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Im a girl age 16 and my parents are currently preventing me from seeing my friends it's been a few weeks and I haven't seen them at all because my parents keep saying they don't trust them and that they are 'trying to act older than what they are' but really that is just an excuse. I feel really disappointed because even when I do as my parents have asked they won't let me go anywhere with my friends. Even to one of their houses. I can feel the distance growing between my friends and I and it feels really frustrating knowing I can't see them because my parents are overprotective. None of my friends understand because Their parents are much more laid back. I don't know what to do, every time I address this problem to my parents they just get really angry. I've noticed that because I don't socialise much I have become more anxious and sad.
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Why don't you ask if your friends can stay over at your house? Then you can show to your parents that they are okay and maybe they'll let you out with them? I hope this helps


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I have a similar problem to you. My parents are really overprotective and I don't like it. I've tried to talk to my dad about it but he just doesn't listen to me. He shouts at me when I'm on FaceTime because I'm constantly on there. The only reason I'm on there is because I have nothing else to do because I'm not allowed to go out with friends. I've tried going out with friends but my parents don't really like me going out. I have been out twice in the past few months because my parents don't let me leave the house. I only allowed to leave the house to go to school, work or the gym, nothing else


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Im a girl age 16 and my parents are currently preventing me from seeing my friends it's been a few weeks and I haven't seen them at all because my parents keep saying they don't trust them and that they are 'trying to act older than what they are' but really that is just an excuse. I feel really disappointed because even when I do as my parents have asked they won't let me go anywhere with my friends. Even to one of their houses. I can feel the distance growing between my friends and I and it feels really frustrating knowing I can't see them because my parents are overprotective. None of my friends understand because Their parents are much more laid back. I don't know what to do, every time I address this problem to my parents they just get really angry. I've noticed that because I don't socialise much I have become more anxious and sad.
Sadly it's one of the drawbacks of being Asian
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Im a girl age 16 and my parents are currently preventing me from seeing my friends it's been a few weeks and I haven't seen them at all because my parents keep saying they don't trust them and that they are 'trying to act older than what they are' but really that is just an excuse. I feel really disappointed because even when I do as my parents have asked they won't let me go anywhere with my friends. Even to one of their houses. I can feel the distance growing between my friends and I and it feels really frustrating knowing I can't see them because my parents are overprotective. None of my friends understand because Their parents are much more laid back. I don't know what to do, every time I address this problem to my parents they just get really angry. I've noticed that because I don't socialise much I have become more anxious and sad.
Try to have friends over? Is it your birthday soon? You could invite your friends over and have your parents see how responsible you are? If not try to keep in contact with them via social media. Have you thought about going out on a family outing with friends? Like you and your parents and a couple friends could go on a bike ride or something?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Im a girl age 16 and my parents are currently preventing me from seeing my friends it's been a few weeks and I haven't seen them at all because my parents keep saying they don't trust them and that they are 'trying to act older than what they are' but really that is just an excuse. I feel really disappointed because even when I do as my parents have asked they won't let me go anywhere with my friends. Even to one of their houses. I can feel the distance growing between my friends and I and it feels really frustrating knowing I can't see them because my parents are overprotective. None of my friends understand because Their parents are much more laid back. I don't know what to do, every time I address this problem to my parents they just get really angry. I've noticed that because I don't socialise much I have become more anxious and sad.
:console: I had (and still have) this problem, and I've done the worst thing and given up. I've told myself that I'll just have to stick through it for another two years and then I'm free

Your best bet would be to tell them everything you feel about what they're doing though. Maybe they'll think about how it's harming you
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Well, first thing first. About your parents, well, there are huge age differences there between you and your parents. Your parents are like that because they value you more than their life and you're precious to them. You cant really generalized parents' love. Some parents allow their children to go out and are open minded. Some can be extremely overprotective and would join their children to their meet up which can be so awkward. But in spite of these differences, it come down to one thing, parents love their child and the way they express it differ.

I understand how you feel, but one day, when you become a parent, you'll understand why your parents treat you like that. Its not because they want to take away your freedom, its because they are afraid to lose you to unforseen events. So, perhaps you could properly introduce your friends to your parents and let your parents' friends have dinner at your house or meet your parents. When your parents see that your friends are ok and they can trust their daughter to your friends, then it will start to be fine.

But, if you ever gonna lie, make sure all of your friends can be trusted and have the exact same excuse. If not, your parents will not believe you or your friends. They might accompany you to where ever you go. Therefore, to be safe, dont lie, just explain to your parents where you are going and specifically tell them the locations, etc etc. In time, they will get tired of those updates and will leave you to go out.

Hope that help and best of luck.
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Im a girl age 16 and my parents are currently preventing me from seeing my friends it's been a few weeks and I haven't seen them at all because my parents keep saying they don't trust them and that they are 'trying to act older than what they are' but really that is just an excuse. I feel really disappointed because even when I do as my parents have asked they won't let me go anywhere with my friends. Even to one of their houses. I can feel the distance growing between my friends and I and it feels really frustrating knowing I can't see them because my parents are overprotective. None of my friends understand because Their parents are much more laid back. I don't know what to do, every time I address this problem to my parents they just get really angry. I've noticed that because I don't socialise much I have become more anxious and sad.
I'm sorry about what you're going through. I know life can be hard, and when things are this way, you sometimes need to talk about it. 7 Cups of Tea is a great website where you can find tons of emotional support. You can chat with trained listeners and talk to them about how you feel. It's completely anonymous so you can chat openly and comfortably. Here's the link if you need: http://www.7cupsoftea.com/11844050
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It might be hard for you to look at this objectively, but have you ever considered that your parents might have a point? It's really difficult to separate yourself from the peer pressure, but are your friends really a good influence on you?

I had some really **** friends when I was a teen. Really bad influences on me. With hindsight I look back and think what an idiot I was to have hung around with them, but at the time if my mother said anything negative about them, I defended my friends like you wouldn't believe.

Take a step back. Are your friends the kind of people you would want your own kids to hang around with? If so, then you need to sit down and explain your point of view to your parents maturely. If not, then it's your friends that are the problem, not your parents.
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(Original post by Smonnie)
Sadly it's one of the drawbacks of being Asian
Where did she mention that she was Asian?
Are you a wizard?
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