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SICK of being single
Im nearly 22 and have been willing to have a bf since about 17
I wouldn't say im ugly I just look about 13 or some people say (could this contribute to it?) Then again thinking about it I have only been friends with 1 guy since I was 17, I did go out with a guy once but he gave up after 2 days. My family think its strange that I don't go out at night or have a bf. My aunt said to me that her friend has a son who doesn't go out and is reserved just like me and that I would be a perfect match for him... so obviously they sense how desperate I am and think I should have bf. I have one main friend really and on the way to a pub said to me 'this is how you meet people the whole point is to get drunk' even though she never seems to have a bf yet she has had a baby and doesn't know who the father is, so now instead of just me and her it is me, her and the pram walking the streets complaining that there is nothing to do
Im just so stupid for my age I act like a kid and physically look like one. How can I stop being such a loser??
I wouldn't say im ugly I just look about 13 or some people say (could this contribute to it?) Then again thinking about it I have only been friends with 1 guy since I was 17, I did go out with a guy once but he gave up after 2 days. My family think its strange that I don't go out at night or have a bf. My aunt said to me that her friend has a son who doesn't go out and is reserved just like me and that I would be a perfect match for him... so obviously they sense how desperate I am and think I should have bf. I have one main friend really and on the way to a pub said to me 'this is how you meet people the whole point is to get drunk' even though she never seems to have a bf yet she has had a baby and doesn't know who the father is, so now instead of just me and her it is me, her and the pram walking the streets complaining that there is nothing to do Im just so stupid for my age I act like a kid and physically look like one. How can I stop being such a loser??Scroll to see replies
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Im nearly 22 and have been willing to have a bf since about 17 I wouldn't say im ugly I just look about 13 or some people say (could this contribute to it?) Then again thinking about it I have only been friends with 1 guy since I was 17, I did go out with a guy once but he gave up after 2 days. My family think its strange that I don't go out at night or have a bf. My aunt said to me that her friend has a son who doesn't go out and is reserved just like me and that I would be a perfect match for him... so obviously they sense how desperate I am and think I should have bf. I have one main friend really and on the way to a pub said to me 'this is how you meet people the whole point is to get drunk' even though she never seems to have a bf yet she has had a baby and doesn't know who the father is, so now instead of just me and her it is me, her and the pram walking the streets complaining that there is nothing to do Im just so stupid for my age I act like a kid and physically look like one. How can I stop being such a loser??
I wouldn't say im ugly I just look about 13 or some people say (could this contribute to it?) Then again thinking about it I have only been friends with 1 guy since I was 17, I did go out with a guy once but he gave up after 2 days. My family think its strange that I don't go out at night or have a bf. My aunt said to me that her friend has a son who doesn't go out and is reserved just like me and that I would be a perfect match for him... so obviously they sense how desperate I am and think I should have bf. I have one main friend really and on the way to a pub said to me 'this is how you meet people the whole point is to get drunk' even though she never seems to have a bf yet she has had a baby and doesn't know who the father is, so now instead of just me and her it is me, her and the pram walking the streets complaining that there is nothing to do Im just so stupid for my age I act like a kid and physically look like one. How can I stop being such a loser??You want to go out sometime?
Oh, wait, that would make you more of a loser...
Reply 4
This will work 99.9% of the time; Go Clubbing.
Reply 5
dineshmodi
This will work 99.9% of the time; Go Clubbing.
Thanks for the repplies, Ive been and I hate it lol, I don't mind pubs though as long as they are not too full.
Reply 6
Lies! We aren't overrated, just misunderstood 
but yes, I do know how you feel. I've been single all my life (I'm only 18 but it is starting to grate). The problem is when I do fall for somebody I feel so inexperienced, I don't really know how to flirt and when I do I just look pervy. I rarely manage to gather the courage to ask somebody out (like, I've done it...um, once properly, and it was a total cock up!) So normally when I'm around somebody I like I just get pissed off my head and make an arse of myself. I should probably do something about that.
But yeah, looking young isn't a bad thing, some people find it attractive. If you're really desperate you'd have joined a speed-dating thingy, so there's still hope yet. I'm hardly a person who should be giving relationship advice, but don't give up hope, it'll work out in the end! unless you're insanely unlucky, plain ugly or you don't make an effort to meet people.
but yes, I do know how you feel. I've been single all my life (I'm only 18 but it is starting to grate). The problem is when I do fall for somebody I feel so inexperienced, I don't really know how to flirt and when I do I just look pervy. I rarely manage to gather the courage to ask somebody out (like, I've done it...um, once properly, and it was a total cock up!) So normally when I'm around somebody I like I just get pissed off my head and make an arse of myself. I should probably do something about that.
But yeah, looking young isn't a bad thing, some people find it attractive. If you're really desperate you'd have joined a speed-dating thingy, so there's still hope yet
. I'm hardly a person who should be giving relationship advice, but don't give up hope, it'll work out in the end! unless you're insanely unlucky, plain ugly or you don't make an effort to meet people.Reply 7
Oh yes, and walking around with a baby in a pram is NOT a way to pick up guys!
Reply 8
there are loads of desperate guys, it should be easy for a single gal, unless you have high standards?
Reply 9
Anonymous
Oh yes, and walking around with a baby in a pram is NOT a way to pick up guys!
LOL well she insists on taking the baby when we go to places
This is good as in she is a great mother but we are not free anymore! I can't make new friends, I do talk to people and have friends at college but thats the only place they are friends..college, they all have there own lives and have moved out of home etc, I feel so immature!Reply 10
Rouge
there are loads of desperate guys, it should be easy for a single gal, unless you have high standards?
