone follow in my footsteps.

The very principle of the society in which we live is tolleration of that with which we don't agree.