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How fast..

sure there's bin many posts on this, jst wondered how quickly people hv found things move when they r in relationships? I know it varies, but how long did u normally find before things went further than say kissing? thanx

Reply 1

Subbacultcha

erm, current bf, i know it sounds bad :redface:

but we "got together" and did some things (not sex) before we started "going out" as such...

as for oral, took about a week (we'd been "close" for about a month before going out) and as for sex, took four months, we have now been together 2 years, so theres my timescale for you. :p:

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

my girlfriend and i were together for a month before we first had sex, and we've been together over two years now.

Reply 3

floss

okay.. so don't call me a whore or neg rep me because i'm just giving my opinion her and at least i'm being honest.. the guy i'm technically with i had sex with after 3 days but that was because of the immediate bond we had.. i would never have done that normally but it felt right..

we've been together just off three months but we've back-tracked a lot and we've not had sex in about 2 months with us both being ill, going home for christmas and generally choosing to get to know each other as people instead of just having sex..

xx

Reply 4

Yoda

Probably should've gone anonymous for that one.

Reply 5

ItalianSam

with my ex it took us a month to have sex, but we were close old friends attracted to each other before that..so we kissed on our first date..but just because i knew him so well ;-)

Reply 6

Anonymous #3

My first girlfriend, we were both virgins. We'd been dating for about a month before we went beyond kissing, about 2 1/2 before we had oral sex, and we'd been dating for 7 months when we first had sex. Dated for a little over a year after that.

Now, I've had one casual partner who I had sex with when we weren't in a relationship. We never got into a relationship.

My current girlfriend, I guess it was about 2 weeks? Maybe not even quite that. It just felt right at the time. We're coming up on 4 months now. It really depends on how experienced you both are and how close you are to each other. If either of you is a virgin or younger than about 16, you'll probably wait longer than more experienced/older people.

Reply 7

Anonymous #4

Well, with my ex boyfriend (we're talking about.. 3 years ago now) it took us 3 months to even kiss =| which was so weird.. He was incredibly shy.

My current boyfriend; We got to know each other from May of 05 (i can't be arsed to do all the maths, so i'll just list the dates) went out in august, and did stuff the night we got together. didn't do oral for a while, as he decided that he wanted to have a non sexual relationship for a while. Consequently, we haven't had sex yet. But it's ok :smile:

as we're planning to soon.
Also, it means that we know each other inside out after the hours spent talking instead of shagging.

Reply 8

need_money

This won't make me look good but I had sex with my current bf before we were actually going out. We were just sort of like "kissing partners" when we were all out drinking and stuff and one night it lead on from there when we had a bit to drink. The next day, admittedly, was a bit awkward. We had always been like best friends before we had even kissed and when we were just kissing it was already awkward but somehow it would always end up happening. After that once though we never did it again until about 3 weeks later (about 2 weeks after we started going out).

Reply 9

The Albatross

hmm
With current (and first) bf it took us 2/3 weeks. He was extremely inexperienced and I a virgin. Neither pushed the other though, it just felt right. Oral took us a bit longer, maybe about a month.

Lots of threads on this though - run a search for more opinions.

And there really is no prescriptive formula. Just do what feels right for you both. :smile:

Reply 10

Impossible princess

About two weeks from officially going out before it went "further than kissing" with my fella.

Reply 11

Anonymous #5

with my current and first boyfriend, it was just over 7 months before we actually had sex, did other things kind of gradually introducing more from about 3 months i think - can't quite remember exactly

Reply 12

Purple-Sparkle

I was with my previous boyfriend 3 months before we had sex (I was a virgin so didn't know what to expect). It took us about 3-4 weeks before we got physical and then gradually built up to sex. Been with my current boyfriend just over 2 weeks. haven't had full sex yet but have gone further then kissing...plan to wait a bit longer before having full sex.

Reply 13

Anonymous #6

I met my bf in 2005. we started kissing after 1 month. we then started to touch after 6 months as i kinda have issues as my ex used to assualt me.

Last autumn term i started to do oral and undress.

We are now planning to have sex this valentine's day. So its really your choice u dont need to rush just take your time