Push him away?

I like this person, and im sure he likes me too, but im afraid i maybe misleading? him. Thing is theres something wrong with me, he doesn't know, I have like a scar/hyperpigmentation on the side of my face luckily i can cover it so i look like an average girl.
From the impression i get off him, he doesn't seem to care if he slags off ugly people/pays alot of attention to looks. If he knew about that, then im pretty sure he wouldn't like me and wouldn't want to talk to me ever again. :frown:

Should i just push him away? (other complications we both know of, also dictates that theres never really going to be anything serious between us).

Reply 1

g2da3

11

interesting nah dont push him away mess with him for a while i say and ask him questions for example what do you look in finding a girl and ONLY if the first thing he says is Looks THEN OMDAYS PUSH HIM OFFFFFF :smile:

Reply 2

Melissa85

To be honest a lot of people just criticise other people's looks for something to talk about/ slag off ugly people to feel better about themselves. I know I do it sometimes but it doesn't mean I'm looks obssesed or would be unable to understand another persons situation. He's prob the same

Your situation is a very tough one and you could prob do one of 3 things.

1. Tell him and take the chance that he might reject you as the early stages of most relationships are lust fuelled. You could either make a big deal of it or show him your at ease with it in yourself. One of my friends has alopecia and wears a wig. She's never short of men, but she tells them earlyish on in the relationship but never makes a big deal of it, although I know she hates it and gets upset about it sometimes.

2. Wait until the two of you get closer and then tell him once you think his feelings are stronger than lust. Prob with this he might percieve not telling as a lie and this may break you up.

3. Not bother with him and prevent yourself from the possibility of getting hurt.

Reply 3

jakjak

i'd risk it for a biscuit. sorry........ if you really like him then tell him/show him, if he freaks he's not worth it and you've saved yourself pain in the long run.

if hes cool with it then i think you've got a keeper lol :smile:

Reply 4

Yoda

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Anonymous

I like this person, and im sure he likes me too, but im afraid i maybe misleading? him. Thing is theres something wrong with me, he doesn't know, I have like a scar/hyperpigmentation on the side of my face luckily i can cover it so i look like an average girl.
From the impression i get off him, he doesn't seem to care if he slags off ugly people/pays alot of attention to looks. If he knew about that, then im pretty sure he wouldn't like me and wouldn't want to talk to me ever again. :frown:

Should i just push him away? (other complications we both know of, also dictates that theres never really going to be anything serious between us).

To me, it sounds as though him slagging off ugly girls is just for show. To be honest, he probably doesn't mind ugly girls if his friends don't find out. On the other hand, he might get a little close to you but slag you off to his friends the next day.

Reply 5

jakjak

Yoda

To me, it sounds as though him slagging off ugly girls is just for show. To be honest, he probably doesn't mind ugly girls if his friends don't find out. On the other hand, he might get a little close to you but slag you off to his friends the next day.

right, so you're implying that shes ugly?

IN FACT, do you yourself think that you're ugly? i know what its like coming to terms with scaring and that sort of thing. i've been there. perhaps you should just stop hiding it.

this guy of yours has been slagging off "ugly" girls....... what your worried about is him coping with a scar/condition, yes? totally different things

Push him away?

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