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I'm obsessed with my teacher

There's a science teacher at my school who started at the beginning of this academic year, and ever since I met him I've been completely obsessed with him. We have two chemistry lessons a week in his classroom, and I always arrive early and leave as late as possible so as to spend more time with him. Sometimes, he sits and watches our lessons, so I make sure I revise what we're going to do before the lesson, so that he thinks I'm espeically bright. If I see him around school, I'll ditch my friends to go and walk near him, or I'll go over and ask him a chemistry question. My form group is across the corridor from his, so I always pretend to my tutor that I need to borrow a chair or ask someone in his form something, and go into his room.

To start with I thought I was being quite discreet about my feelings towards this teacher (who is in his mid-twenties, I think, whereas I am almost sixteen), but now my feelings are getting stronger, and my friends have all clicked on. The trouble is, every now and again one of them tells somebody else, and I'm scared that eventually this teacher will find out. My friend's boyfriend is taught by him, and the other day he started asking him personal questions, like whether he is married- it turns out he is engaged.

I am a real teacher's pet in school, and if it leaked out that I fancied him it would destroy my reputation and I would not be able to return to school.

I have memorised his timetable and his places on the breaktime and detentions rota, and I stand outside the hall and watch him when he is on detention duty.

He doesn't teach me, but I'm fairly sure that he knows who I am by now.

Please help me- any advice, questions, comments, anything- because I don't know what to do about it.

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Reply 1
I made myself post the above non-anonomously...I thought it was in step towards forcing myself to stop thinking like this.
omg wow ive never 'met' a stalker before hahahaa kk seriously now u've just gotta try to avoid him at all costs, u'll feel worse when he or someone finds out n embarrasses u trust me. i think most people go through 'liking' a person of authority once in their lives. you can reward yourself by flirting once in a while :P
Reply 3
smilingmaniac
There's a science teacher at my school who started at the beginning of this academic year, and ever since I met him I've been completely obsessed with him. We have two chemistry lessons a week in his classroom, and I always arrive early and leave as late as possible so as to spend more time with him. Sometimes, he sits and watches our lessons, so I make sure I revise what we're going to do before the lesson, so that he thinks I'm espeically bright. If I see him around school, I'll ditch my friends to go and walk near him, or I'll go over and ask him a chemistry question. My form group is across the corridor from his, so I always pretend to my tutor that I need to borrow a chair or ask someone in his form something, and go into his room.

To start with I thought I was being quite discreet about my feelings towards this teacher (who is in his mid-twenties, I think, whereas I am almost sixteen), but now my feelings are getting stronger, and my friends have all clicked on. The trouble is, every now and again one of them tells somebody else, and I'm scared that eventually this teacher will find out. My friend's boyfriend is taught by him, and the other day he started asking him personal questions, like whether he is married- it turns out he is engaged.

I am a real teacher's pet in school, and if it leaked out that I fancied him it would destroy my reputation and I would not be able to return to school.

I have memorised his timetable and his places on the breaktime and detentions rota, and I stand outside the hall and watch him when he is on detention duty.

He doesn't teach me, but I'm fairly sure that he knows who I am by now.

Please help me- any advice, questions, comments, anything- because I don't know what to do about it.

it he very older then you ?
Been there, done that. I was obsessed with my science teacher in year 8. But you do get over it, I shudder with revulsion now at the thought that I used to fancy him. Avoidance is a good idea (and moving on to someone my own age- that got me over it) :biggrin:
Reply 5
but i would still want to be friends with him. He's a good teacher.
yeah, i'd just try and keep your dist for a bit, imho it is v obvious when people have a big crush, i have seen it quite a few times... nowt wrong with a bit of gentle flirting though sometimes, we upper sixth form lot do that with most of our male teachers i would say!

