How Often?????

my bf lives 5 mins away but will only see me twice a week. i know this could be a good thing coz we're not spending too much time with eachother etc. but in another way i wish that i could see him more often coz i just feel as though he never wants to see me. when we do see eachother, we just go out with our friends & we're rarely ever alone but i don't wanna talk to him about it incase he thinks i'm being too clingy or something. what does everone else think of this arrangement?

Reply 1

crankycaz

I'd love it if my bf was only 5 mins away, I'd probably end up seeing him most days, even if it was only to pop in after school for 10 minutes. I'd talk to him about this...

Reply 2

You only see him twice a week and you barely spend any time together? Are you sure he's your boyfriend?

Reply 3

pollystyrene07

well he's supposed to be. he confuses me though coz he tells me he luvs me & stuff but then last night he said he doesn't want anything too serious which is understandable coz of our age but i think seeing someone your meant to be in a relationship with twice a week is a bit too casual.

Reply 4

dita_parlo

My boyfriend lives in my street and we see each other mostly everyday; sometimes I do worry we spend too much time together, but then I think that we enjoy each others company, and if we weren't together we'd just be sat at home bored out of our minds, so why not pop round? Talk to your boyfriend. It's not clingy to want to spend time together! Group dates are fun and all, but you need alone time as well.

Reply 5

Enchanté

pollystyrene07

How old are you then? :s:

Reply 6

Trigger

how old are you?

Reply 7

pollystyrene07

hes nearly 19, i'm nearly 20

Reply 8

hugatree

That's old enough to not act childish and say it's casual. :confused:

You're supposed to WANT a relationship to be for longer. Your bf is weird. :p:

Reply 9

Enchanté

Aren't things supposed to be more serious around that age? :s:

when you said that sounded you were 14/15.

Reply 10

Trigger

have cake and eat it springs to mind

Reply 11

pollystyrene07

he hasn't had many gfs though & not meaning to sound nasty or anything but he's slightly immature for his age as well so maybe thts got something to do with it.

Reply 12

Notebooksecrets

pollystyrene07

he hasn't had many gfs though & not meaning to sound nasty or anything but he's slightly immature for his age as well so maybe thts got something to do with it.

I don't think that's an excuse really. At 19/20 you guys should be expecting a proper relationship rather than group dates twice a week. It doesn't sound like much of a relationship to me. Sounds more like he's just with you for the sake of having a girlfriend.

Reply 13

A is for Awesome

He might be gay?

Reply 14

Draculara

sounds a bit harsh to me. "Sorry honey, but you have had your 'two visits a week' ration this week. No, we cannot see each other until tuesday." Nice.

Reply 15

JC.

You aught to be greatful.
If I want to see my g/f its a 260 mile / 6 hour round trip.
I get to see her about once a month. I live on soup and toast when I can be bothered to eat so I can pay for petrol to go and see her as that is £100 a time.
Some people don't realise how lucky they have it. Twice a week to me would be the best thing ever. /rant.

Reply 16

Sugar_Puff_Fairy

I agree, with JC in that some people don't know how lucky they are, as my boyfriend works away (Germany), so like I haven't seen him for four weeks so far, and he's not on leave again til end of next month (SOB!!) But I mean it in a different way I think, coz the OP's boyfriend doesn't know how lucky he is! My bloke would love to always be at home, when he's a 2 minute drive away, and it's so hard to be away from eachother, which is why it always amazes me when people don't appreciate how easy they've got it! I'm not saying he should spend 24 hours a day with you or anything like that, but he should decide if he wants a relationship or just another mate, coz that sounds like what you are atm. I am nearly 20, and my bf's nearly 21 and we have got a serious, long-term relationship, but even if I was with someone else, group dates twice a week just wouldn't be good enough!
Talk to him, tell him what you want from your relationship!!