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Feel so guilty!

My parents are quite overprotective of me - even though I'm 18, they won't let me get the bus or train home when I go out at night. My dad normally gives me lifts home, which is fine, I understand they can be concerned, but I feel so guilty that they have to wait up for me! I'm going to a friend's tonight to celebrate exams being over, and as my dad is away my mum is insisting on picking me up, even though I could quite easily get the bus. I know she hates having to wait up, and hates driving at night - but she doesn't give me an alternative!! Am I right to feel guilty? It's not like I stay out all night and don't tell her where I am!?!

Reply 1

afoneleri

If they're not giving you another option, even when it could theoretically be a possibility, then you have absolutely no reason to feel guilty.

Reply 2

Melissa85

lol, all I can say is I feel for you. I only lived with my mum and she was so lazy she wouldn't take me anywhere, couldn't care what time I came back (from the age of 16.) Trust me the opposite extreme isn't all its cracked up to be. However, I can't see how domineering parents allow you to experience life. Talk to them about it.

Reply 3

Juwel

You're 18 now. It's about time you made a big song and dance about them having faith in you to look after yourself. You'll have to fly the coop sometime, ask them to make it easier for you by getting used to letting you go now.

Reply 4

Tuyo

You might want to be careful about how you do that though, they could take it the wrong way and you'll end up in a worse situation.

Reply 5

floss

would you be getting the bus alone? if you can convince them that you won't be alone then they might consider you coming home with them..

i know my parents were really good at giving me lifts to and from places, mainly because they both lived out of the area that my friends are from.. as soon as i was 17 they put a full effort into getting me to pass my test.. i now realise how many lifts they would give me during a week without me realising.. maybe learn to drive?!

Reply 6

*Joanna*

Do you live near your friends at all? When we go out we share lifts and take it in turns for the parents to take us and pick us up. Most of our parents are of the opinion that it's worth waiting up once in a while so we don't have to get a taxi back on our own (ie someone always has to be last out) and we all live in the middle of nowhere. Is this a possibility for you? At first I did feel guilty that my dad waits up, but I know that's how they prefer it, even though I'm 21 (!), so it doesn't bother me as much now. Plus if I'm not going to be drinking I drive myself.

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