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suicide

one of my friends has just commited suicide. he was so young and this has come as a complete shock, i had no idea he was feeling so depressed. I really dont know what to do and any words of advice would be great right now. :frown:

Reply 1

James

I'm really sorry to hear that. The best thing you can do is be really supportive of everyone, especially his friends and relatives; this will be particularly hard for them. Don't try to keep to yourself about it; everyone will be feeling the same way, and although it's difficult you will probably feel better by sharing your feelings.

Remember what a wonderful person he was. By all means, miss him. But do move on with your life, and try your best to 'get over' this tragedy.

You can always call Childline or the Samaritans (the latter irrespective of your age), and don't hesitate to see a counsellor if you think that will help.

Again, I'm really sorry.

Reply 2

FroggieFrog

Stick together, you and his friends aswell as his family is all experiencing the same grief. You can learn to cope without him together.

Ring a helpline if you dont feel you can talk to anyone you know, they'll be able to put you in touch with a counsellor if you feel it would be beneficial for you to talk to someone.

Reply 3

Jonatan

Find someone you can trsut and talk to about it. I've had my fair share of difficult times in my life, and trust me, it doesn't get better from keeping it to yourself.

Reply 4

FarahPearls

It's very sad to hear that, and I hope that as time goes on the wounds will slowly begin to heal. This is the time to grieve, let yourself cry, talk etc. What leads to such situations is keeping things to oneself and not having any sort of outlet. And don't blame yourself for the fact that he was feeling depressed, some people are great at concealing.

take care

Reply 5

wackysparkle

i am sorry to hear that
i would suggest that you do "move on" as many people have already said, and don't feel guilty about that as i am sure he would want you to live your life + don't ever feel guilty that you didn't know he was feeling depressed, i am sure he didn't tell you as he didn't want you to worry about him
live your life, remmeber him + the good times - and don't worry you will never lose him, you will always have the memories

Reply 6

Schmokie Dragon

I know someone who commited suicide at the age of 11.

This is a real tragedy but don't fall into the trap of thinking you could have prevented it. It was not your fault, just remember that. Talk to your mutual friends about it, keep close to his family. Everyone needs lots of support right now, and often supporting other people can help you deal with things like this.

Reply 7

sidi

So sorry to hear this terrible news. You don't have to 'do' anything, just take one day at a time. People grieve in different ways and at different times. Don't expect other people to be at the same stage that you are. The only advice I would give is not to bottle up your feelings: cry, scream, throw things, whatever. And talk about your friend, remember the good times and keep your memories alive.
SOBS (survivors of bereavement by suicide) deal mainly with relations I believe but may be able to offer you some support.
Take comfort in the fact that whatever pain caused him to do this is now finished.