What should I do?

Ok this may seem silly to some of you but oh well.

My best friend fancies a guy, they have only talked a couple of times but she's liked him for ages. He doesn't know about aforementioned fancying.

I met him last night, chatted for about 1/2 hour and this morning he added me on facebook and then msn. We have just talked on msn for literally 6 hours, and we get on really well, have the same interests in books, languages, music, art etc, and a similar sense of humour.

All the time I was chatting to him, my friend was saying "Are you talking to him? What's he saying?" and he was not replying to her messages but was replying to mine. I now quite like him (a lot.)

Is it wrong for me to continue chatting and flirting with him, considering that my friend "saw him first"? I have completely downplayed the amount me and the guy have been talking so far (either way 6hrs is obsessive and weird, I know lol) Or should I just resolve myself to be friends with him and let my friend have a shot?

Thank you xxx

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bronsonbear

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Anonymous

Ok this may seem silly to some of you but oh well.

My best friend fancies a guy, they have only talked a couple of times but she's liked him for ages. He doesn't know about aforementioned fancying.

I met him last night, chatted for about 1/2 hour and this morning he added me on facebook and then msn. We have just talked on msn for literally 6 hours, and we get on really well, have the same interests in books, languages, music, art etc, and a similar sense of humour.

All the time I was chatting to him, my friend was saying "Are you talking to him? What's he saying?" and he was not replying to her messages but was replying to mine. I now quite like him (a lot.)

Is it wrong for me to continue chatting and flirting with him, considering that my friend "saw him first"? I have completely downplayed the amount me and the guy have been talking so far (either way 6hrs is obsessive and weird, I know lol) Or should I just resolve myself to be friends with him and let my friend have a shot?

Thank you xxx

She will be absolutely gutted to put it mildly and will find it hard to forgive you if you go ahead with it, even though it might not seem fair. I'd be honest with her.
tell her that you quite like him, but if she finds that too hard are prepared to back off. And mean it. No guy is worth a friendship!

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CharleeB

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Ooo tricky one. I think staying clear is probably the best option. You could talk to her about it, but she might feel obligated to say she's ok with it and feel uncomfortable later if you guys do get together. Or, on the other hand, she could say no and you resent her for it later. It just seems messy. It doesn't sound like she's got much chance with him and it might not seem fair, but I can't really see a scenario where it would work out (unless she is super super nice and doesn't like him much anyway).

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