Me and my boyfriend are planning to have sex some time soon.
I'm ready for it emotionally, but I'm just really worried that it's going to hurt.
So much so, that it's become an almost mental barrier.
I don't use tampons, because the first time I used them (About four years ago, mind) it really hurt because I was so Tense. So since then, I've had an irrational fear of anything being inserted down there.
Purely because I don't want it to hurt.
So my questions are these;
What can I do to make it hurt less?
(For example, would pain killers do anything, or alcohol (not much, just enough to get me relaxed))
Also, how much does your first time actually hurt?
Can it be compared to any other affliction?
thank you
(: (: