feeling really stupid over such a trivial matter

basically it was my 18th in december (during xmas hols) and i didnt really do anything for it because of xmas and new year celebrations and then it was revision for exams. but my main feeling crap is that at school its peoples birthday now and there are always people organising big gifts where everyone chips in and stuff eg buying a zen micro or a mini ipod and they organise some book or something where they get everyone to write in it with memories and stuff but i didnt get anything like that. obviously i cant ask my friends to do that because that would just be really stupid but i feel really sad that they didnt go through the effort to do that kinda thing for me. i mean i wouldve honestly loved to have had a book for my 18th where all my friends wrote stuff in it as i like to treasure memories. in fact i didnt get any presents from my friends, mainly just promises of them.
is there anything i can do to stop feeling so crap? it has really upset me when i know it shouldnt.

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

oh and i would really like to have a party but i would feel really guilty asking my parents to pay. i already cost them a fortune with them sending me private and extra stuff. just cant afford it

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

aww its a shame you missed out, would they not do it for ur 19th since they missed ur 18th? i know its abit of a wait

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

well im not gonna be around the same set of people as i will be in uni when im 19... and 18 is more special than 19 i reckon...

Reply 4

pritnep

Well it depends how close you and your friends are. I mean some friends don't go the whole mile but doesn't mean they care any less. Could mean they couldn't afford it or you haven't done similar to them so generally it just isn't done etc. I wouldn't be reading into it to much.

Maybe instead of a party you could organise at night out for your group maybe dinner then go clubbing\movies etc. Would be cheaper and everyone would be paying their own way and yet you are all together. Not everyone can afford a party and don't feel you have to a night out can be just as memorable.

Reply 5

SuperDaz

13

I know how you feel, my birthday is quite early in the year and has always been neglected due to christmas holidays and exams.

Grrr, this year I spent the whole of the day (my 21st) writing an essay and revising for an exam for the following day. I did go out a few nights later although it wasn't really the same. Theres not much you can do about it though.

Reply 6

envious

I guess now it's gone there isn't really a lot you can do :frown:

If you just wanted a book of memories then why not wait until you leave sixth form and bring a book in with you then for people to write in. A lot of people will want to put in some sentimental things I'm sure and it won't really look random.

Reply 7

foxiroxi

10

I have the same...all my life I get nothign from friends. I'm at uni now, everyone's birthday so far have had cards and little pressies, even from me, but as mines on new years day I get/got nothing from anyone, when I got back to uni no-one whished a belated hppy birthday. I've learnt to deal with it and won't be getting anything for anyone else, will just say happy birthday to them if I remember.

I know how you feel! :smile:

Reply 8

Sam2005

5

Maybe your friends didn't think you cared much for books of memories etc?

Could try making jokes about it to them saying things like 'Oi so where was my birthday present huh' etc see what they say to that, maybe they just forgot?

feeling really stupid over such a trivial matter

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