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making someone feel special
What can you say to a girl to make her feel really special?
my gf is really self concious, and has a big complex about being fat....i really wanna make her feel better in herself...what would you say to make her feel better?
my gf is really self concious, and has a big complex about being fat....i really wanna make her feel better in herself...what would you say to make her feel better?
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Reply 1
Just tell her she's pretty and you like her for who she is and she shouldn't be self concious because there's no reason to be 
Reply 3
It's not something can be solved in one sitting. Keep telling her she's pretty, or gorgeous, or you think that dress looks really nice (not ALL the time or she might get paranoid 
). But keep doing it, and she should start to believe it.
). But keep doing it, and she should start to believe it.Reply 4
Do it out of the blue, too. Not just when she's asking how she looks, and not OTT, or as the above said, she'll get paranoid!! But just completely out of the blue and unexpected... yes :]
But just completely out of the blue and unexpected... yes :]Reply 5
tell her that if she wants to feel special she should get off her arse and work at it, stop pigging out and start running/swimming etc. Then she will feel special.
If she's fat and knows she's fat, then you saying she's not fat will come over as taking the mick rather than anything constructive.
If she's fat and knows she's fat, then you saying she's not fat will come over as taking the mick rather than anything constructive.
Reply 6
Yeah - don't say all that beautiful stuff too much..because I'm sort of the same way as your girlfriend, and if guys say that too much or overexaggerate (in my eyes) then I just get really paranoid and think that they don't actually mean it.
Just start out little..don't be too heavy all at once with the compliments, because she may just think you're messing around at first - I often get really embarassed when someone says something like that to me, just because I don't often believe it myself..so you have to sort of work her into it.
Just start out little..don't be too heavy all at once with the compliments, because she may just think you're messing around at first - I often get really embarassed when someone says something like that to me, just because I don't often believe it myself..so you have to sort of work her into it.
MagicNMedicine
tell her that if she wants to feel special she should get off her arse and work at it, stop pigging out and start running/swimming etc. Then she will feel special.
If she's fat and knows she's fat, then you saying she's not fat will come over as taking the mick rather than anything constructive.
If she's fat and knows she's fat, then you saying she's not fat will come over as taking the mick rather than anything constructive.
She is probably NOT fat! It's entirely about self confidence.. I sometimes think I'm fat but I know that I am in the healthy weight range, I still need my boyfriend to tell me I'm beautiful.
Do not post when you clearly have never had a relationship and don't know anything about women.
Reply 8
MagicNMedicine
tell her that if she wants to feel special she should get off her arse and work at it, stop pigging out and start running/swimming etc. Then she will feel special.
If she's fat and knows she's fat, then you saying she's not fat will come over as taking the mick rather than anything constructive.
If she's fat and knows she's fat, then you saying she's not fat will come over as taking the mick rather than anything constructive.
Harsh or what? This is a self-confidence issue, not a weight issue. If her boyfriend thought she was fat, he'd have said in the post. Completely irrelevant.
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What can you say to a girl to make her feel really special?
my gf is really self concious, and has a big complex about being fat....i really wanna make her feel better in herself...what would you say to make her feel better?
my gf is really self concious, and has a big complex about being fat....i really wanna make her feel better in herself...what would you say to make her feel better?
Actions speak louder than words by good friend. Hand her a chocolate muffin. It's kind of like reverse psychology, because if you hand her a muffin she may believe she isnt fat, which is the reason you're giving it to her.
My g/f is the same. The only choice you have is to work at it each day. Just let her know shes loved and that regardless of how she sees herself, in your eyes, she's still an angel.
I ask myself every morning "what are you going to do today to make her happy"? I don't move untill i've come up with something.
Moni is odd in some respects... she can be fine for days and days and then will suddenly announce "im a fat cow and you dont love me" She gets quite teary.
If shes upset that means she needs extra attention that day.
I finally lost patience and told her to lay down and tell me what parts of her body makes her a "fat cow"? She said it was just her tummy she was unhappy with. She gave me a list of 4 things.... I gave her 50 kisses on each part she was upset about and by the time I was finished she'd stopped crying and was smiling.
All girls deserve to be treated like a princess by their guy. If you can't do that then theres something not right.
Mine freely admits that she is "spoiled" but i'd much rather spoil her than have her unhappy.
Think about it for yourself. You already have the answers inside as to what to do mate.
I ask myself every morning "what are you going to do today to make her happy"? I don't move untill i've come up with something.
Moni is odd in some respects... she can be fine for days and days and then will suddenly announce "im a fat cow and you dont love me" She gets quite teary.
If shes upset that means she needs extra attention that day. I finally lost patience and told her to lay down and tell me what parts of her body makes her a "fat cow"? She said it was just her tummy she was unhappy with. She gave me a list of 4 things.... I gave her 50 kisses on each part she was upset about and by the time I was finished she'd stopped crying and was smiling.
All girls deserve to be treated like a princess by their guy. If you can't do that then theres something not right.
Mine freely admits that she is "spoiled" but i'd much rather spoil her than have her unhappy.
Think about it for yourself. You already have the answers inside as to what to do mate.
Reply 11
"I love you for who you are."
Reply 12
JC.
My g/f is the same. The only choice you have is to work at it each day. Just let her know shes loved and that regardless of how she sees herself, in your eyes, she's still an angel.