Where are all these desperate guys? All guys ignore me, again im thinking its because I look really young.
Reply 11
Anonymous
Lies! We aren't overrated, just misunderstood
but yes, I do know how you feel. I've been single all my life (I'm only 18 but it is starting to grate). The problem is when I do fall for somebody I feel so inexperienced, I don't really know how to flirt and when I do I just look pervy. I rarely manage to gather the courage to ask somebody out (like, I've done it...um, once properly, and it was a total cock up!) So normally when I'm around somebody I like I just get pissed off my head and make an arse of myself. I should probably do something about that.
But yeah, looking young isn't a bad thing, some people find it attractive. If you're really desperate you'd have joined a speed-dating thingy, so there's still hope yet. I'm hardly a person who should be giving relationship advice, but don't give up hope, it'll work out in the end! unless you're insanely unlucky, plain ugly or you don't make an effort to meet people.
but yes, I do know how you feel. I've been single all my life (I'm only 18 but it is starting to grate). The problem is when I do fall for somebody I feel so inexperienced, I don't really know how to flirt and when I do I just look pervy. I rarely manage to gather the courage to ask somebody out (like, I've done it...um, once properly, and it was a total cock up!) So normally when I'm around somebody I like I just get pissed off my head and make an arse of myself. I should probably do something about that.
But yeah, looking young isn't a bad thing, some people find it attractive. If you're really desperate you'd have joined a speed-dating thingy, so there's still hope yet
. I'm hardly a person who should be giving relationship advice, but don't give up hope, it'll work out in the end! unless you're insanely unlucky, plain ugly or you don't make an effort to meet people.Thanks! Yea im quite similar to you (sorry) except I never flirt because I feel desperate and never see any other girls flirting it always seems to be the guys doing it (with other girls).
Reply 12
Hah, there are plenty of desperate guys
Reply 13
More male friends wouldn't hurt - we're human just like you
I would say first of all try being more friendly round guys, maybe even ugly ones cause then you won't feel like you're trying to get with them and can relax and get some experience of socialising with guys? Also ugly guys are bound to have some nice mates you can meet?
Also if you don't like clubbing then what do you like? Do you like gigs/rock music sports etc? Great way to meet new people is through sports, or hanging round with people that like the same music as you cause then you have loads to talk about...
Getting drunk is good as well and normally helps
Also if you don't like clubbing then what do you like? Do you like gigs/rock music sports etc? Great way to meet new people is through sports, or hanging round with people that like the same music as you cause then you have loads to talk about...
Getting drunk is good as well and normally helps
Sounds like it isn't being single that's the problem, it's your social life. It's obviously not working for you at the moment. You need to sort that out and eventually you will meet someone. When I was at school I used to be quite reserved,staying in a lot and it's really not healthy.
From what you've said you really don't get to meet people much and the fact is if you don't meet with lots of people it's gonna take that much longer to find someone suitable.
Are you a member of any societies? groups? If not, think of things you are interested in and get involved. The more things you try the more friends you make and the more chances of finding a bf.
One thing i would say is don't write off clubs and bars. Usually the problem with going to them is the company, if it's not good you won't have a good night. When you develop a good circle of friends consider trying it out again.
From what you've said you really don't get to meet people much and the fact is if you don't meet with lots of people it's gonna take that much longer to find someone suitable.
Are you a member of any societies? groups? If not, think of things you are interested in and get involved. The more things you try the more friends you make and the more chances of finding a bf.
One thing i would say is don't write off clubs and bars. Usually the problem with going to them is the company, if it's not good you won't have a good night. When you develop a good circle of friends consider trying it out again.
I'm not really sure why we have three million of these threads, but anyway -
Do something about your appearance! Looking 'about thirteen' - be more specific, please. Is it your hair colour? What's your figure like - or do you just have a young face? Do you wear make-up? What kind of clothes do you wear?
As a 22 yr old, I shouldn't think that it's too difficult to look older than 13.
I think changing your appearance will also help with your confidence levels - and inner confidence *will* increase your chances of being noticed.
Do something about your appearance! Looking 'about thirteen' - be more specific, please. Is it your hair colour? What's your figure like - or do you just have a young face? Do you wear make-up? What kind of clothes do you wear?
As a 22 yr old, I shouldn't think that it's too difficult to look older than 13.
I think changing your appearance will also help with your confidence levels - and inner confidence *will* increase your chances of being noticed.
Reply 19
*Katie*
I'm not really sure why we have three million of these threads, but anyway -
Do something about your appearance! Looking 'about thirteen' - be more specific, please. Is it your hair colour? What's your figure like - or do you just have a young face? Do you wear make-up? What kind of clothes do you wear?
As a 22 yr old, I shouldn't think that it's too difficult to look older than 13.
I think changing your appearance will also help with your confidence levels - and inner confidence *will* increase your chances of being noticed.
Do something about your appearance! Looking 'about thirteen' - be more specific, please. Is it your hair colour? What's your figure like - or do you just have a young face? Do you wear make-up? What kind of clothes do you wear?
As a 22 yr old, I shouldn't think that it's too difficult to look older than 13.
I think changing your appearance will also help with your confidence levels - and inner confidence *will* increase your chances of being noticed.
Thanks for all the advice, I find it impossible to look older though I suppose I could start wearing boots instead of trainers all the time, though I prefere trainers. Its not my hair colour, im 4ft 11, really thin and have very young looking features (well thats what people say) My friend said its just my genes and it can't be my height because there are people shorter than me who look there age.
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