do you actually know him at all or not?! i mean, have you actually chatted to him a lot?! if you havent, are you sure hes not just this mysterious enigma, and once you properly get to know him, all feelings will cease?!
i was in the same situation but with a trainee..then he left.
and i realised nothing would ever happen..too big an age gap and it's against "teacher rules"
Reply 8
i talk to him a fair bit. But only about chemistry and school life. If it will stop my obsession I will try and make myself steer clear- but since he usually talks to me, will this seem stranger, and will he be offended that I'm ignoring him?
if he actually talks to you, i would just talk back and enjoy having a good relationship with him... BUT, do not go out of your way to talk to him yourself, i.e. dont go after him...
ohh..so I'm not the only one..I have this teacher who teaches me a main subject in my school so I see him often..he's just so cute,his hair, everything about him...he used to teach us 2 years ago(not last year) and of course I thought the same I do now but this is a different situation..I'll be 19 pretty soon, and he is 31. I'm not a teacher's pet at all..but he..is different with me, compared to the other girls..I could even not study and I know I'll have a good grade, and he's always so kind with me..we always laugh together. We went on a school trip for a couple of days and he just was so different with me..I don't know how to explain,but he kind of acts like he is interested in me as well..At first, of course I thought it was just my imagination, but now even my friends noticed it..but everytime we get a little bit too closer or alone he goes away..probably because he does understand (maybe better than me)the situation..i'm a senior,i'm graduating, I shouldn't think about him,he has a kid..(not engaged not married..i don't think she is his girlfriend..)..

anyway is common to have a crash on your teacher, i guess
right...thanks. Do you think he's likely to realise that I am obsessed with him?

The thing that actually made me post this thread was that today at school my friend threatened to sit down and tell him that I "like" him. She's done this before too-when I was going out with a teacher's son, she went to see this teacher one afternoon and told him that she thought the close relationship between me and the teacher as a result of me going out with her son, was hindering my learning or something like that. The teacher didn't stop me seeing her son, but I had to go for various "little chats" with my head of year about how seeing too much of a person or teacher could upset other people. So basically, I think my friend is perfectly capable of telling him.
Reply 12
haha this reminds me of me in year 10. i was obsessed with my maths teacher. used to sit in the canteen staring at him, then occasionally sighs and say "he's sooooooo adorable" to my friends who were completely werid out.

anyway, i got over him because:
1. he grew a not-so-nice set of beard
2. i convinced myself nothing was going to happen between me and him, so what was the point of still being obsessed with him...?
3. i got myself a boyfriend

not sure if i helped much, but just wanted to share my story :smile:
I'm over him..but just..I kind of think it might happen something between us after graduation(not before)...so I don't know..is this the same for you?
Reply 14
Ok, if you're a teachers pet and he hears you fancy him, he'll probably brush it off as just general roumers. On the other hand, you're ****ing stalking him! You know where he'll be every minute of the day, you ditch your friends to watch him. What the ****? Sort it out really and stop stalking him.
i am perfectly aware that nothing will happen, and, until two weeks ago, i had a boyfriend.

you may or may not be pleased to hear that i have decided something: instead of carrying out my obsessive acts, i will write about them in a book instead. i remember going to a self-help talk with a friend once, and she basically said (this is my own example, btw) "if you feel like sitting outside someone's window and watching them mark books and eat their lunch, don't do it, just go away and write about having done it". I don't know why i suddenly remembered that, but i have a real feeling that it might work!
Did you leave your boyfriend because of the teacher?

Or, more likely, did your boyfriend leave you because of the teacher?
We just split up. It was a mutual thing. I had told him that I fancied the teacher and he seemed okay with that. But I guess the fact that I also fancied this teacher made me realise that I obviously wasn't dedicated to my ex enough to maintain a (reasonably) serious relationship- we had been seeing each other for just over a year.
Reply 18
I've got a pretty unhealthy fixation on a lecturer at the moment. It's still fun for me though.
Reply 19
smilingmaniac


I have memorised his timetable and his places on the breaktime and detentions rota, and I stand outside the hall and watch him when he is on detention duty.



haha ... it's called a school girl crush, thats all ...