Boyfriend problems

Forget the bit about owing him a lot, do you want to be going out with him?

This other guy - can you be sure things would be any better with him? Do you think it's worth the risk?

These are the kinds of questions you need to be asking yourself. If you feel it's too little too late between you and your boyfriend then it's going to be difficult to make things any better. If you want things to improve and believe that they will do, then you'll have a much better chance of making it work.

Regarding the decisions he's making, it's important for him to make the right decisions for his future, regardless of whether he'll be close to you or not. It might be hard to think of it like that but if he knows you'll relocate to be with him then why shouldn't he move to wherever he has the greatest potential to get a fantastic job?

I think you need to properly talk about this. Voice your concerns and hear his too.

I had been going out with a guy since last sept and I now live with him in university halls. I am in my second year year, he's in his final year.

Recently we have been having some problems. During the summer we had some major fights but when we returned to uni, they didn't matter, we were like a pair of lovebirds again. But of late, we seem to be fighting a lot more and romantic involvement e.g sex has pratically become non-existant. But we still enjoy each others company and both believe we still love each other.

I did not think anything was majorly wrong until I met a guy at work (who is two years younger than me) who I connected with and got alone pretty well with. He started flirting with me and I actually liked the attention since I was not getting much from my boyfriend. Hand on my heart though, I haven't cheated on my boyfriend and I wouldn't even dare to but I am starting to wonder about my relationship with my boyfriend. I don't know if I would want a relationship with this other guy since he is younger and we don't really see each other out of work.

However, I really do care about my boyfriend but I don't know whether it is too late to save our relationship. I owe him a lot since I had some major problems settling into uni and he stood by me all the way. My boyfriend and I have had several discussions about our recent problems and he wants to carry on going out but I am unsure because I think it might be too little too late.

Our main problem is the fact that he is graduating next year. He lives two hours away but he has been talking about getting a job in London which is a long way from our uni and he seems to be making a lot of plans which don't include me. He says its down to the fact he does not know what will happen to us after he graduates but sometimes it appears to me as if he does not want to include me in his future life. I have already told him that if we stay together then I will relocate to wherever he is because I want to be with him.

There was also a chance of him staying in the uni area which I liked the idea of. I said that he might not want to stay in the area forever but it would allow me change to finish my degree and then we could go wherever. I even said I would commute to Uni if it meant staying near him during my final year since the three month uni holiday nearly killed me so not seeing him for a year would be terrible. But he refuses to discuss any possiblity of me after his final year.
I believe him when he says he loves me, I know he does but I am soo confused and need some advice.

(PS Sorry about the essay!)