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Slightly Complicated 'should I go' thread

I'll try and keep this simple (sorry if it's abrupt!)

Basically: Got v.drunk at new yrs. Slept with ex. Ex has gf. I'm not really talk to ex so I don't know if the gf knows. Invited to a party this weekend. They'll both be there (along with several other friends who know). I don't want to cause any trouble, but on the other hand I don't think I should stay away - it's not ONLY my fault, and I'm not the one in a relationship. Oh and I don't know the gf if that makes any difference.

Opinions/Advice please!

Thank you!
Go if it wont be awkward for you, but avoid your ex.

Don't go if you plan / are likely to purposefully make a scene.
Reply 2
I don't feel awkward and I won't make a scene. I'm slightly worried that other people might drunkenly mention it though - I do not want to get into some kind of cat fight with a strange girl.
Anonymous
I don't feel awkward and I won't make a scene. I'm slightly worried that other people might drunkenly mention it though - I do not want to get into some kind of cat fight with a strange girl.


If she found out you slept with her bf but had never met you before, her first reaction would be to attack you?
Reply 4
I honestly don't know what to think! I'm not really worried about violence I suppose.. that is unlikely... more like shouting or general upset. If I think it through logically I come to the conclusion that if I don't deliberately try and upset people then I'm not responsible anything that happens.. I don't think I can extend that to upsetting some poor girl though.
Anonymous
I honestly don't know what to think! I'm not really worried about violence I suppose.. that is unlikely... more like shouting or general upset. If I think it through logically I come to the conclusion that if I don't deliberately try and upset people then I'm not responsible anything that happens.. I don't think I can extend that to upsetting some poor girl though.


Its fairly simple: "he didnt tell me he had a girlfriend". done. Argument over.
Reply 6
NeverMindThat
Its fairly simple: "he didnt tell me he had a girlfriend". done. Argument over.


Interesting argument.. not actually true in this situation but usable at a push. I knew he had a gf, I didn't know that it was serious though, I mean he made it sound like a casual thing.

Anyway I don't know for sure they'll turn up, if they do I can't be responsible for what anyone else says. If he feels uncomfortable that's not my problem either. I just feel sorry for the girl.. if she doesn't know being told at a party where she doesn't know anyone would be very harsh. I know it's a bit late to feel bad for her now, but I'm not a complete bitch.
Anonymous
Interesting argument.. not actually true in this situation but usable at a push. I knew he had a gf, I didn't know that it was serious though, I mean he made it sound like a casual thing.

Anyway I don't know for sure they'll turn up, if they do I can't be responsible for what anyone else says. If he feels uncomfortable that's not my problem either. I just feel sorry for the girl.. if she doesn't know being told at a party where she doesn't know anyone would be very harsh. I know it's a bit late to feel bad for her now, but I'm not a complete bitch.


consider what its most seem most sultable for yourself.
Reply 8
So it's ok to be selfish in this situation?
Reply 9
good girl is all iv got to say :p:
Go, hes the one thats in the s**t at the end of the day he played his relationship down and your the single one,

If someone does drunkenly mention it shes getting a lucky escape! Just dont get off with him again! You shouldnt not go to parties cos of things like that! :wink:
Reply 11
balloon_parade
Go, hes the one thats in the s**t at the end of the day he played his relationship down and your the single one,

If someone does drunkenly mention it shes getting a lucky escape! Just dont get off with him again! You shouldnt not go to parties cos of things like that! :wink:


lol thank you! I like your advice :smile: