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Don't know how I feel about friend
Grr I did this thread before but it didn't work 
Anyhoo... Recently I've started thinking about a friend as being 'more than a friend.' The thing is I'm not attracted to him at all physically and although I do think that personality is more important, I also think a bit attraction is needed. Also We don't really have that much in common, although we do spend a lot of time together at school.
I've also turned him down in the past when he asked me out and I've recently come out of a 'relationship' (It wasn't really a relationship, it's complicated
)
I suppose I'm just wondering what people think about this, do you think that deep down I do like him as more than a friend kind of thing or is this just rebound stuff and I've ended up thinking about him like this because I spend most my time with him?
Aghhh I'm confused
Anyone got any ideas? Thanks
Anyhoo... Recently I've started thinking about a friend as being 'more than a friend.' The thing is I'm not attracted to him at all physically and although I do think that personality is more important, I also think a bit attraction is needed. Also We don't really have that much in common, although we do spend a lot of time together at school.
I've also turned him down in the past when he asked me out and I've recently come out of a 'relationship' (It wasn't really a relationship, it's complicated
)I suppose I'm just wondering what people think about this, do you think that deep down I do like him as more than a friend kind of thing or is this just rebound stuff and I've ended up thinking about him like this because I spend most my time with him?
Aghhh I'm confused
Anyone got any ideas? Thanks
Wow I'm in the same situation as you! I think I fancy a friend (who has a gf) but I'm not also not sure if I fancy him...
My advice, try and avoid him for a week at school, then see how you feel. Do you find yourself thinking about him a lot, wanting to be with him? Perhaps it is due to you spending loads of time with him, but you'll tryly find out if you like him or not when he's not around. So yeah, just ignore him for a bit and see how you feel
My advice, try and avoid him for a week at school, then see how you feel. Do you find yourself thinking about him a lot, wanting to be with him? Perhaps it is due to you spending loads of time with him, but you'll tryly find out if you like him or not when he's not around. So yeah, just ignore him for a bit and see how you feel
I'm in the same situation too!!! I got with my friend when I was really drunk last month & I'd turned him down a few times before that, but now I think I have feelings for him... I feel funny when I see him & missed him loads over the Xmas holidays. As usual, now I like him, HE doesn't like me well I haven't asked - but he seems to have moved on...
well I haven't asked - but he seems to have moved on...i'm in the same situation too!! we were really close friends his feelings developed, and altho i knew i REALLY liked him for who he was i was unsure cause there wasnt that physical attraction which kinda helps in letting u know if u want that person as something more..... so i ended up saying no.
when we stopped talking i realised i did like him that way. or maybe i just went through hell losing one of my closest friends. whatever u decide it to be, just make sure u dont lose that person. it looks like hes moved on now.
when we stopped talking i realised i did like him that way. or maybe i just went through hell losing one of my closest friends. whatever u decide it to be, just make sure u dont lose that person. it looks like hes moved on now.
OMG! You're not gonna believe this but im in this situaution too! One of my mates suggested me and a guy mate going out as a joke but that got me thinking and i dont know if i like him in a more than a friend way! I have loads in common with him and he's well funny with a great personality but im not really physically attracted to him. Im so confused!
Lol how much of a concidence is this?
Lol how much of a concidence is this?
Anonymous
I've also turned him down in the past when he asked me out and I've recently come out of a 'relationship' (It wasn't really a relationship, it's complicated )
I've also turned him down in the past when he asked me out and I've recently come out of a 'relationship' (It wasn't really a relationship, it's complicated
)Well i'm not really in such a situation!!!
I think we can learn a lot from current & future relationships by understanding our past ones.
Start by explaining this specific past "relationship", did you fancy this person? If you had feelings for this other person back then, does this show that you didn't fancy the good friend as much back then?
How long exactly have you felt this way?
How deep rooted it is will undoubtedly affect both your destinys...
Well I was going to post a post exactly the same as this kind of.
My best mate and me have been best mates for about 7months? 8 months? And we're the closest people ever. Basically bf and gf without the physical stuff.
Lots of our mates, mates parents, some random survey person in the street was like "ah bf and gf!" we were like "erm... no?", and even our own parents... they've asked us many-a-time what's going on between us (more his mates, who always go on about us being a couple) and in reality it's nothing that's not platonic.
