Another uni house-sharing dilemma!

Please give your advice! I'll make a summary at the bottom as this has become a long post, but if you want all the detail, please read it all!:

Myself & my best friend (both girls) decided we wanted to live together for our next year at uni, but wanted to find other people who would live with us as well (just in case we drive each other crazy!)

We found a 4 bedroomed flat that will only become available to put our names down for next Monday (we are currently all on holiday after exams).

We had asked a male friend before we went on holiday, but he kind of messed us around (talked to other people about moving in with them as well etc) & nothing ever got sorted before we had finished our exams & left. So I recently emailed two girls if they wanted to share with my best friend & I - one of them responded saying that she was interested, but the other one didn't, even though I know that the two girls have been talking about it & I think she does want to share with us.

This is the complicated part - my best friend emailed our male friend to ask if he definitely didn't want to share with us (& a 4th person), because we didn't want it to look like we had gone behind his back asking the two girls (& we thought he would say NO anyway), & now he tells us that he DOES want to move in with us. However, he won't be back at uni next Monday, when the flat becomes available, so if we can't get the one we want, he won't be there to look for others.

We'd rather share with the two girls than our male friend (he's messed us around, he won't be here when we need to decide, easier with bathrooms etc), but how do we say this to him & stay friends?

Summary: Best friend & I found 4-bedroomed flat for uni next year. Asked one male friend, but he messed us around & now we've all gone back home for holiday. Instead, we asked two girls, who we think want to share with us, but now, our male friend says that he DOES want to share with us & a 4th person. We'd rather share with the two girls, how can we tell him? Are we being unfair?

Reply 1

*starry_eyed_*

Just be straight with him, tell him he's messed you around and that you're decided now. I'm sure he won't be too hurt, I've had to do the same thing and he took it ok :smile:

Reply 2

Segat1

Yep, ditto, say too late mate.

Reply 3

goodmen

To put it nice

**** him

Reply 4

Melissa85

Be straight up - its the gentlest way. It's easier living with all girls as well imo.

Does he really wanna be the only guy among 3 girls? It's not as glamourous as it seems.

Reply 5

Vohamanah

Yeah, I bet you can never get in the bathroom in the morning! And the fridge will be too full of girly drinks to fit his cans of lager in :biggrin:

Anyways, I was planning to live with a friend from halls, but she had her heart set on somewhere a good way out of uni that I just couldn't afford. I asked her what she wanted to do and she pretty much said she was going to live there with or without me. Some of my other friends were off to look at a house the next day so they asked me to go with them (even though its a 3 bed and there were 3 of them already) and I moved in with them. One of them studied abroad for a semester, so another got a house with some other friends for the 1st semester, then moved in properly when the other had gone.

Thats was mostly down to luck though. I'd have been lost if they hadn't let me share with them! :eek:

Reply 6

FroggieFrog

Just tell him straight, that you made plans with other people as he was messing you about. If he starts getting annoyed/ upset or tries to make you feel guilty then say that it probably wouldnt have been the best idea for him to live with three girls anyway. It might sound fantastic but i cant imagine wanting to share a house with three guys so i'm sure he'd have got annoyed with living with just girls after a couple of weeks!!

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