How do I find out?!

Well theres a girl I really like who i've been speaking to for a month or so now and I don't know whether she likes me as a friend or more than a friend.I was just hoping that over time it would become clear and I wouldnt have to go and make a prat of myself by asking her out and being rejected, but guess what .. it hasnt!
I get mixed messages all the time and as im not really experienced with girls I get really confused! So basically, I'm going to let her know how I feel about her, ask her out or whatever but I don't know what the best thing to say would be? I know it might seem an obvious question but I don't want to be too mushy or sensitive, I don't want to scare her away from me (should she like me only as a friend), I don't want to put her on the spot and i'd also like to save as much dignity as possible, should she turn me down :rolleyes:

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So i know it might be a bit of a stupid question, but please help! What do you think I should say/do?!

Thanks guys.

Reply 1

Yellowmarshmellow

Say something like 'I thought I should let you know that I kinda like you, if you feel the same then that's great otherwise it's kl and we can stay friends'
good luck :biggrin:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Yellowmarshmellow

Say something like 'I thought I should let you know that I kinda like you, if you feel the same then that's great otherwise it's kl and we can stay friends'
good luck :biggrin:

Cheers for the reply!

MORE ARE WELCOME PPL :smile:

Reply 3

Spiffy

11

I agree with yellowmarshmellow, a friend of mine said pretty much the same thing to me in a text message after a group of us had gone out for the night. I told him that I liked him as a friend but nothing more than that. That was ages ago and we're still great friends, its all forgotten about now :smile:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks, I think i'll try it soon. Need to pluck up some courage first tho, never done anything like this before :s-smilie:

Reply 5

Angrybanana

11

FLIRT. Subtly, if you'd prefer but do it. Then if she doesn't respond in the way you'd like you can make out you were joking :smile:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

frankiebeeb

FLIRT. Subtly, if you'd prefer but do it. Then if she doesn't respond in the way you'd like you can make out you were joking :smile:

I've tried. Argh! Like I said im not too experienced when it comes to flirting etc, but I have attempted it. Sometimes it seems like shes flirting back, sometimes it seems like she just ignores the flirting?! Thats what I meant by mixed messages :s-smilie:

. Thanks for the idea anyway.

Reply 7

Swinston

Just go for it, you only live 5.4 times or something... BUT DON'T just flop it out trust me, I have experience in this area

Reply 8

Yoda

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Anonymous

Well theres a girl I really like who i've been speaking to for a month or so now and I don't know whether she likes me as a friend or more than a friend.I was just hoping that over time it would become clear and I wouldnt have to go and make a prat of myself by asking her out and being rejected, but guess what .. it hasnt!
I get mixed messages all the time and as im not really experienced with girls I get really confused! So basically, I'm going to let her know how I feel about her, ask her out or whatever but I don't know what the best thing to say would be? I know it might seem an obvious question but I don't want to be too mushy or sensitive, I don't want to scare her away from me (should she like me only as a friend), I don't want to put her on the spot and i'd also like to save as much dignity as possible, should she turn me down :rolleyes:

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So i know it might be a bit of a stupid question, but please help! What do you think I should say/do?!

Thanks guys.

Ok, you probably already know, girls think all guys are stupid, and should get the hint. What a load of *******s. It'll never "become clear" to her that you like her. Ok, thats a lie, it probably will. But what girls really need to understand is if you're too much of a pussy to ask, or say something, its their turn to take over. They need to look at hints like that. Basically, don't rely on her. Unless you look as good as me (or even half as good) you can't rely on a girl to hit on you.

A common misconception is that guys are bad at feelings. Why is this wrong? It should be clear to any guy, we don't have feelings to be bad at. Do not tell her that you love her. She won't think of you as mushy, she'll be convinced that you're gay. "Hold on a second yoda, I've just told a woman (a female, you understand?) that I love her, and now you're calling me gay? Have you got issues?" If you even considered that, you probably are gay. Guys have no feelings. Don't you dare pretend to if you want have sexy time with girls.

So now I've told you what not to do; everything you have thought of really. Pretty stupid, arent ya? What can be done then? Take the piss out of what she says. Everything she says, rip the **** out of it. Ok, don't bully her and steal her lunch money. You're just trying to have as much fun as you can, it doesn't matter if it upsets her or not. And as we all know, making fun of people is the easiest way to enjoy a conversation. AND to let her know you want to progress in this relationship, don't forget sexual references. Ok, you'll probably **** up the first few times, but really don't be afraid of talking about anything like that. And its easy. Which makes me a happy little green turd. Always been a lazy one, but a happy one too.

Reply 9

artorscience?

11

During a conversation and say you have some questions to ask her, start with 'friendy' type ones, 'what is your opinion on neulcear war? what do you think of my hair? should i get it cut? etc' then ask her, at a time when you are leaving so can escape if needed, say you have one more question, you dont know whether to ask or not. She'll probably ask for it. approach a 'what would you would say if i asked you out' question.
and follow it from there

Reply 10

NeverMindThat

1

Always assume they like you and be extremely confident of this fact.

Not only will rejection never phase you then, but youll be rejected far less often.

Reply 11

Chase Me

8

Just ask her out to something, like a party, or dinner, or a movie or something simple. If she says, 'Like a date?' or something similar, just say, 'Do you want it to be?' If she says no, there is your answer and you still go, if she says yes, you're in. Even if she says no, then you say 'Well it isn't a date then' and smile. Then, you can still get her in a date like situation which will give her time to think, 'hmm, maybe I do want this.' So you still have a chance either way. :wink:

Chances are if she hasn't been thinking of you in that way before, then at least she'll considerate it now.

Reply 12

Danny_777

16

artorscience?

During a conversationsay , 'what is your opinion on neulcear war? and follow it from there

Hahaha, nice chat up line!!!! Must try it :p:

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Reply 13

Danny_777

16

Chase Me

Just ask her out to something, like a party, or dinner, or a movie or something simple. If she says, 'Like a date?' or something similar, just say, 'Do you want it to be?' If she says no, there is your answer and you still go, if she says yes, you're in. Even if she says no, then you say 'Well it isn't a date then' and smile. Then, you can still get her in a date like situation which will give her time to think, 'hmm, maybe I do want this.' So you still have a chance either way. :wink:

[BORAT] Niiiiiice! [/BORAT]

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for all the replies, its appreciated. Going off what Yoda said, does this work both ways? I mean, if a girl calls you **** (obviously nothing personal, or that I'd find remotely offensive), just random things occasionally, is this a sign she just wants to be friends, or more? :s-smilie:

She does it to me and I can't tell if its like the way a mate would joke about with a mate, or like an immature way of flirting? argh :s-smilie:

How do I find out?!

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