I started thinking 'omg maybe we should be more'. But I realised I didn't fancy him. I love him so much in a platonic way. I wouldn't trade him for the world. But never could I be in a relationship.
I think I found the answer to my question in reading back the post I was going to post.
I think deep down you probably have a gut feeling. Follow that
My best mate and me have been best mates for about 7months? 8 months? And we're the closest people ever. Basically bf and gf without the physical stuff.
Lots of our mates, mates parents, some random survey person in the street was like "ah bf and gf!" we were like "erm... no?", and even our own parents... they've asked us many-a-time what's going on between us (more his mates, who always go on about us being a couple) and in reality it's nothing that's not platonic.
I started thinking 'omg maybe we should be more'. But I realised I didn't fancy him. I love him so much in a platonic way. I wouldn't trade him for the world. But never could I be in a relationship.
I think I found the answer to my question in reading back the post I was going to post.
I think deep down you probably have a gut feeling. Follow that
Anonymous
Grr I did this thread before but it didn't work
Anyhoo... Recently I've started thinking about a friend as being 'more than a friend.' The thing is I'm not attracted to him at all physically and although I do think that personality is more important, I also think a bit attraction is needed. Also We don't really have that much in common, although we do spend a lot of time together at school.
I've also turned him down in the past when he asked me out and I've recently come out of a 'relationship' (It wasn't really a relationship, it's complicated )
I suppose I'm just wondering what people think about this, do you think that deep down I do like him as more than a friend kind of thing or is this just rebound stuff and I've ended up thinking about him like this because I spend most my time with him?
Aghhh I'm confused
Anyone got any ideas? Thanks
Anyhoo... Recently I've started thinking about a friend as being 'more than a friend.' The thing is I'm not attracted to him at all physically and although I do think that personality is more important, I also think a bit attraction is needed. Also We don't really have that much in common, although we do spend a lot of time together at school.
I've also turned him down in the past when he asked me out and I've recently come out of a 'relationship' (It wasn't really a relationship, it's complicated
)I suppose I'm just wondering what people think about this, do you think that deep down I do like him as more than a friend kind of thing or is this just rebound stuff and I've ended up thinking about him like this because I spend most my time with him?
Aghhh I'm confused
Anyone got any ideas? Thanks
Just tell him you like him...
Don't do it - don't say the magic words unless you do feel somewhat attracted to them physically too. Keep him as a good friend. otherwise you WILL regret it.
OMG you're not going to believe this but...no I'm just messing around 
I have however been on the other side of the situation, and it really sucks. I followed my heart and lost a good friend as a result (couldn't have been with you tho becos I'm not ugly
)
Just tell them how you feel and ask them how they feel about you. If they aren't honest they aren't worth bothering with in the first place and if they are you'll find out whether you can make something of it. However it seems a lot of stuff has happened between you and I doubt you could come to a 'just friends' situation. You like him, if he doesn't like you it would be too awkward.
Not being physically attracted to somebody is a problem but a strong personality can overcome that.
I have however been on the other side of the situation, and it really sucks. I followed my heart and lost a good friend as a result (couldn't have been with you tho becos I'm not ugly
)Just tell them how you feel and ask them how they feel about you. If they aren't honest they aren't worth bothering with in the first place and if they are you'll find out whether you can make something of it. However it seems a lot of stuff has happened between you and I doubt you could come to a 'just friends' situation. You like him, if he doesn't like you it would be too awkward.
Not being physically attracted to somebody is a problem but a strong personality can overcome that.
Anonymous
Well i'm not really in such a situation!!!
I think we can learn a lot from current & future relationships by understanding our past ones.
Start by explaining this specific past "relationship", did you fancy this person? If you had feelings for this other person back then, does this show that you didn't fancy the good friend as much back then?
How long exactly have you felt this way?
How deep rooted it is will undoubtedly affect both your destinys...
I think we can learn a lot from current & future relationships by understanding our past ones.
Start by explaining this specific past "relationship", did you fancy this person? If you had feelings for this other person back then, does this show that you didn't fancy the good friend as much back then?
How long exactly have you felt this way?
How deep rooted it is will undoubtedly affect both your destinys...
