Shared room and you know what!

I'm off to uni this October and really like the idea of a shared room:

Cheaper, almost immediate friend, room feels more lived in, ...

But what happens if you are fortunate enough to "entertain a guest".

From reckless sixth form experiences - trying to sleep/pass out in a the same room as a friend having sex is at very best awkward.

Advice please.

Reply 1

noodles!

14

Erm come to some sort of agreement- maybe to warn the roommate just by a text if it's a "spur of the moment" thing?

At all costs try and go to the other person's place.

I think you're really brave lol!!

Reply 2

Talya

16

Can't you just live in a flat with single rooms? TBH it's nice to have your own space and a basic room doesn't have to be expensive. You can still go to your flatmates rooms to chat!

Also, have you thought about the possibility that you might not like your allocated room mate? It's a big risk.

Reply 3

Vicktor

Keep a blindfold and a pair of earplugs handy - you can leave them outside the room as a warning to your roomate.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

I have been thinking the exact same thing as you :eek:

I also like the idea of sharing, but have no idea about what to do if I want my boyfriend to come and stay.

Reply 5

Trigger

18

I shared a room for 6 months with 4 different people. It can be the best and worst experience of your life

Reply 6

katwin

8

I think it's something that would have to be discussed between you and your roommate once you meet him/her. Different people have different opinions on this kind of thing.
I guess it would rely on some kind of 'planning' (roommate can be elsewhere, sleeping at a friends or out at a club or bar, or in a lecture or out for the day - there are tons of things) or being at the house/flat/room of the other person if they have more personal space.

Reply 7

Llamaaa

15

sharing sounds good in principle, but what if you find you really don't get on with your roomate, or they are a bully, or a slut, or a drug user. There are soooo many possibilities. I personally wouldn't take the risk.

Reply 8

hippieglitter

19

What if you don't get on with the person your in a room with? I would have gone crazy if i was sharing a room with any of my housemates last year.

Reply 9

Vohamanah

16

I'd have hated to share a room. One of my friends shared a room for a while in first year and her roommates answer to the above problem was to lock the door. Yup, no warning, nothing. Poor lass would come home to find herself evicted from her own bedroom and have to find somewhere else to sleep at short notice :rolleyes:

She was a messy beggar as well. I'd hate to be lumbered with a roommate like that.

Reply 10

khil

15

Anonymous

I'm off to uni this October and really like the idea of a shared room:

Cheaper, almost immediate friend, room feels more lived in, ...

But what happens if you are fortunate enough to "entertain a guest".

From reckless sixth form experiences - trying to sleep/pass out in a the same room as a friend having sex is at very best awkward.

Advice please.

Immediate friend assuming you get on with him/her, and assuming they're nice people, and assuming they have the same interests as you who would want to be friends with you, and assuming they're not gonna party til 3am and come crashing in, screaming and laughing with a load of other people, officially waking you up when you have a 9am lecture :smile:

And of course, assuming this person does not like room parties, who will not want to invite 20 friends to his/her room with booming loud music... Now, also assuming you both have the same music taste... :biggrin:

And now, assuming you both get tonnes of friends and both invite loads of friends round to your room. Crowded and lack privacy, that would. Now assume you wanna get laid - you can do it when your roomie is asleep but the girl/guy refuses cus he/she feels too embarrassed.

Or assume, you've just had a brilliant date and was about to invite him/her up for a drink when at the door you hear your roomie "going at it". Or assume you wanted to take your date up to your room but you fear your roomie being in and ruining things, so you end up banned from your room, effectively speaking.

And now assume you and your rooomie's habits are tolerable to each other and one isn't overly noisy and likes messing and looking at your things while you're the private sort who likes things to stay the way you left it.

Now assume you wanna have a room party but your roomie doesn't and you end up having a huge row over it - and you have to cope and get on with them anyway :smile:

Still sound so good? Yeh, the reason of "I might not get on with the person and I want my own private space" was why I didn't even consider a shared bedroom. And what if you've had a crap day, you wanna just go to your room and be by yourself or just cry your eyes out. You enter your room and YAY your roomie's in! With a friend too, chatting happily away :smile:

Oh yeh, and assume you and your partner never wants any privacy for sex or for chatting and never wanna cuddle in bed and have it just be the two of you :smile:

Yeh, go for private bedroom, is my advice :biggrin:

Reply 11

khil

15

pinkpinkuk

I'd have hated to share a room. One of my friends shared a room for a while in first year and her roommates answer to the above problem was to lock the door. Yup, no warning, nothing. Poor lass would come home to find herself evicted from her own bedroom and have to find somewhere else to sleep at short notice :rolleyes:

She was a messy beggar as well. I'd hate to be lumbered with a roommate like that.

But surely it's one lock and it's the same keys and they each have their own keys... :confused:

I don't get it.

Oh and OP - if you really wanna share something with someone at uni - shared study is a good one. You get tiny bedroom but HUGE study - that means you get to live with someone else and have your "immediate" friend, AND you get your own separate single-bed bedroom with separate lock :smile:

Then having bf/gf stay over wouldn't be a problem.

Of course, the rest of the problems that I've already mentioned would still apply.

Reply 12

scaredashell

1

I shared a room the first 3 months. i loved it and hated it as well. I actually had 2 roommates, one i didnt get on with who moved out after 3 weeks, then someone who i absolutely love. When she moved out it was like we were an old married couple. Its annoying when you want to bring guys home. We just texted each other or went to the other persons place. Now i like having my own privacy but i miss it sometimes. I would recommend being in a flat then you have privacy and friends at the same time. Also if you dont get on with your roommate it can be awkward.

Reply 13

rosetinted

2

Anonymous

Cheaper, almost immediate friend, room feels more lived in, ...

or cheaper, almost immediate enemy, room is trashed with their crap all over the place and rotting take-out boxes all over the floor.

Reply 14

Vohamanah

16

irisng

But surely it's one lock and it's the same keys and they each have their own keys... :confused:

I don't get it.

You could double lock it from the inside. A good way to avoid cleaning ladies etc who have their own keys as well.

Reply 15

Piggsil

16

I shared in my first year at uni and I never had any problems with my roommate. Sometimes we both needed our own space, but we just asked each other to give us a bit of time (for whatever reason - someone staying over, needed quiet time, timed essay...) and it always worked out fine. I think sharing a room is a great experience as long as you give the other person the respect and consideration you would want for yourself it works, so, just ask nicely!!

Reply 16

Reue

20

I used to just bung the ear-plugs in and roll over when my roomie got lucky.

Reply 17

Talya

16

I dunno about you guys but I wouldn't want to have sex when there was a 3rd person in the room!

Reply 18

sheryl06

1

Talya

I dunno about you guys but I wouldn't want to have sex when there was a 3rd person in the room!

Me neither!! I don't think that I would want to share a room at all, to be honest, I think it would be the worst thing but I do like my own space so that's probably why. Plus, although I get on with all of my flatmates, I know that I wouldn't want to share a room with any of them.

Reply 19

Trigger

18

I was usually to drunk to realise that either she was there or she was doing it :p:

god bless my old job

Shared room and you know what!

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