Should I break up with my boyfriend over this?

Well love is about sharing and taking actions to share your life with someone else.

I don't really think he loves you from what you said. Sure he may be in love with you and want to be with you, but this isn't the same thing as love. I mean you obviously love him so want to stay with him. However I don't believe people change and he isn't will to remove things from his life to spend more time you.

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and he's always worked a lot (6 days/9hrs) but he recently opened a new small business with a friend and now works 6-7 days/12 hours a day.

He doesn't know when he'll get a day off/which day it'll be and he's always on call if they need him.

I've always been an understanding girlfriend, I know he needs to work, I know he likes to see his friends after work sometimes and since I work less hours I always clean the house/do the laundry etc (we live together).

But I'm starting to think I'm being a push-over. I usually call him, but if don't, he'll maybe text me once or a 2 minute call a day. I know he misses me/loves me though.

I've even hung out at his workplace, just sitting with him for 10 hours just to see him. I know for a FACT he wouldn't do this for me.

He never gets up early to spend the morning with me, as he doesn't sleep until 3am (finishes work 11.30pm) However, I frequently stay up until 2am to see him.

I feel like he makes no effort. I've talked to him about this a lot, he just tells me to stop nagging, and sometimes begrudging does as I ask if I get upset. But I always feel guilty as he works constantly and I don't like seeing him so tired.


I just hate to be a clingy, needy girlfriend. I don't want to stand in the way of his ambitions, but at the same time I don't want to be taken advantage of. Am I being fair?

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and he's always worked a lot (6 days/9hrs) but he recently opened a new small business with a friend and now works 6-7 days/12 hours a day.

He doesn't know when he'll get a day off/which day it'll be and he's always on call if they need him.

I've always been an understanding girlfriend, I know he needs to work, I know he likes to see his friends after work sometimes and since I work less hours I always clean the house/do the laundry etc (we live together).

But I'm starting to think I'm being a push-over. I usually call him, but if don't, he'll maybe text me once or a 2 minute call a day. I know he misses me/loves me though.

I've even hung out at his workplace, just sitting with him for 10 hours just to see him. I know for a FACT he wouldn't do this for me.

He never gets up early to spend the morning with me, as he doesn't sleep until 3am (finishes work 11.30pm) However, I frequently stay up until 2am to see him.

I feel like he makes no effort. I've talked to him about this a lot, he just tells me to stop nagging, and sometimes begrudging does as I ask if I get upset. But I always feel guilty as he works constantly and I don't like seeing him so tired.


I just hate to be a clingy, needy girlfriend. I don't want to stand in the way of his ambitions, but at the same time I don't want to be taken advantage of. Am I being fair?

No. You shouldn't break up because he has to work a lot. You have no proof he wouldn't do that for you.

Make your time together more enjoyable, focusing on quality rather than quantity.

Seduce him, make surprise plans, remind him that he wants to be with you when he is free.

He may not be able to change the hours he works, but hopefully he will spend and enjoy more of his leisure time with you.

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and he's always worked a lot (6 days/9hrs) but he recently opened a new small business with a friend and now works 6-7 days/12 hours a day.

He doesn't know when he'll get a day off/which day it'll be and he's always on call if they need him.

I've always been an understanding girlfriend, I know he needs to work, I know he likes to see his friends after work sometimes and since I work less hours I always clean the house/do the laundry etc (we live together).

But I'm starting to think I'm being a push-over. I usually call him, but if don't, he'll maybe text me once or a 2 minute call a day. I know he misses me/loves me though.

I've even hung out at his workplace, just sitting with him for 10 hours just to see him. I know for a FACT he wouldn't do this for me.

He never gets up early to spend the morning with me, as he doesn't sleep until 3am (finishes work 11.30pm) However, I frequently stay up until 2am to see him.

I feel like he makes no effort. I've talked to him about this a lot, he just tells me to stop nagging, and sometimes begrudging does as I ask if I get upset. But I always feel guilty as he works constantly and I don't like seeing him so tired.


I just hate to be a clingy, needy girlfriend. I don't want to stand in the way of his ambitions, but at the same time I don't want to be taken advantage of. Am I being fair?

Yeah, but we see each other 6-10 hours a week. And he's tired during that time, and I feel bad about dragging him around doing fun things.

He said he wouldn't.

And I know it's not really his fault, it's just he could sleep early and then see me for a few hours in the morning, but he chooses not too. He never seems bothered that he only see's me a few hours a week. He doesn't even call often, maybe for a few minutes a day. And he often takes ages to text me back. He probably see's his friends more than me, as he goes round to their house until 4am some nights.

He is making a lot of effort. When you start a small business there is going to be a lot of hours being put into it and less free time with him. You can't expect him to be there for you, he has a small business to run. It could be very stressful for him and breaking up would make it worse. I would try to do anything to help him in the situation that he is in right now, I think what makes you wonder if he doesn't love you is because of work. However, you're doing a good job at the moment, you're showing him that you care and you're interested. Take my hat off to you for that.

He said he wouldn't.

And I know it's not really his fault, it's just he could sleep early and then see me for a few hours in the morning, but he chooses not too. He never seems bothered that he only see's me a few hours a week. He doesn't even call often, maybe for a few minutes a day. And he often takes ages to text me back. He probably see's his friends more than me, as he goes round to their house until 4am some nights.

He said he wouldn't.

And I know it's not really his fault, it's just he could sleep early and then see me for a few hours in the morning, but he chooses not too. He never seems bothered that he only see's me a few hours a week. He doesn't even call often, maybe for a few minutes a day. And he often takes ages to text me back. He probably see's his friends more than me, as he goes round to their house until 4am some nights.

Don't call him, start doing your own thing and distance yourself a little see how he responds. It sounds like he is taking it for granted you being there for him without him having to invest much of his time in you. So perhaps distance yourself a little and see if he responds/pays more attention. Actions speak louder than words.

He's just busy I guess. if you're not happy about the way things are try talking to him and if it doesn't work out then break up. Though if he's working and busy he can't reply to you fast and not everyone is a morning person. "Probably" sees his friends more than you. You're making assumptions. Go talk to him.