Weird & disturbing dreams affecting me...

I keep having disturbing dreams where I'm being chased. Almost every night I have one and it's really starting to upset me because I wake up visibly shaken and don't know where I am for about five minutes. Last night I had a dream I was at some sort of outside event, skating or something with people from my uni, and I ended up lying on some grass with my old best guy friend (who I hooked up with recently & who isn't currently speaking to me.) We were really comfortable & he was lying in my arms, on my chest to be precise. He seemed really sleepy. Only I remember touching his hair & it wasn't his hair, it was a whole load of shiny dark hair which he doesn't have. Everybody was looking at us and saying 'Oh, look how cute they are together', and we said 'We're not together'. I also remember kissing him and him not kissing me back (something that actually happened, but I didn't kiss him back rather than him).

Then there was an incident with a guy I've never seen before. He asked me if he could borrow my camera and he did for about two seconds. Then it was back in my bag but I didn't know it was there, so I started accusing him of stealing it, and took his gadget which was labelled an 'Ipod Presentation'. It belonged to his girlfriend so he started chasing me, and he said 'When people say your daddy really, really loves you I know what they mean now'. He chased me for a realllllly long time until we were at a church, and he stopped to talk to a man in a car. I managed to escape, and I was running through stone corridors and past pillars and down stairs trying to find somewhere to hide. Then I woke up. What does it mean?! I feel really uneasy now yet again & want to find out whats wrong with me...

Reply 1

djmm

Lol. You've got issues...!

Reply 2

Hev456

Have you got someone in your life that you feel like is 'chasing you', even metaphorically? Sounds like an unresolved issue in your waking life. Think about it, is there anyone who you have the same feelings for as how you feel about the person in your dream?

Reply 3

bunthulhu

There's nothing wrong with you, everyone has weird dreams :smile:

I am famous for my insane and often disturbing dreams, and while I'm not gunna call you an amateur, well... :p:

Haha. Seriously though, don't worry, dreams are generally just trying to tie up all the loose ends you've seen or experienced in the past few days, and a lot of the time they'll also involve something that's been playing on your mind a lot (such as your guy friend). Hope you can sort that by the way.

As for being chased, maybe it's just a fear of yours, I'm not really sure. Up til fairly recently I used to have a lot of dreams about my mom trying to kill me. Or, her suddenly having an evil clone, who then proceeded to kill me and my real mom (who didn't take my cries of "arggh run!" seriously enough so she always got it first :rolleyes:

). Or they'd be a really scary ghost in the house. Basically, the punchline was I had to escape from my house somehow. I can't even begin to guess how many times I dreamt that, must have been practically every night. I'm guessing it stemmed from me not getting on with my mom very well and me not being happy at home. It certainly didn't mean my mom is a serial killer though :p:

So, relating this to you, it's not like you're physically being chased, but maybe if you tone that idea down a little and start to think about some things in your life which you feel are bothering you or like you can't get away from, then you can work out what's causing the dreams.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

nothing wrong with you...

sounds like your unhappy about falling out with your friend, that possibly you wish you hadnt rejected him (?) and that your worried that he might be right in not talking to you even though in your heart you know he isnt (the camera being in the bag thing, but you think the guy stole it). Clearly its bothering you, decide how you feel and confront him. Do you like the guy? the dark hair thing, its kinda like you do, but you dont trust his intentions? like you want him to to but you dont know? thats my interpretation! what do you think?! :wink:

Reply 5

Jennybean

Some people theorise that dreams are your brain's way of, as Bunthulhu said, tying up loose ends from your waking life, working out problems or showing your conscious mind what your unconscious mind is worrying about. Others say that dreams are completely random, composed entirely from images in your memory which is why it often seems like you are in two places at once in dreams. Neither theory is proven and I'm sure they are not at all mutually exclusive but they will be subject to a myriad of personal factors, and it really doesn't matter which you believe except that if you think the former is true then you can get bogged down trying to work out exactly what it is in your mind that is causing the weird dreams. So I have a few suggestions. The first is that you try and influence your dreams with peaceful media like music, reading or films, all of which should be of a comforting nature, shortly before you go to sleep. The second is that you make a real effort to dismiss these dreams as simply that, dreams, with no links to your waking life, either through cause or effect. Although it may not be very pleasant waking up in a state, it is not causing you any real damage, physically or psychologically so you could just try accepting that your dreams aren't very nice but not worry about it other than the first few minutes when you wake up. The third is that you choose to believe that your mental state from your waking life is influencing and being influenced by your dreams, and make a real effort to resolve the issue yourself. You can do this by keeping a detailed diary of your emotions and relationship problems each day along with what you dream each night, and try and forge a correlation between the two. If you can see a clear pattern whereby your dreams point to actual events in your life then maybe by solving the waking problems you will get rid of the unpleasant dreams. The final option is similar to the last, but that you get professional help from a psychologist specialising in nightmares or night terrors who might be able to help you. Hope you get it sorted out x