confused with doubt about my bf...

I have been with my boyfriend for just a few weeks (not that long). He is very polite, caring, thoughtful, loving, etc. He treats me well, he makes sure I get home safely, when we go out (he drives), pays for just about everything (I've told him he doesn't have to but he insists), helps with my bags, he’s romantic, etc. He has even said he loves me....personally I think it’s too early in the relationship to be saying that...it’s actually quite flattering. My ex (my 1st boyfriend) didn't say it until about 4 months into the relationship, so it feels strange saying it so early.

However I have an uneasy feeling in my stomach. Hard to describe but I'm sure you all know what I mean. I think we are moving too fast personally but how do I tell him that? Last night we went to a quiet area, went for a walk then went back to the car....we ended up getting a bit physical but didn't have full sex. We might have but we got disturbed (a car came so we had to stop....how embarrassing). I would personally like to wait for at least another 2 weeks or until I feel more comfortable before we go that far. However, I can get carried away sometimes and can't help myself. I think he probably felt a bit uneasy too. He was very hesitant in the things he did...didn't automatically do them...took his time and seemed unsure...as was I. I am worried that there is the possibility that he only wants me for my body...hope not... His best friend, who introduced us (I'm also his best friends’ friend) told me that he is a very modest guy...who doesn't do one-night stands, etc. In other words, he wants a serious relationship as do I.

I've had bad experiences with men in the past. My ex didn't love me in the end and it got to the stage he was using me....he thanked me by leaving me for someone else. The other bad time was when a guy pressured me for sex while drunk. I ended up doing it but felt ill for 2 months afterwards...I'm over that now but deeply regret it. It's these experiences that make me feel like this. However, this guy seems different...I've never had a guy treat me as well as he is.

So questions are: -

Does it seem like he only wants sex?
What type of questions should I ask or what should I say?

I know I have to tell him we need to slow down a bit and that I got a bit carried away Friday night lol. We are going out for the day tomorrow...so will have to talk to him tomorrow. Any suggestions or words on this? Thanks

Reply 1

ISH

It seems to me like he really does love you, early or not, and is just trying to show you in the best way he knows how...

"I'd like to talk to you. I think we may be moving a bit too fast..." and go from there.

In my experience with girls, I have found that honesty works best. Just talk to him straightforward. If he is half as good as you describe him, he''ll listen.

Well, hope all goes well. :smile: