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can you force strong attraction over the internet?

i met this person over the internet, and there is a high chance that we will meet in person soon. i am so attracted to this person, and want things to go further from here.. much further! is it possible to force a really strong attraction over the internet. you can call this a long-distance relationship. this person knows what i look like and i know what they look like. i'm just afraid that when we meet it will all fall through the ground and we will disappoint each other, so in order to hold it together i want to make this person feel something for me. Is it possible?

Reply 1

Angelil

19

It is possible to be attracted to someone before meeting them, but you can't *force* any sort of attraction, whether it be over the internet or otherwise. You just have to wait until you meet and see what happens.

Reply 2

Fluent in Lies

2

Some kind of voodoo love potion?

Reply 3

IndianDiva

I really don't think any sort of attraction or feelings can be forced, over the internet or in person.

As for holding it together... surely your friendship should hold things together?

There's not a lot you can do... just meet them and see where you go from there.

Reply 4

HeadShock

you could be attracted but when you meet them in person they could be completely different from what you expected.

Reply 5

kaleidoscope42

What they said :smile:

Hope it all works out for you :smile:

Reply 6

pink_lucie

14

meet them seriously......real life is soooo diffrent to online...or on the phone.

Reply 7

tanusha-tomsk

18

Don't have high expectations (I know it's hard!) It can happen that even though you find him attractive in his picture, you won't be attracted to him when you meet him. It's all about how a person behaves themselves, are they naturally charming, are they shy or not. You can't tell these things online or over the phone! Good luck :smile:

(forgive me for assuming you're a girl)

Reply 8

pink_lucie

14

Also i would suggest you talk to them on the phone for a good few weeks etc get to know them offline....

im meeting someone from the net this weekend and there is no way i would meet them without tslking to them ALOT befor, cos otherwsie you dont know how they react when talking etc

Be carefull ok...DONT RUSH

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

Also i would suggest you talk to them on the phone for a good few weeks etc get to know them offline....

im meeting someone from the net this weekend and there is no way i would meet them without tslking to them ALOT befor, cos otherwsie you dont know how they react when talking etc

Be carefull ok...DONT RUSH

Agreed.

It happened to me a few months back. (I actually knew this girl before we meet-up again, albeit not very well.) We both had some sort of mild crush for each other so we built our relationship online from there.

3 months later when we finally meet up on our first 'date'. 'Why am I doing this?' was the very first impression I get when I saw her again. Then I tried to force in my online persona (which is very different from my real-life persona, by the way) and made everything a disaster...

A crush is a novelty that die with time. Internet relationships (or even phone.) are as unrealistic as it gets. Don't have your expectations up too high.

Reply 10

tanusha-tomsk

18

pink_lucie

Also i would suggest you talk to them on the phone for a good few weeks etc get to know them offline....

im meeting someone from the net this weekend and there is no way i would meet them without tslking to them ALOT befor, cos otherwsie you dont know how they react when talking etc

Be carefull ok...DONT RUSH

Hmm I don't know if it's the best way. When you communicate with someone for a long time you build up expectations and I'd say the longer you've been chatting on-line, the more you'll be disappointed. Obviously I'm not saying you should meet up with a random stranger, but as long as you know a few key things about him/her and you meet in a public place, you should be fine.

Reply 11

Ron Stoppable

14

tanusha-tomsk

When you communicate with someone for a long time you build up expectations and I'd say the longer you've been chatting on-line, the more you'll be disappointed. Obviously I'm not saying you should meet up with a random stranger, but as long as you know a few key things about him/her and you meet in a public place, you should be fine.

Good points there, Tania.

In general, to develop online attraction, you must always get on the phone and then hang out face-to-face as soon as possible. Commit to your goal of a fulfilling relationship, or else you'll be relegated with immediate effect to being just another online contact - a position well below the fabled friend-zone.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

oh God plz let it work out!!!!

Reply 13

hannah_dru

2

It could be possible that it's just an attraction to what you imagine (if you get what I mean). It is possible that when you meet, things might change. Agree with the above posts. Phoning is actually a good idea.

can you force strong attraction over the internet?

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