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money balance between GF/BF

When I go out with the gf (my first) I often offer her a drink and she will take it up. She has bought me drinks a couple of times but I usually do the buying. At meals I will usually offer to pay because i feel embarrassed to go half half. We are both at uni, get the same amount from our parents, same loan and everything. What should the weighting be? Should I be paying for everything and treating her? Im so confused because I shouldnt be supporting two people as a poor student at uni...

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Reply 1

street

im in this same position....it sucks

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

My b/f pays for everything, even though he's a student, and im on a gap year working. I feel bad about it, but he gets angry if I offer to pay for stuff. I've never paid for a drink/meal/cinema tickets, anything, in the whole year we've been going out.

Reply 3

RachelBabyfrog

I think it should be equal.

When my boyfriend and I are out, we offer each other drinks throughout the night. Generally, he'll buy dinner, but I buy him little presents all the time and will be paying for dinner on, for example, his birthday. It all averages out, and that's how it should be.

I can't afford to support someone else, and I would never expect anyone to support me.

Reply 4

Sopheh

That's terrible. First date, yes, you should pay, but after that it should be equal. You shouldn't be paying for everything, it's not fair - whatever happened to feminism?!

Reply 5

Navajo

50/50 if you've been going out for a while and your both skint students.

But the guy should do the most.

Reply 6

andy5788

When I was at sixth form and hadn't been with my gf for so long I tended to pay for a lot of things.

However now we're both at uni and have been going out for quite a while it's split pretty much 50/50.

Reply 7

theartist

Do you think its ok to go 50/50 on meals or does that ruin the romance? Shes been hinting at going for a nice meal. Should I pay for it?

Reply 8

mangomaz

Of course go 50/50! She would understand if you were short on cash. Just tell her that you've realised you need to start budgeting or something and would she mind if you started splitting everything. Its a bit tricky if you've always paid but if she's not insane then she should accept it. It'll make it more special as well when you do decide to pay for her and she'll appreciate it more :smile:

Reply 9

General Mullet

50/50 mate

Reply 10

aati_x

50/50...!

Reply 11

john171

50/50 Offer to pay, but if she's a nice girl she'll refuse and pay her half.

Reply 12

Straggler

theartist

Do you think its ok to go 50/50 on meals.. or does that ruin the romance? Shes been hinting at going for a nice meal. Should I pay for it?

If all the romantic gestures are coming from one person, then the relationship isn't balanced or fair.

I'd be thrilled if I had a girlfriend who'd take me out once in a while, and of course, I'd do the same.

If she's hinting at going for a nice meal, is she hinting at taking you out for a meal, or is she hinting at you taking her out? Or does she just want to go for a meal, and split it? You'll have to use your powers of judgement to decide.

Reply 13

LisaPizza

I've never let a guy pay for anything like that, except like birthdays etc. When we go out in town he'll buy a drink for me and him, then i'll buy a drink for me n him and so on. And we pay half for meals/cinema etc or take it in turns to pay when we go out

Reply 14

KDG

i think that women should pay most of the money, because if they dont, then they obviously dont love the man enough and so should not be allowed the privallege of being with him. i am training my girlfriend to do this :biggrin:

Reply 15

samba

some guys are such pussies...

Reply 16

DoMakeSayThink

I pretty much always feel obliged to pay, and I've yet to meet a girl who frequently objects to it.... I enjoy treating my girlfriend to things, but I've gotta say I'm not all that keen on paying bus/train fares - something I don't plan to do in my latest relationship. Isn't it wonderful how well I've progressed :rolleyes:

Reply 17

Anonymous #2

My bf and I (At uni) try to go half and half all the time. I sometimes feel bad because I'm better off than him :frown:

Reply 18

high priestess fnord

my bf allways does the buying, if hes broke then i pass him the cash before we go out :p:

since we share bills and what not it all works out anyway

you should be paying 50:50 though

Reply 19

Jennybean

My boyfriend and I generally work it out as whoever has the most money at that point in time pays. When neither of us is broke (e.g. holidays when we have jobs) we normally go 50/50 on things like the cinema, or if we're just going out for a meal because we feel like it then we pay for our own food. In pubs etc we do the buying rounds thing just like you would do with a group of mates, especially if we're with other people. If one of us offers to treat the other then that's exactly what happens. But I would say over the course of the relationship I have paid for a lot more stuff than him lol.