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Getting over my boyfriend but we still live in our uni flat together

I broke up with my boyfriend nearly 2 weeks ago because he cheated on me. We had a long talk and both realised we're not really compatible but despite this i can't work out why i'm still feeling sad :frown:

We're both at uni in our 1st year and unfortunately living in the same flat so i'm finding moving on ever so difficult... I still see him everyday and he wants us to go back to being friends like we were before we got together a couple of months ago... I can't move past the feeling of rejection though so becoming his friend once again is like being demoted.

I'm just finding it so hard and i miss the physical comfortableness of him and of the relationship... I'm so scared of starting again this term without him, he was a security blanket and now i have to go and meet new people all over again and become independent and it's really scaring me :frown:

Anyone give me any advice or suggestions for getting over him?

Reply 1

always + forever

1

Living with your ex is definately going to be a difficult situation! I guess you live with other people too? From your post it seems you haven't started term yet - when you go back, throw yourself into your work, your societies, your other friends. By the second term, people aren't in as fixed as social groups as you think: just because certain people weren't your good friends before you left for xmas, doesn't mean they won't be in six months.

It's completely natural that you feel sad about the end of your relationship - you just have to concentrate on moving on. Remember that the relationship is over for a good reason. Oh, and don't beat yourself up about feeling sorry about it sometimes, it's completely natural and with time will fade. Hope you manage to work it all out.

Reply 2

Lalli

its going to be hard to get over it seeing as you both live together but look at it this way, theres only one term left right.. not long before exams start aswell, just concentrate on ya studies, go out have a good time, have some fun, you cnt always rely on a relationship.. you never knw which way they go no matter how much u tell urself "this is forever"

try and move on its the best way really

Reply 3

hippieglitter

19

I'm not saying this is a good idea, but a girl i knew got over her ex by sleeping with the guy who lived opposite him.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Well that's what you get for going out with somebody in your flat. That's like the first rule of dating: DON'T do it with a flatmate!

Reply 5

ISH

9

hippieglitter

I'm not saying this is a good idea

It is if you're the guy opposite him... :p:

Reply 6

kaleidoscope42

it's just a matter of time, really. i would invite some friends out from my course or a uni society and just go out and have a laugh doing what girls do :smile:

failing that have a girly night in!

Reply 7

Lofty

13

Anonymous

Well that's what you get for going out with somebody in your flat. That's like the first rule of dating: DON'T do it with a flatmate!

Yup! If i knew who you were i'd rep... why was it Anon anyway?

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

The thought of independence is way way more scary than the independence itself.

Reply 9

purple_octopus

OP

Apart from a couple of posts... what awful, judgemental, unsupportive advice...

I didn't ask for an opinion or judgement on my situation. With hindsight yes it was an awful idea to date a flatmate but i fell in love with him at the time and love is blinding... I made a mistake but i was looking for advice for my current problem which is ways to move on.

Thanks a lot TSR

Reply 10

lollipopsticks

1

i broke up with my bf 2 weeks ago because he wanted 'space' but we were together a year.miss him ring him or still see him everyday even slept with him after we broke up.this is the first day i havent txt him...its hard :frown:

Reply 11

TheShrimp

5

I agree that you should try spending more time with your friends (particularly girlfriends). This way it may help you get him off your mind if you're having just as much fun! Try retail therapy, going to the cinema with friends etc.

Good luck!

Getting over my boyfriend but we still live in our uni flat together

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