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Finding it hard to get forgiveness...

I recently had the biggest bust-up ever with my closest (male) friend (I'm female) and since then we've been avoiding/ignoring each other. It's been really hard for me to talk to him as when he's tried to talk to me I've been really shy/apprehensive and haven't really responded and when I've tried to talk to him on other occasions its been the same. I spent some time with him last night with another female friend of mine who is closer to him than I am now, and it was horrible because he basically ignored most of the things I said & talked mainly to her. I really want to get back in his good books again but have no idea how to do it... please help!

Reply 1

Le_désir

;console;

it must be really difficult falling out with someone who you do really care about and have been best friends for quite a long time. If you dont mind me asking what caused this fall out?
Whenever there is a fresh argument with someone close to you, u just dont want to see them but deep down your aching for them to respond or talk to u.
In my opinion I believe he is just trying to make you feel jealous or get back at u with this new female friend, so you can feel bad, and by the looks of it, it has worked sadly, however I believe you should give him some time alone , perhaps to recover from an argument, as when you see that person after 1 month or so ,it feels strange and by that time things should be calmed down.
But it would be nice to know what happened in specific as it varies and depends on what sort of argument is over, but if your not comfortable with discussing thats perfectly alright.
I say just give him some time, if you both were extremely close, he would also miss your friendship and would come to his senses.
dont stress yourself out, after all people do change, such is life.
dont worry it will be ok.
Keep us updated

:hugs:

;console;

Desire xxxxxx

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

True. We fell out over a bunch of things, mostly about a drunken fumble we had after which things were awkward. This was in October! And we hadn't spoken since then in spite of the fact we live in the same building. I'm beginning to feel like things are irretrievable... I know he never really forgives people if they hurt him because we used to talk about that stuff, only now I'm on the recieving end... I don't know whether to keep trying & hope he comes round & forgives me or whether to just give up talking to him completely.