I ask myself every morning "what are you going to do today to make her happy"? I don't move untill i've come up with something.
Moni is odd in some respects... she can be fine for days and days and then will suddenly announce "im a fat cow and you dont love me" She gets quite teary. If shes upset that means she needs extra attention that day.
I finally lost patience and told her to lay down and tell me what parts of her body makes her a "fat cow"? She said it was just her tummy she was unhappy with. She gave me a list of 4 things.... I gave her 50 kisses on each part she was upset about and by the time I was finished she'd stopped crying and was smiling.
All girls deserve to be treated like a princess by their guy. If you can't do that then theres something not right.
Mine freely admits that she is "spoiled" but i'd much rather spoil her than have her unhappy.
Think about it for yourself. You already have the answers inside as to what to do mate.
I ask myself every morning "what are you going to do today to make her happy"? I don't move untill i've come up with something.
Moni is odd in some respects... she can be fine for days and days and then will suddenly announce "im a fat cow and you dont love me" She gets quite teary.
If shes upset that means she needs extra attention that day. I finally lost patience and told her to lay down and tell me what parts of her body makes her a "fat cow"? She said it was just her tummy she was unhappy with. She gave me a list of 4 things.... I gave her 50 kisses on each part she was upset about and by the time I was finished she'd stopped crying and was smiling.
All girls deserve to be treated like a princess by their guy. If you can't do that then theres something not right.
Mine freely admits that she is "spoiled" but i'd much rather spoil her than have her unhappy.
Think about it for yourself. You already have the answers inside as to what to do mate.
Good grief. I think we should clone him and give one of him to every girl in the world.
JC.
My g/f is the same. The only choice you have is to work at it each day. Just let her know shes loved and that regardless of how she sees herself, in your eyes, she's still an angel.
I ask myself every morning "what are you going to do today to make her happy"? I don't move untill i've come up with something.
Moni is odd in some respects... she can be fine for days and days and then will suddenly announce "im a fat cow and you dont love me" She gets quite teary. If shes upset that means she needs extra attention that day.
I finally lost patience and told her to lay down and tell me what parts of her body makes her a "fat cow"? She said it was just her tummy she was unhappy with. She gave me a list of 4 things.... I gave her 50 kisses on each part she was upset about and by the time I was finished she'd stopped crying and was smiling.
All girls deserve to be treated like a princess by their guy. If you can't do that then theres something not right.
Mine freely admits that she is "spoiled" but i'd much rather spoil her than have her unhappy.
Think about it for yourself. You already have the answers inside as to what to do mate.
I ask myself every morning "what are you going to do today to make her happy"? I don't move untill i've come up with something.
Moni is odd in some respects... she can be fine for days and days and then will suddenly announce "im a fat cow and you dont love me" She gets quite teary.
If shes upset that means she needs extra attention that day. I finally lost patience and told her to lay down and tell me what parts of her body makes her a "fat cow"? She said it was just her tummy she was unhappy with. She gave me a list of 4 things.... I gave her 50 kisses on each part she was upset about and by the time I was finished she'd stopped crying and was smiling.
All girls deserve to be treated like a princess by their guy. If you can't do that then theres something not right.
Mine freely admits that she is "spoiled" but i'd much rather spoil her than have her unhappy.
Think about it for yourself. You already have the answers inside as to what to do mate.
I feel so sorry for you right now.
Reply 18
One morning, I woke up at my boyfriend's and he was just looking at me, and before I could say anything he said "Do you know, you've never looked more beautiful than you do right now".. and considering I was wearing no makeup, had bedhead hair, and tracksuit bottoms and a vest top on!! He always makes me feel special, and always says nice things and tells me that he's so lucky to be with me and that I look beautiful etc, even on days when I look ugly, fat and spotty. He knows that I won't believe him if he turned around and said "No you don't look fat/ugly", so instead would say something like, "I hate the fact that you look in the mirror and don't see what I see.. how beautiful you are". I'm his princess and he makes me feel like it too!
Juwel, Thankyou for your thoughts, but, with respect, we intend to marry well within a year so I can't see that happening.
As for "letting her become more important than me" well... thats one take on it I suppose. However, you can't go through life with a "me me me" attitude.
Being in a commited relationship is about merging two lives into one.
Just last week I was doing an engine swap on one of my classic cars. I needed a tiny little gasket in order to get it started. She walked 10 miles in the rain to welsh MG for a 30p gasket for me. I didnt ask her to. She did it because she loves me. The first I knew she'd been out and got it was when I got out from under the car to discover the gasket dripping wet on the workbench. You don't do things like that for someone if you dont love them to pieces.
Love is a 2 way thing. Give it away and it comes back two fold.
As for "letting her become more important than me" well... thats one take on it I suppose. However, you can't go through life with a "me me me" attitude.
Being in a commited relationship is about merging two lives into one.
Just last week I was doing an engine swap on one of my classic cars. I needed a tiny little gasket in order to get it started. She walked 10 miles in the rain to welsh MG for a 30p gasket for me. I didnt ask her to. She did it because she loves me. The first I knew she'd been out and got it was when I got out from under the car to discover the gasket dripping wet on the workbench. You don't do things like that for someone if you dont love them to pieces.
Love is a 2 way thing. Give it away and it comes back two fold.
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