stealing my friends

my sister, is lovely to everyone else aroudn ehr apart from me. we have the same friends, having gone to the same skool and treats everyone better then me. she listens only to them and ignores me.

i do have some of my own friends, who she has never met. then she asks me on msn, if im talking to them if she can add them...so they arent my friend. i one day saw her on her msn talking to a friend from MY summer school and who she had never met or spoken to . am i being petty, but it feels like she's stealing my friends

Reply 1

matt@internet

Firstly sort out your English.

Reply 2

Dark and Lovely

how old are you?

Reply 3

supernova2

about 15 i reckon

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Reply 5

Dark and Lovely

how old is your sis

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

17. twins

Reply 7

Snowfall

Not give her their msn address?
Don't invite her out with your friends?
Just share your friends?
Go to different unis (if you're going), so you don't have to have the same friends?

Maybe your sister isn't confident about making friends so just sneaks in after you've made a friend because it's easier that way? Have you spoken to her about it?

Reply 8

Ink

A lot of the twins I've known tend to be competitive about almost everything. Actually, most siblings are, but it's worse when you are the same age, go to the same school, know the same people, etc...

I think the best thing you can do is just try to spend time with those people...be fun, have fun with them, etc. Act like you don't care what your sister is/isn't doing. For one thing, it might give her satisfaction to know that she is "winning" if you let her know it bothers you, and for another, it puts people off if they feel like you are getting weird about who they choose to be friends with (whether it's your sister or not).

Instead of trying to stop her from being friends with your friends:
a) Don't make it easy for her by introducing her/connecting your friends to her and
b) Compete with her by making your presence/friendship just as important and fun for everyone as hers is.