Boyfriend problem - I need help

Okay, boyfriend trouble. It's not his fault its me.

So, I've got a thriving social life back at uni for the second semester, and the only times I've been able to talk to him this week he's been off his face. So, that annoyed me. But....he doesn't think about me as much as I do him. He never calls when he says he does and its becoming a problem to me because I can't, no I won't play second fiddle to his friends. I know I'm hundreds of miles away but just because I'm not there...?

I don't want to think about him anymore, I don't want to be with him. It's got to the point where I'll stay in just to talk to him, but of course he has his own life.

We've argued the problem back and forth, and it's not his fault. I don't know what to do, I'm literally going out of my mind. I wait up hours for him to call, but he doesn't call me.

He's doing what I did when I was single, and I can't let go of him to let him live his life. I feels so isolated and I don't know what to do. I want to break up with him. I need him far too much. I just can't take feeling like this anymore. It bothers me how unaffected he is.

I want a brain transplant.

But I can't leave him, not over the phone, I really don't know what to do.

Help me?

Reply 1

Mr. Fox

Look under 'neurosurgery' in the Yellow Pages.

Reply 2

G4ry

How long have you been together? When did you last see each other?

11 1/2 months.

and saw him last 2 weeks ago.

Reply 5

G4ry

Has it been like this for the last 11 and a half months or has he been more receptive in the past?

Reply 6

Fizzer

I know how you feel as I'm in a similar position. Tell him you need some time to think and that you want to back off a bit. Let's see how he reacts.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Since uni I suppose. (It's been like this since then.) I can't cope with the long distance.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Who changed the title? It's not him, it's me. If he's treating me differently I must have changed, I have to have deserved it. There's something wrong with me.

Reply 9

G4ry

Why blame yourself? Perhaps your relationship just isn't strong enough to be sustained over the distance and he's not interested. If you want to leave him, do it - if he can't be bothered to spare you the time then do it however you have to. There's no point just clinging on to something because an alternative scares you.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

Who changed the title? It's not him, it's me. If he's treating me differently I must have changed, I have to have deserved it. There's something wrong with me.

Don't be silly. you don't deserve it. How long a distance is between you two?
If he can't make the effort then maybe you should break up. do you argue alot?

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

you say you NEED him. that is not true! I'm sure you wouldn't be isolated without him. What about you friends / family?

Reply 12

Profesh

Anonymous

Who changed the title? It's not him, it's me. If he's treating me differently I must have changed, I have to have deserved it. There's something wrong with me.