Well the past relationship thing, we did have feelings for eachother but then something happened and nothing came of it, if that makes sense
And no I didn't have these feelings that I'm having now for my friend when I was in that 'relationship' so thats why I think it's just rebound stuff BUT further in the past... I think I may have had feelings for him, possibly. But it's a bit complicated because he's been out with one of my mates and it would really mess things up if I tell him I like him now because we're now kind of all good friends and I can't avoid him because he's in most my lessons and it'd be sooo awkward if it doesn't turn out right, which it undoubtedly would as I have a habit of messing things up.
I don't even know if I do like him in that way though and THEN if I do tell him I like him and he likes me back but then I realise it was just rebound feelings then our friendship would be ruined and it's already been in the past and I don't want that again.
Oh I don't know
Anonymous
Well the past relationship thing, we did have feelings for eachother but then something happened and nothing came of it, if that makes sense
And no I didn't have these feelings that I'm having now for my friend when I was in that 'relationship' so thats why I think it's just rebound stuff BUT further in the past... I think I may have had feelings for him, possibly. But it's a bit complicated because he's been out with one of my mates and it would really mess things up if I tell him I like him now because we're now kind of all good friends and I can't avoid him because he's in most my lessons and it'd be sooo awkward if it doesn't turn out right, which it undoubtedly would as I have a habit of messing things up.
I don't even know if I do like him in that way though and THEN if I do tell him I like him and he likes me back but then I realise it was just rebound feelings then our friendship would be ruined and it's already been in the past and I don't want that again.
Oh I don't know
And no I didn't have these feelings that I'm having now for my friend when I was in that 'relationship' so thats why I think it's just rebound stuff BUT further in the past... I think I may have had feelings for him, possibly. But it's a bit complicated because he's been out with one of my mates and it would really mess things up if I tell him I like him now because we're now kind of all good friends and I can't avoid him because he's in most my lessons and it'd be sooo awkward if it doesn't turn out right, which it undoubtedly would as I have a habit of messing things up.
I don't even know if I do like him in that way though and THEN if I do tell him I like him and he likes me back but then I realise it was just rebound feelings then our friendship would be ruined and it's already been in the past and I don't want that again.
Oh I don't know
Oops, that was me I started the thread but I was on a friends thingy at the time.
i was like this with my closest friend. we spent everyday 2gether and some nights in the week. we both started to have feelings for eachother and we decided to give it a go. it turned sour tho and now we hardly speak.
turning a friendship into a relationship can break u, but it can make u the happiest you've ever been.
u need to take a step back and look at the friendship as if u arent u (like an out-of-body experience lol) then it might become clearer where the friendship is going
turning a friendship into a relationship can break u, but it can make u the happiest you've ever been.
u need to take a step back and look at the friendship as if u arent u (like an out-of-body experience lol) then it might become clearer where the friendship is going
Anonymous
Grr I did this thread before but it didn't work
Anyhoo... Recently I've started thinking about a friend as being 'more than a friend.' The thing is I'm not attracted to him at all physically and although I do think that personality is more important, I also think a bit attraction is needed. Also We don't really have that much in common, although we do spend a lot of time together at school.
I've also turned him down in the past when he asked me out and I've recently come out of a 'relationship' (It wasn't really a relationship, it's complicated )
I suppose I'm just wondering what people think about this, do you think that deep down I do like him as more than a friend kind of thing or is this just rebound stuff and I've ended up thinking about him like this because I spend most my time with him?
Aghhh I'm confused
Anyone got any ideas? Thanks
Anyhoo... Recently I've started thinking about a friend as being 'more than a friend.' The thing is I'm not attracted to him at all physically and although I do think that personality is more important, I also think a bit attraction is needed. Also We don't really have that much in common, although we do spend a lot of time together at school.
I've also turned him down in the past when he asked me out and I've recently come out of a 'relationship' (It wasn't really a relationship, it's complicated
)I suppose I'm just wondering what people think about this, do you think that deep down I do like him as more than a friend kind of thing or is this just rebound stuff and I've ended up thinking about him like this because I spend most my time with him?
Aghhh I'm confused
Anyone got any ideas? Thanks
talk to him express how you feel about him.
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