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Date ideas for a "not quite date"

Hello

I have arranged...or want to arrange a meeting with a 'friend' of the opposite sex (I am female), although it is not an official date as such. (I think there is an ulterior motive on my part and on his :wink:

) But I would like it if anyone could share any ideas for something that we could do together without it screaming "date" or putting any pressure and expectations into the spotlight.

I have been looking forward to this for AGES :redface:

Thanks in advance (I haven't a clue what to do apart from going to the cinema or going for a coffee)

:redface:

P.s. We are both 20

Reply 1

JC.

19

Honestly? the g/f and I tend to suprise each other with dates.
She can't drive anymore so if she wants me to go somewhere in the car she will give me directions without telling me how far away we are going.
Some good ones we've been on:

Camping in random places (dont forget to take water!)
Drive to countryside + picnic
Preserved steam railway
Beach for the day
4 wheeling
Santapod
London
Carvery
Curry night
Pub resteraunt

Bad ones:
Safari park - fecking monkeys stole my arial :frown:

Cinema (she jumped and threw about half a litre of coke down me) lol
Museum! tedium :/

We've had waaayy more good ones than bad ones. TBH, being together was enough. :smile:

The long distance thing takes its toll. :frown:

Reply 2

blissy

15

Loving the way the museum was dull but the preserved steam railway was amazing :biggrin:

Reply 3

Tyler Durden

17

blissy

Loving the way the museum was dull but the preserved steam railway was amazing :biggrin:

Yeah. GeeeeeEEEEEEEEeeeeeeeek! :p:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

JC.

Honestly? the g/f and I tend to suprise each other with dates.
She can't drive anymore so if she wants me to go somewhere in the car she will give me directions without telling me how far away we are going.
Some good ones we've been on:

Camping in random places (dont forget to take water!)
Drive to countryside + picnic
Preserved steam railway
Beach for the day
4 wheeling
Santapod
London
Carvery
Curry night
Pub resteraunt

Bad ones:
Safari park - fecking monkeys stole my arial :frown:

Cinema (she jumped and threw about half a litre of coke down me) lol
Museum! tedium :/

We've had waaayy more good ones than bad ones. TBH, being together was enough. :smile:

The long distance thing takes its toll. :frown:

Gee thanks! Aww they all sound sweet. But we're not together...we've just got a little "thing" going and I just want to spend some time with him to see if that's all it is. LOL Nawty monkeys :biggrin:

Surprises are great so I might consider it! You think an evening in London might be good?

Thanks again! :biggrin:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

blissy

Loving the way the museum was dull but the preserved steam railway was amazing :biggrin:

Trains are fun and remind me of childhood :redface:

What do you think Blissy? Any ideas?

Reply 6

JC.

19

englishstudent

Yeah. GeeeeeEEEEEEEEeeeeeeeek! :p:

Hey!

Actually, she was more excited than me. Never seen a steam engine before. She had a very sheltered childhood, bless her. :frown:

Reply 7

blissy

15

Hmmm, well I have limited experience. When I met up with my now bf we went for a walk around the city (he hadn't been before) and then it just went pub, dinner, my room ...

I'd say go somewhere YOU know and show him around - it's like sharing something really nice - and then give it the opportunity to grow into something else. :biggrin:

It's nice to discover things together, but doing a bit of a tour is quite fun for an early date.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

blissy

Hmmm, well I have limited experience. When I met up with my now bf we went for a walk around the city (he hadn't been before) and then it just went pub, dinner, my room ...

I'd say go somewhere YOU know and show him around - it's like sharing something really nice - and then give it the opportunity to grow into something else. :biggrin:

It's nice to discover things together, but doing a bit of a tour is quite fun for an early date.

Awww thanks Blissy...that sounds nice :biggrin:

I would do that if I knew anywhere myself...LOL. Maybe a little trip round London is in order. Do you think its a good idea NOT to tell him where we are going in advance? Do guys like surprises?

I'm new to all this :redface:

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

blissy

Hmmm, well I have limited experience. When I met up with my now bf we went for a walk around the city (he hadn't been before) and then it just went pub, dinner, my room ...I'd say go somewhere YOU know and show him around - it's like sharing something really nice - and then give it the opportunity to grow into something else. :biggrin:

It's nice to discover things together, but doing a bit of a tour is quite fun for an early date.

Hehe...

Reply 10

JC.

19

Anonymous

Do guys like surprises?

Yes, yes we do. :biggrin:

Only good ones though... like... "i found a fiver" um... bad ones like er... "was that your cat we just hit" are a bit of a no-no. :p:

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

The circus.

Reply 12

anjurdsg

11

i have a tip: save your breath.

Reply 13

anjurdsg

11

Anonymous

Do guys like surprises?

Guys like to know that they are in control. Dont surprise him with something that will throw him off the control. :s-smilie:

I cant stress on it enough.

Like last time I was out with a girl to a movie and she offered to pay for my movie and pop-corn. I kinda wobbled at that. Yeah, it was nice of her, but I would have liked it if we both paid for ourselves.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

JC.

Yes, yes we do. :biggrin:

Only good ones though... like... "i found a fiver" um... bad ones like er... "was that your cat we just hit" are a bit of a no-no. :p:

Ooo okay!

Haha you're funny!!! :biggrin:

I'm trying to take things easy and not seem too keen. I'm so nervous and excited....grrr

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

anjurdsg

Guys like to know that they are in control. Dont surprise him with something that will throw him off the control. :s-smilie:

I cant stress on it enough.

Like last time I was out with a girl to a movie and she offered to pay for my movie and pop-corn. I kinda wobbled at that. Yeah, it was nice of her, but I would have liked it if we both paid for ourselves.

Haha I wasnt about to spring anything on him like that. Maybe just offer a few suggestions and see what he thinks about it. I just don't want there to be any pressure or anything and formalities. Just a little link/ hook up/ meeting...

:rolleyes:

So how would I go letting him know that he has the 'control'?

Reply 16

prettyblueeyes

13

Walk along the river Thames if you're in London! Then you can choose from loads of other things.. have a look round some shops, have a drink, a coffee, get something to eat, get on a boat.. that way there are loads of possibilities if it gets a bit boring, but equally as easy just to spend time walking and talking. It's one of my favourite things to do with my boyfriend.

Edit: he'll be able to be in control by saying where you should go, where you stop to eat etc.

Reply 17

Ickletooth

JC.

Bad ones:
Safari park - fecking monkeys stole my arial :frown:

Cinema (she jumped and threw about half a litre of coke down me) lol
Museum! tedium :/

Well there goes my suggestion! :redface:

Reply 18

Overmars

17

Go bowling! Always the safest option.....

EDIT: This way for the 'let him know he's in control thing' you can pretend to be crap at it, and he can show you how to do it and be all manly :yy:

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

prettyblueeyes

Walk along the river Thames if you're in London! Then you can choose from loads of other things.. have a look round some shops, have a drink, a coffee, get something to eat, get on a boat.. that way there are loads of possibilities if it gets a bit boring, but equally as easy just to spend time walking and talking. It's one of my favourite things to do with my boyfriend.

Edit: he'll be able to be in control by saying where you should go, where you stop to eat etc.

Thanks prettyblueeyes! That sounds like an idea...and there's no (added) pressure or formalities like opening doors and pulling out chairs so early on.

Okay so now I have to ask him! :s-smilie:

Wish me luck! :s-smilie: